Is there a way to make sex less painful with a large man?

becky1011

Well, i have had 2 sexual partners before and they were about the average size of a male, my new boyfriend is more than average and it is very painful to have sex with him, he also made me bleed..

Is there a way so make it less painful?
Will i bleed again the next time?

Thank you
Bex

BabyIndia

Try getting on top of him that way you decide how much you have kinda thing.

AmazonQueen

make sure you are aroused enough before you start maybe try streching yourself out a little first idk how you would do that...but yeah, just go slowly and take your time

TheCrowing

Perhaps like.. extra lube? Or JamieRage said, make sure you're aroused enough. You should talk to him about it and see if he can maybe do something different so it is less painful?

Glitter.

Hey there,

It sounds like you need lots and lots of lube. I heard that water based lubes are better for you, or less messy. I am not sure if that is true. However, I know that a lot of lube will make things TONS better. Also, foreplay can really help. That has helped me in the past. if you are unsure of what foreplay is, then google is your friend.

Hope I helped!

Dee Kaur

Slow and steady wins the race.....Make that your boyfriends new mantra. The average woman is only 5 inches deep so when you think of that and then compare it to a larger than average man, it's pretty painful.

Sex can't be rushed for you and penetration needs to be almost the last thing that happens. Most men love to hear about how big they are so I would talk to your boyfriend, explain how painful and uncomfortable you find it but also tell him that you love that intimacy with him so you need to find a way to make it enjoyable for you.

Make time for foreplay, the more the better, it'll heighten your levels or arousal, release natural lubrication and relax you which is very important. As other lovely members have suggested, using an actual lube is also a good idea. Get your boyfriend to stimulate you with his fingers and perhaps even oral sex. When it comes to penetration he must, MUST go in very slow, you could actually hold his penis and control how much you take in at a time. Small amount, stop, deep breaths and then another small amount etc etc....Get him to build his pace really slowly and keep it steady, he needs to understand how painful this is for you and for that reason he needs to control how quickly he moves. Bleeding during sex (unless you're a virgin) is not good. It can lead to internal tearing which can then lead to scar tissue and sometimes even infections, not to mention the sheer pain and ongoing discomfort of it.

It may sound boring but use the missionary position, it'll allow you to accomodate him without him getting too deep which until you're used to his size will be better. You getting on top or him getting behind and so on will allow for deeper penetration so be careful if you do decide to go down that route.

DanceCommander

If your natural lubrication isn't enough, then using extra store-bought lube should make things a little less painful. Also, avoid positions like doggy style or variations thereof, which shorten the length of the vagina. Try position in which you are in control, like girl on top. Above all, remember to go SLOW. The vagina is a muscle; it can take time to warm up enough to let something all the way in. Don't push it just because it's taking awhile for him to fit himself in, no pun intended.