First time nerves

[Violet1]

Hey, I just want to ask the question, how do I get over my first time having sex nerves? I really want to do this and my boyfriend is a great guy that I trust completly, But Im just to nervours about it, everytime we talk about it, I get nervous and say no. So dose anyone have any tips for gettign over the nerves?

[Aletheia*]

Make sure your completely ready for it. By the sounds of it, your not. You keep getting nervous whenever it's even brought up. That's a sign that you should wait a little bit longer and your boyfriend will (should) respect those wishes.
However, if you really want to do it, then I suggest taking a few deep breaths and entering into some foreplay first (kissing, massages, oral sex...etc) sometime to ease the tension a bit before taking the plunge right into sex.

[Beetlejuice]

Make sure your completely ready for it. By the sounds of it, your not. You keep getting nervous whenever it's even brought up. That's a sign that you should wait a little bit longer and your boyfriend will (should) respect those wishes.
However, if you really want to do it, then I suggest taking a few deep breaths and entering into some foreplay first (kissing, massages, oral sex...etc) sometime to ease the tension a bit before taking the plunge right into sex.

I agree with this, just make sure you are completely ready and take your time, as she said, start off with some foreplay etc. I won't lie, it can be nerve wracking your first time but it can also be exhilarating and many more positive things

[Meowwings]

Honestly, these things should not be planned. Be prepared for them, yes, but sex is much more meaningful if it is spontanious, just coming from pure emotion and attraction. And if it's at random but full of emotion, the nerves will be adrenilin.

[Beetlejuice]

Honestly, these things should not be planned. Be prepared for them, yes, but sex is much more meaningful if it is spontanious, just coming from pure emotion and attraction. And if it's at random but full of emotion, the nerves will be adrenilin.

I also agree with this, if you plan it then you will worry yourself about it and think about and might not be able to go through with it whereas if you and your man are in the heat of the moment and you think you're ready then tell him and see where it goes

[Jaguar]

Everybody has a case of nerves the first time. Just be nervous and enjoy it anyway. Nervousness is part of the excitement of having sex for your first time. Don't worry about if you perform ok or not or if you think you're good looking with your clothes off or not, it's just sex so relax and enjoy the cuddling and love and affection.