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Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 01:47 AM

I like to be dominated, that turns me on a lot.its more fun.



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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 01:53 AM

Be dominated, definately ...
I kinda like being overpowered more though ... like being equal the dominated if that makes sense.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 02:33 AM

Both, but I mostly like to be dominated.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 04:29 AM

I'm willing to share the power - for example, if the person wants to switch who calls the shots - but I don't sub for anyone. I don't like anything that leaves me feeling "helpless" or out of control, and I don't like being bossed around or overpowered. I do, however, love to be in charge. I like to be the dominant partner. But I'm equally as happy sharing it equally.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 05:01 AM

Being dominated definitely like having my partner be in control
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 11:08 AM

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 11:23 AM

Be dominated. But I don't mind being a bit controlly every so often.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 12:58 PM

I love both, being dominated or doing the dominating :P but being equals is a lot of fun too ^_^


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 01:07 PM

I like to be dominated. As much as I enjoy it, it's also partly because if I was the dominate one, I probably wouldn't know what to do and wouldn't do a good job at it.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 01:21 PM

I like dominating, mwahahaha! -Insert evil smiley here.- Because in my opinion, it's so much more fun to be in control~


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 9th 2011, 10:05 PM

I'm definitely more into being dominated.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 12:32 AM

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Basically this. I'm not a good leader and hate bossing people around. But I kind of like the idea of someone else being in charge, but like others have said, I don't want to be totally helpless.



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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 04:26 AM

I haven't had sex, but I would much rather be dominated. Even when making out, I love it. I like the feeling when my boyfriend takes control. It's not as much work, but its twice the turn on haha


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 05:31 AM

I like to dominate, power play is again just yet another sensation one can tweak and play with in order to cause maximum pleasure ^^.

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 05:59 AM

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 08:31 AM

I prefer dominating as power can be a turn-on in sex and mostly everything occurs under my terms.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 12:42 PM

I like being both, but If I had to pick one I'd pick Dominated~
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 09:37 PM

I'd say both. I think being dominated is hot, and if that's the case, then I definitely want my partner to feel the same way.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 10:41 PM

Never had sex, but I'm going to have to say that after the first time, I'd probably like to dominate. Because I like feeling powerful.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 10th 2011, 11:02 PM

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 12th 2011, 03:48 AM

I equality lol it depends on the moment sometimes I like dominating sometimes my gf dominates me

Although I wish she would dominate more often lol :P


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 12th 2011, 11:07 PM

When I was sexually active, I loved being dominated. I dunno, it's kinda like a fetish for me, I guess. I'll take control if my guy wants me to, but I'm not very good at it. I prefer being held down and dominated.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 12th 2011, 11:21 PM

Being dominated scares the living shit out of me. It puts me on the brink of going through flashbacks, sometimes it even does and the entire night ends in tears or screaming or panic attacking or all of the above.

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 13th 2011, 01:29 AM

Depends on who I am with.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 13th 2011, 05:47 PM

I prefer being dominated.

Although, being dominated always makes me want to fight back a bit

So, I pretty much have to be with someone who's more dominating to bring me out of my shell so I can reach my full sexual potential haha.

My husband is really submissive, and so far it hasn't worked out very well :/ We're working on it though /sigh.


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 14th 2011, 12:40 AM

Well, I've never had sex, but I don't think I'd really like either. By that I mean that I wouldn't want to be completely dominated, but I wouldn't want to be completely in control either. I'd like sex to be kind of a give-and-take thing with mutual communication. But I'd also adjust my stance to partially accommodate what my partner wanted. So if she wanted to be dominated, I would try being dominant, and if she wanted to dominate, I would let her try to dominate somewhat (although I would not want to ever be completely helpless) and we'd see how it went.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 14th 2011, 07:38 PM

it all really depends on my mood.. usually if im really up for it, i like to dominate alot more. .
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 15th 2011, 10:28 PM

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I like feeling a bit helpless, it makes it hotter for me.
Haha I must admit I'm the same ;P I much prefer to be dominated, and awesomely enough my boyfriend is the opposite, so we're a great match


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 16th 2011, 02:20 AM

I LOVE being dominated.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 16th 2011, 02:31 AM

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 17th 2011, 11:10 PM

Be dominated. However, my partner is really shy.. And afraid to dominate, so only has the odd time xD


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 17th 2011, 11:17 PM

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 03:02 AM

I have to agree with what one person said earlier, being dominated makes me want to fight back a bit. It makes it more fun that way.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 05:04 AM

15 years old talking about how you'd rather be dominated in bed. Wow.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 05:34 AM

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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 07:00 AM

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15 years old talking about how you'd rather be dominated in bed. Wow.
Im 15 and I like to share the position if you catch my drift.

You have no right to judge, I like sex, so what? It's not as if I fuck everyone I see. So what if she likes to be dominated?


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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 05:06 PM

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I'd have to say neither. I enjoy a fair share of power in the bedroom with my partner.
Meh, guess you are right. I just find 15 a bit young for talk like that.
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 08:40 PM

Dominated. I'm usually a very independent person, so it's fun to be bossed and roughed around for a change
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 08:42 PM

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Im 15 and I like to share the position if you catch my drift.

You have no right to judge, I like sex, so what? It's not as if I fuck everyone I see. So what if she likes to be dominated?
I see no problem with talking about sex. I'm only a year older so I mean there's not much difference. I think the thing to condemn with teenage sex is the lack of using protection, rather than the act itself. So in my opinion, as long as you're using some form of protection and choose your partners wisely, you're fine! Talking about it can be healthy in some ways, too. And fun xD
   
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Re: Do you like to dominate or to be dominated during sex? - April 18th 2011, 11:16 PM

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Fair enough you have your views, but TeenHelp is a place where people of all ages comes for advice and acceptance, without judgement or discrimination. And hell, fifteen's just a number, there shouldn't be an age limit on your sexuality ;P


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