phone sex......

[MY NAME IS ERIN]

Well my "boyfriend" wants to have phone sex.
I'm a virgin....he's not. But I know I'm not ready for sex because cause I'm just not comfortable with myself enough to have sex yet. Now I love him I really do and this sounds crazy but when it comes to phone sex.....

I don't know what to do!!! Like, what do I do?? I'm kinda shy when it comes to talking about sex and stuff with guys so what do I say?? Should I just keep saying yes, or do I have to talk dirty??

I know I sound really immature but I'm totally serious. What do I do??

[AmazonQueen]

Originally Posted by WWEGIRLXDD

Well my "boyfriend" wants to have phone sex.
I'm a virgin....he's not. But I know I'm not ready for sex because cause I'm just not comfortable with myself enough to have sex yet. Now I love him I really do and this sounds crazy but when it comes to phone sex.....

I don't know what to do!!! Like, what do I do?? I'm kinda shy when it comes to talking about sex and stuff with guys so what do I say?? Should I just keep saying yes, or do I have to talk dirty??

I know I sound really immature but I'm totally serious. What do I do??

Uh I don't think we can give you tips on here. You could try google or private message me if you'd like. I'd be happy to advice you the best I can. But I really think the key thing is not to do anything you arn't comfortable with. If he's worth your time at all he won't pressure you.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Really, if you're not comfortable with it, you probably shouldn't do it.

[Aletheia*]

Hey!

Firstly, we can't give you any tips through TeenHelp. It's against the site rules. Your best bet would be to Google or Bing some tips and such. Phone sex isn't that big of a deal, and doesn't consist of vaginal or oral sex with the other person involved.

Secondly, if you're uncomfortable with the thought of phone sex, there is this little two letter word you should use. NO. If your 'boyfriend' can't deal with it, you would reevaluate your relationship with him.

[Ambiance]

Phone sex isn't really something that anyone can get comfortable or into unless they've done actual sexual things in the past; I really doubt you would be comfortable simulating something over the phone that you have no clue about (I sincerely don't mean this rudely, if you haven't done something, it goes without saying that you probably don't know much about it), and I would just tell him no. Stay in your comfort zone, especially at fourteen.

[Le bonheur*]

Don't do anything your not comfortable or familiar with. You don't seem like you even want to if you are resorting to the internet to figure out what to do/say. Take your time with these things. You have your whole life.

[asherzxd]

In a way (In my opinion) It could be like sexting.. Your just saying how u would pleasure someone. Phone sex isnt sexually touching someone, as well as sexting. It can turn someone on, but thats about it.

[Heartlines.]

I'm going to jump on the band wagon here, and just say that if you're not comfortable with this, then do not do it. It's something you'll regret. These things take time, and confidence. Meaning, don't rush into sexual activity just because you think you have to, or because you feel your boyfriend wants to. What do YOU want to do? As far as confidence goes, you need to know that you're ready for something like this. And you shouldn't even have to question it.

As far as how to do it, we can't give you graphic, in depth, over the top tips. Like others mentioned- Google works great for things like that. I feel to have successful phone sex, or sex in general, you need to know your body. Know how it reacts to things. Because phone sex is basically where you tell the other person how you would like to be pleasured and how you would like to pleasure them. You have to know what you like in order to communicate it to him.

[Kyeto-X]

WE really can't give sex advise on here. But what we can tell you is to not do anything that you are umcomfortable with. Phone sex is what it sounds like...sex through the phone. It's while it seems safer, it's actually slightly more intense because you have to think about what he is say and what you are saying at the same time, instead of just experiencing it. To say that phone sex is a step towards real sex is silly. IF you are not comfortable with your body, or with sex, then you need to tell him that.

Also, I might add that if he wants to do something that you DON'T, and he insist for some reason...take a step back and let him cool off. You don;t need to do ANYTHING in a relationship that you don't like

[Unicorn ♥✿]

But I know I'm not ready for sex because cause I'm just not comfortable with myself enough to have sex yet

Although phone sex isn't really sex... I don't think you are ready unless you are ready for real sex. It's still talking in that way, you CAN do it without have being sexually active before, but you have to be conmfertable, which is a feat :P

[LittleMiss]

I was having phone sex before I was ready to have real sex, it was like, we both acknowledged that we weren't going to have real sex and went for an alternative.

This is only really if you're not uncomfortable with the idea of sex in general but you know you're not ready.
Don't do it if it makes you feel uncomfortable or dirty or whatever but if you do feel you want to then go for it.

I know we can't give descriptive tips but my advice: Be descriptive, use a sexy voice and be confident. Also, try not to sound bored or unexcited. It's a huge turn-off.