Girl touching my D**K, help please

[Username93]

i'm 18, and a virgin, as is my girlfriend, and i have a problem i think. For a while i've been 'pleasuring' my girlfriend with my hands often for 10 minutes at a time, and i crack a hard one for a few seconds but it goes away (which i would rather than lose it then) BUT For the first time about 5 days ago, she touched my penis and in seconds I "lost" it. this has happened 4 more times with not much improvement. I'd like to know that this is normal and will pass with experience.. but i have a feeling its not, advice? anything? please be honest, thanks in advance.

[Aletheia*]

If you're worried that it might be something medical, you'd have to speak to your/a doctor about that! We aren't doctor's and can't exactly diagnosis the problem.

I'm sure a lot of it has to do with nerves. You aren't very experienced with anything like this, so you just need to relax. If you both relax, things will run smoothly. Your first time isn't going to be ideal, definitely not what you see in the movies. With practice, patience and experience I'm sure things will run a lot smoothly for you. Don't give up.

[HeartofanAngel]

Oh my, that does sound rather peculiar. Either you are very very sensitive to receiving because of inexperience or nerves in your body or you may have a condition that causes it to happen.

Or maybe you just need to relax a bit! Take things slow and try things little by little with your GF, or by yourself even, and things will ease into themselves as time goes on.

If you still have problems with it after trying to calm it down naturally, then I would surely suggest seeing your doctor and finding out anything you can. I hope it goes well for you sweetheart.

[hazza95]

Definitely relax. I agree with heart of an angel. Maybe its because she's looking at you, while shes touching you? That can create a bit of awkwardness. This can be fixed with kissing. Maybe just pop to the doctors to check, just in case. But i think you'll be fine. Good luck!

[Clitless]

Agreed, relax. My boyfriend's first time, he couldn't keep it up either, and my other male friends have had similar problems too. Once you calm down and can enjoy yourself, you'll have no issue

[Heartlines.]

The first few times of being pleasured, and doing sexual things, people are likely to tense up. Making it completely hard to keep a hard on, or to enjoy sex. So, I have to agree- relax. I'm sure what you're going through is quite normal.

Do you masturbate? I feel like if you masturbated and tried different things during masturbation, then you could learn what you like, and learn what makes you stay hard. Then, after that, teach your girlfriend how to pleasure you. I feel like that would work.

Also, you might want to consider seeing a doctor. I mean, we can only give you so much advice. But at the end of the day, we could all be wrong. So it's best to get an opinion from a doctor. They can help you figure out how to solve the problem, and make it so you can enjoy sexual things!

Good luck :]