Non-PG13 (Strong Language): Could i do more?/sex positioning issues

[Loxxi Deloxity]

Me and my boyfriend have been sexually active for nearly 6 months now and our relationship is great . But we both feel that sex is too repetitive and want to try new positions etc. Role-play is also getting repetitive. We have looked on websites but seriously the positions are bullshit and are awkward to do . Is there anything we can do that is simple for the both of us but feels good? Advice really needed!!

Also i give him satisfaction like oral sex and fingering but i wish i could find other things to do because i want to try something new. I have asked him what he likes and says he likes what i usually do and doesnt know what else he will enjoy and things ive read on sex websites and cosmopoliton magazine dont really apply to him . Help!

xx

[blumemusik♫]

Well we aren't really allowed to give pointers on here, it's against the rules.

But what I would recommend is just try different things. Experimenting is part of the fun Google is your best friend for this question.


Welcome to the site by the way!<3

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Well instead of doing new things together, maybe ask him what he wants YOU to do. Like maybe touching yourself in front of him or I dunno. Haha, my boyfriend & I haven't had this problem. If you're comfortable with it, maybe look at porn for ideas? My boyfriend watches a ton of it, so that's where I've gotten some of my ideas.

[Aletheia*]

As said, we can't give pointers here since it's against the rules.

But, trying new things is part of the fun. Sure, it might be awkward and confusing at first, but those positions you've found could be the positions you're looking for. Buy Cosmopolitan, which gives amazing pointers and lists positions for you to try. There is also their online 'zine, and website to find these pointers. But, seriously, Google is the best answer here.

As for wanting to experiment more with him such as foreplay, again, no pointers, but just ask him what he likes. He knows his body best.

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

I'd say try everything once (unless either of you really have a problem with it). Be adventurous. Use google, and then if you find something don't dismiss it straight away, give it a go.

[Loxxi Deloxity]

Tried that plus porn disgusts my boyfriend ^^''

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

I don't know what else we can say if you can't find anything on google because as others have pointed out we're not allowed to give tips.

Perhaps talk to your boyfriend about it?

[Angel]

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that women's magazines such as Cosmopolitan don't dish out the best sex advice. You're much better off learning through your own, perhaps imitating some things you see in pornography that interest you, reading up online. Get adventurous! It's much better than you'll ever do than by following a magazine.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by Angel

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that women's magazines such as Cosmopolitan don't dish out the best sex advice. You're much better off learning through your own, perhaps imitating some things you see in pornography that interest you, reading up online. Get adventurous! It's much better than you'll ever do than by following a magazine.

This. Cosmo (and any other women's magazines) is a fucking terrible source of advice for anything. The internet is far better, whether it's from porn or from other, less restrictive () internet communities.

[LittleMiss]

Ignore cosmo.
As wanky as it sounds, try buying a book about it. Try Lou Paget's books, take the psychobabble with a grain of salt but her practical advice is good.

[Kyeto-X]

I agree. Cosmo give just bad and/or dangerous advice.

The internet is your best bet. Not necessarily porn, though it is a place to start. there are thousands upon thousands of advice columns that can gives advice. Also, there are "Adult Games" with a sexual themes that can be used to add a new element of randomness and fun to sex. Most cost no more then a standard game and can be shipped discretely to your doorstep. Fetishes and simple role play are also places to explore. Some can be explored with nothing more then a costume shop, and some imagination.

The best piece of advise, though, is to talk and brainstorm with your partner, and see what ideas you can BOTH come up with. It's not just your sex life, it's both yours and your partners. Surf the net, and find some things out.

[escape_thereal_world]

It may also help to have intercourse in different places. Rather than just having it in his room, switch it up and do your room, or a living room, etc. It's small things like this that can really spice up your romance life.

Wear lingerie to spice it up beforehand. Maybe go to a sex shop and see what kind of "toys" you can get that you both can use or use on each other. Etc. As everyone else said, it's hard to really help you on this because we aren't allowed to go into details really. Try searching google for "spice up sex" or something. There has to be SOMETHING out there for you