Female Advice Preferred: Is This the Way You Do It?

[Strummer]

A girl has been giving me a handjob a couple of days a week after school. A couple of weeks ago, she sat before me and was sniffing the end of my penis as she usually does before she starts. But this time she then did something different. She began kissing the end of it several times and then shocked me when she slipped her lips down below the head and began sucking and licking. So, she proceeded to give me my first blowjob. However, for me it was very pleasing but bordering on discomfort because she was sucking so hard and licking so much on those sensitive areas around where the head joins the shaft and also around the pee hole. For you girls that give your guys blowjobs, do you do them so forcefully? Is this how they are usually done? I hesitate to say anything, as I don't want her to stop, but it's almost as if she wants to hear me moan with some discomfort as well as pleasure.

[Nicole!]

If it is causing you discomfort, then you need to talk to her about it and tell her what you like. It shouldn't be painful at all. I'm sure if you tell her she won't stop doing it, but will adjust to make it feel better for you. I don't do it that forcefully, I'm pretty gentle.

[craz33me]

Yeah, you just need to talk about it. Us girls, like for you to tell us what you like.
Or at least I do.

[The Goblins Blade]

Why are you saying its uncomfortable? I wouldent mind if a girl did that to me

[lacylovebugg]

My boyfriend never really liked blowjobs. He says he really likes mine though. I'm not mean or forcefully. I am very gentle. I know how it feels if someone is being rough with my parts and it does not feel very good. lol. Just talk to her, let her know you enjoy it, but just let her know she is doing it too hard. Let her know it is a sensitive area and it is fragile. Don't make her feel like everything she is doing is wrong or it could upset her. Tell her what you like and express how much you like it. Then tell her what you don't lie and why.


Hope this helps (:

[Aletheia*]

No. From the sounds of it, she's very inexperienced, and is deciding to use you as her first time (giving blow jobs, that is). It shouldn't be causing you any discomfort. The main goal is pleasure, and being hurtful isn't going to get you anywhere near pleasure. I would talk to her about it, and tell her to be gentle.

[Chris.]

I agree with everyone else (from a male perspective). Sometimes we need to tell our partner what we like or in some cases what to do - sometimes they are unexperienced.

Next time it happens, maybe mention that it hurts alittle - she may do it differently then.


Best wishes,
Chris

[Strummer]

Thanks to you all for your advice. Since that first harsh blowjob, she's been giving me a handjob. But yesterday, she started giving me another blowjob, and right away she was sucking so hard like one would suck on a straw in an extra thick shake. So, I said, "Please--not quite so hard", and she let up some. It felt much better. I could feel her tongue licking all around those sensitive areas, but I'm thinking because I'm so new to having my penis inside a girl's mouth, I'm extra sensitive to the motions. I notice that she tightly grips my shaft in one area with her lips while she works her tongue around, while a couple of guys I've talked to say their girlfriends slide their lips up and down their shafts. Is one method better than another?

[blumemusik♫]

It's all a matter of opinion to be honest. What feels good to someone else may not feel good to you. The best thing is to experiment and find out what it is that YOU enjoy.

[Emilycox]

She is inexperienced that is why she is being brutal with it. Maybe she watched a porn video and is copying what she saw. She doesn't realize that boys in real life don't have the ability to deal with really hard suction and licking directly on the head like actors in porn movies who are trained to get used to it.

[Revolution]

She's probably not meaning to cause you pain, often people give tips for oral sex to focus on the head, which is all fine and dandy but she's obviously overdoing it. Just communicate, tell her what she is doing is causing you a bit of discomfort, and give her guidance to change that doesn't include not giving them to you. It's a learning process, good sex involves communication, we're not all born with the knowledge, just the need.