I'm too scared to ever have sex??

[girlfromsocal]

hi I'm embarrassed to say it because most of the girls I know just don't have this issue. I actually want to marry and mainly have kids soon. But I can't get over the fact that being with a guy would mean sometime we'd have sex. I like guys I think. I think about them only ones I find sexually attractive but when i think of sex and the size of a penis really like scares me but turns me on. Like I like guys but I'm scard it's going to hurt a million. And I know it would. I've put tampons in my entrance it feels like I'm stabbing myself.. I'm really sensitive and I feel like it'll never work for me. Like I'm broken. I don't know what to do. Advice??

[Chris.]

This happens alot believe it or not when girls freak out about the future and there first time. I think you are thinking way to much into this. Remember, you don't even have a boyfriend yet, so jumping the gun and thinking about having sex may not be the best idea. When you focus on something like that, then all you judgments are about that one single thing - relationships are much more than just about sex - you have to love and care about that person as well. So I think try to not think about it, find someone you like, and take it slow - If it gets to the point where you guys are at the level of sex, then I would start thinking about it. Alot of girls are thinking the same thing. Does it hurt? Is the main question. Often, after the first time they say it hurt alittle, but the pleasure in most cases overrides the pain. Please note that the first time wont look like a rough sex scene from a porno clip. When in that position of wanting to have sex and knowing its the right time make sure you take it slow, and that you tell him to take it slow as well.

Best wishes,
Chris

[luck fife1]

then wait if you're uncomfortable. no need to rush

[MacGuffin]

This is actually a pretty common fear. Girls who haven't had sex and don't really have good experience with things like inserting tampons or trying to finger themselves/have a boyfriend finger them, and even just girls in general, can feel really terrified by the though of a penis entering them. It seems big and scary and like it's going to hurt a ton, especially if they have heard stories either in the media or from friends.

The thing is though, while it may hurt a little (or even a lot) of your first time, it's no reason to deter having sex the rest of your life. The first time isn't the most magical or well-practiced thing; it can be rather awkward for one if not both of you. But even if it hurts the first time or it doesn't feel amazing, it doesn't mean it's always going to be that way. It does get better with time and practice, and you can do things to ease the anxiety and potential pain of the first time. The more you stress, the more difficult it's going to be, so let things run and take their course.

[Nicole!]

Its normal, I had the same fear for awhile but it eventually went away. When you put a tampon in, are you sure you are doing it at the right angle? It can hurt if you aren't. I would also use the smallest size if you aren't already.
Honestly for most people their first time isn't too painful. I thought my first time was going to be super painful, but honestly it wasn't that bad. I'm pretty petite as well.

[Aletheia*]

I think we all have this fear when we start thinking that we could be having sex soon, or we're thinking about taking that big step. It's a common fear, and you're not alone. I was the same way, but I got over it because I found that special person I wanted to share that with, though he wasn't a virgin and I was. It will go away over time.