Foreign Exchange

[Strummer]

First, thanks to everyone who has offered me advice. I feel so inexperienced and have so many questions, but this forum has been very helpful. Now, here's my latest confusion: In other threads, I have related how I have been getting a handjob or a blowjob twice a week from a girl on my way home from school. During all of this, another girl has sat on my left side just watching the action intently. This week, I just found out that she is an exchange student from Japan. She hasn't said much and her use of English seems somewhat limited. Anyway, when I was leaving the girl's house (who has been doing all the action), at the door she mentioned that her Japanese friend wants to try giving me a handjob next time. My question: should I let the foreign exchange student give me a handjob or should I stick with the girl that's been doing them? Does the fact that she's a foreign exchange student make any difference?

[Angel]

Why would it make any difference at all if she's Japanese?

This is totally up to you. You seem to have a casual relationship with the girl you're already receiving attention from and she sounds as if she'd be ok with it. It's up to you to decide what you want since there doesn't seem to be much to lose.

[Jennifer]

First off use your best judgement, if you don't think you're going to mess things up the way they are now feel free but if it may mess something up, it's time for you to think like I said, use your best judgement. I don't think you want to lose this female.

[Aletheia*]

I highly doubt you should make a move on her unless she makes a move first. She's new to the country, and though it doesn't make a difference that she's a foreign exchange student, but she may not feel comfortable doing those things with you like your other friend is doing. If she wants to join in, she will.

[Strummer]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

I highly doubt you should make a move on her unless she makes a move first. She's new to the country, and though it doesn't make a difference that she's a foreign exchange student, but she may not feel comfortable doing those things with you like your other friend is doing. If she wants to join in, she will.

Shy as I am, I would not have suggested it, but it seems (as told to me by the other girl) that this Japanese exchange student now wants to give me a handjob. She has been very intently watching the activities being done to me by the other girl these past several weeks and now wants to try her hand at it. I was concerned that I would be allowing or helping her to do something that was outside the ground rules for a foreign exchange student when they come to this country.

[Chris.]

As the others have said, if she makes the first move, then allow her to do it - but if she doesn't, don't even try to go to the level and just stick with what you have been doing.

If exchange student just grabs on to you, then I say its ok because she knows the difference between right and wrong and she obviously made the choice to do that - but again, if she doesn't, then leave it be.

Best wishes,
Chris

[MacGuffin]

In all honesty, it's not your job to look out and be mindful of the other girl's customs. If she wants to give you a hand job, then that is fine, as long as you are okay with it. There is no reason why you should really "stick" to one girl or the other, so unless you or she has an objection it's fine to go forward.

Let her make the first move, though. Just because the girl who has been sexual with you says her friend wants to give you a hand job doesn't mean she does. Just let her know the invitation is open, but if she wants to do something she has to start it.

[Strummer]

The foreign exchange student did give me a handjob today after school, but first she surprised me by doing about 20 minutes or so of anal fingering. I was not expecting to feel her finger up my butt, but once the shock subsided, I relaxed, and it felt good. Is this a fairly common practice for teen girls?

[MacGuffin]

Couldn't tell you for sure if a lot of girls do it or not, but when I was a teenager most girls I knew stayed away from engaging in ass play with a guy as the giver, either because they thought it was gross or they thought the guy wouldn't like having his ass touched because he's a straight, virile male, and ass play in guys must equal latent homosexuality, so it would be a little weird. That and they're just starting to do sexual stuff, so they haven't necessarily opened themselves up to all the possibilities there are. And even if they did want to try it, they may have just been afraid to ask him for fear of looking like a weirdo or being treated with scorn.

But as people get a little older, they gain some experience, learn to communicate better, and generally become a little more open minded. With those factors in mind it's more likely that ass play would begin a little bit later in life than the early or mid teen years.

Again, this isn't fact. It's just my take on the whole thing. Make what you will of it.

[Strummer]

I have to thank the exchange student for introducing me to butthole fingering, because it does feel good as foreplay preceeding a handjob or blowjob, I found. Like the penis, the butthole also has many pleasurable nerve endings. This exchange student seemed to have a natural curiousity about my erection as well as my butthole, so I am glad that she doesn't have any hangups for any area of the male body. I did quietly ask a few guys at school about this, and three or so wish that their girlfriends would finger their butts during sexual activities, while two guys admitted their girlfriends fingered their butts. Another guy said his girlfriend gives him a backrub quite often and ends up with him on hands and knees with her slowly fingering his butthole for 15 minutes or so. From my experience, for those heterosexual guys out there that haven't enjoyed this before, ask your girlfriends to stimulate you anally for renewed pleasure and foreplay variety. For you gals, I hear that there is an hour or so CD available, recorded by a female doctor, that tells you how to give your guy a prostate massage for the health of it. And the pleasure of it, I would add.

[Chris.]

Very interesting Joey! Haven't heard to much about stuff like that around here - at 16 the kids around here still seem to be afraid of exploring the unknown.

[Strummer]

I appreciate your thoughtful input, Chris, on this and other threads. It's worth being careful and having respect for the unknown. I am usually like those kids you mention and am shy around girls, except that I innocently wandered into a situation where a couple of girls wanted to learn more about the male body and how it responds, and one thing led to another. Every day, I expect it to end as abruptly as it started.

[Chris.]

Yes, the unknown is scary and should be respected, but should also be explored. Without the unknown being explored, then there really isn't much living going on in that persons life. We all face the unknown and new situations on a daily basis. I personally have learned to take advantage of it - and to explore; at times it knocks me down, but atleast I learn from the mistake(s), and proceed.

But I agree with expect it to end just as fast as it started - don't expect things like this to always happen. You seem to be a very knowledgeable teen.

Best wishes,
Chris