Quick question.

[acting101]

Is it unusual someone going into university still a virgin? I'm in Grade 12, and I'm still a virgin... and I've never done anything more than kissing. I feel like a weirdo because it seems like everyone else has gone further than me. The thought of it scares me.

[katpanda]

I do not find this weird at all.
I am guessing there may be a reason that you haven't had sex yet and you know what? That is perfectly fine.
Once you are actually in university I am sure you will meet a whole lot of new people and potentially come across the one who you are going to lose it too.
There are so many people out there who haven't lost there virginity at your age and even older.
I think this is perfectly normal and it is kind of sweet.
I wish I would have waited, I do not regret it of course, but I just wish I waited a little longer.

[Ibanez]

Hah, no, it's not weird at all. It's unusual that a girl is insecure about her virginity, actually. Most are pretty proud of it.

The majority of people either lose their virginity their senior year of High School, or their first year of University anyways.

[Le bonheur*]

I don't think it's weird. I think it's great, actually. It means you're waiting til the right moment and with the right person. Probably someone you really, really care about, right? Which is how it should be. At least that's my opinion, anyhow.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

It's not strange at all. Personally, I was not a virgin going into college, but I have many friends who were. It's really not a big deal or something to be ashamed about.

[Aletheia*]

It's not strange at all. Just because you think everyone is having sex, doesn't mean that they are. Most of the time, they'll be lying about if they've had sex or just how many people they've had sex with. It's not weird, you'll be okay.

[Verità]

Most girls I know (myself included) are the same age as you, and are still virgins. I do have a couple who have had sex, but for the most part, my friends either haven't found the right person or aren't comfortable with the idea of having sex yet. Some of them haven't even kissed anyone else yet. So, no, it's not weird at all. Everyone moves at a different pace depending on their own personal comfort levels, with themselves, and with others, in most cases. Besides, I think in our society, in can be a good thing to be a virgin. Sex is a lot of responsibility, though it may not seem like it, and can carry many risks. So, therefore, waiting until you are ready is probably healthier in the end.

Take care!

[Stephany]

im in high school and ive never been kissed. i know how you feel. but if people say they have gone farther than you, there is no way they can prove it. Everybody goes at their own pase. like you, i wish my pase would hurry but let nature take over. it will feel right when it happens.

[Viky]

Maybe it's different because I'm younger but the though of going further kinda scares me o_o it has since i was really little though. I don't think it's strange at all. My sister is a senior in High School and she's in the same position there. I think its actually better to still be a virgin... but don't get me wrong I don't take a different opinion on people who aren't.

[Ashes2493]

I'm almost done with my first year of college/university and I'm still a virgin, so it's perfectly normal. I just haven't found the right person yet.

[Revolution]

It's really not either. My best friend feels this way, and it's really not true. Sex is kind of like the emperor's new clothes, everybody wants to look like they're doing it. Have you ever seen the movie American Beauty? It's a wonderful movie, but one this is that this one girl lies that she has all this sex when she is really a virgin. A lot of people do this. Obviously, when you go into this forum, you see a lot of sex talk, but...it's a sex forum. It's going to be a skewed view. I lost my virginity at 17, so I was fairly late as well. Do it when you are ready.

[Chris.]

As alot of the other posts said, I don't find it wrong or weird that you haven't done anything and you are in 12th grade. I personally think you should be happy that you have saved yourself for the right time, and the right person.

Now adays teens (and people in general) have sex just to have sex - there is no meaning to it anymore. I personally believe that every action should have a meaning behind it, and since having sex is a physical action, I think it should have a meaning, and a purpose. Don't force yourself to do it just to do it - do it when you are ready, and when you feel that it is the right time.

Best wishes,
Chris

[MacGuffin]

It's not strange that you haven't lost your virginity by the twelfth grade. As much as people make sex out to be a contest, it really isn't. You are perfectly okay to do it in your own time with the right person; what other people think about it really doesn't matter. Just do what you are comfortable with when you are comfortable with it, and not a moment too soon.

[Guardian_Angel]

Hey there,

No its not strange; although it sometimes feels as though it does. I am a virgin at 21, and I know society makes such a massive deal about it, its literally around everywhere and it seems as though everyone is on this sex bus which is leaving you behind in the dust.

However, you will find that you for the most case, we simply assume everyone has had sex and we are forever alone, when in reality there are quite a few people who haven't had sex or had that much experience.

Consider it an advantage anyway, many people often lose it to people who don't deserve it, and regret it, we still have a chance to make it something we won't look back and cringe.

[Xx.Shes.Unbroken.xX]

I actually applaud you. Haha. Wouldn't you rather be a virgin than having people say you're a slut/whore because you've lost it? I almost lost it a few months ago to someone who I THOUGHT loved me... but, he didn't. I came soooo close. Like literally. If he had the condom... we would have. I'm young. Blah blah blah. But, that's my point. What do you think is the right age to lose your virginity? Cause, there is no set age to lose it. And, waiting... well, it works wonders. You have time to find that right person. You won't have to look back and regret losing it at an earlier age (for most people). So, you can handle it emotionally. And, you can handle the responsiblities that can and may come with sex. Such as financial responsibilities. Can you buy the birth control you need? What if something happens? Are you financially and emotionally ready to take care of a baby? If worst comes to worst... are you ready to give him/her up? Will the guy be there to support you?

There are TONS of questions.. and, everything is overwhelming too. So, don't be upset because you're a virgin... pat yourself on the back. Most girls lose it at a VERY young age... just be glad you've made it this far.
-Good Luck.