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[Leah.sings24]

so me and my boyfriend have been having sex for a few months now... and dont get me wrong its great ... im on the pill he uses condoms... everything is safe and were both ready to be doin this... we talk about everything were doing and that kind of thing ... were having a really good relationship thing going on!
theres only one problem. he denys it when i asked but i sort of think hes getting bored... i mean not necessarily bored just we dont want to rip each others pants off like we did a couple months afo . hes not as interested as he seemed...

so i figure sex works both ways... i should do what i can to make him happy just like he does for me. so i guess im just wondering about this... its a pretty new thing and hes really patient (has to be cause i have slight ocd and can be... you know) so its just wierd to me that he seems bored. so why is this ? and what can i do. basically just help me out here

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Well, I know relationships have that post-honeymoon phase, but as far as you two & sex, I think it's a bit soon to be bored. Maybe he's not wanting to do it every free minute you two have, but that's not a bad thing. If you think he's getting bored, take a break. So when you two DO have sex again, it will be that much better.

[Leah.sings24]

i know that. somehow i dont think hes bored i think he just has something else going on that he doesnt want to talk to me about...

[Jaguar]

It's certainly ok to talk about it, and ask if he's really interested in someone else and losing interest in you. You can't know what's going by guessing.

It doesn't necessarily mean that's what's happening. When you're 15 just the idea of having sex is an incredible turn on but after you do it many times the new wears off and what you need to have is a desire to have sex as a part of loving the other person rather than sex for sex's sake. It's a normal process of a developing relationship and if nothing else is happening outside the relationship there's nothing to worry about. Sometimes if the relationship is based only on sex, then it's going to get old, but if it's based on love, it will get better.

[theawesomeman]

The most likely reasons for him being bored are all very likely and realistic. One reason is that you have done it so often it is similar to a little kid getting a present and loving it for a little bit and then rarely using it. Another is that adrenaline is contained in sperm, so when he sperms he has less adrenaline for a little while. The result of that is if you want to have sex too often (mabye 3 or more times a day) then he has less adrenaline and less desire to have sex. The last reason I can think of is that he is seeing someone else. This probably isn't happening but there is a chance. There are not many guys out there that want to do that but there are some. Keep in mind though that there is only about a 2% chance this is happening. Of course there is the posibility that he is just tired of having sex and wants to have it a little less often.

[Chris.]

Well I think that maybe you are looking way to into this. Now if he started saying he doesn't want to have sex, and he starts distancing himself, then you might have a problem but I think as of right now you are thinking way to much into this. If he is saying he isn't bored, then stop harassing him because that may cause problems later on in the relationship. I think you should just be happy, and accept the sex the way it comes, even if it does seem like hes bored.

Best wishes,
Chris

[Xx.Shes.Unbroken.xX]

I would try something different. Try a new condom, new lube, toys, new positions? You said he may be getting bored, right? Surprise him with something different, or just take a break. I agree with the above poster. You may just be thinking wayyy too into this. So, stay calm. Talk to him about it also. Communication is key in a relationship.

Hope everything goes well!