Male Advice Preferred: Being Gay (not yet), masturbating and sexual fantacies

[ZengHu]

Hi I am wondering if it is natural for boys to be more sexually attracted to man than girls, then end up to be straight? This is happening to me and my father told me about the straight thing. Is it normal? Or am I gay? Also, what do you think about masturbating? When a boy ejaculates after it, is he still a virgin? (just curious) Lastly, any advice to 'quit' sexual fantasies?

Sorry about being too wordy, but please tell me your experiences. Thanks!

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

Hey there,

Firstly, it is perfectly normal for you not to know your sexuality until later on in life. If the age on your profile is correct, you're only thirteen, so you'll just be discovering sexual attraction and sexual feelings. It is perfectly normal to find men attractive but end up straight as an adult. However, if you have never found girls attractive, it is also very possible that you are gay and will be as an adult. In the end it doesn't matter, it's just who you like, so try not to worry about it now and let yourself discover your sexuality in your own time.

Yes, you are still a virgin after masturbating. You can only lose your virginity when you have sex with another person.

Sexual fantasies are perfectly healthy and completely normal. However, if you don't want certain fantasies, try thinking about other things.

Hope some of this helped.

[Sulvan1811]

ye its normal it happened to me :L ur just curious
it happens to all of us

[Jennifer]

Hester seemed to Sum up what I wanted to say. So I'll just add advice to quit sexual fantasties, maybe you can try to think of something else. I've had some odd sexual fantasties in my life, and I tried my hardest to just think of something else.

[Aletheia*]

It's normal to question your sexuality. There isn't anything wrong with it, and it's normal for someone your age. Sexuality and what you feel about yourself is more important. Do you feel more attracted to men than woman? Do you feel any attraction to woman? It's possible that you're bisexual, which means to be attracted to both sex's. It's just something that will be determined once you think things over.

Now, masturbation is also completely normal. It's a great stress reliever, and is actually healthy for you. But, everyone "comes" or ejaculates during masturbation. If that didn't make you a virgin anymore, a lot of people would be upset. The definition of virginity is, at least for me: Sexual intercourse with another person.

And, there is no way to stop sexual fantasies. You have hormones, and they don't go away.

[Chris.]

is it natural for boys to be more sexually attracted to man than girls, then end up to be straight?
Yes, when I was younger I acted on sexual tension with my friends - and now I can say that I am only attracted to Females. So in my personal experience, this can happen.

Is it normal? Or am I gay?
Yes, this is normal to think about it, or be attracted to someone of the same sex - and it does NOT mean you are gay or Bisexual.

what do you think about masturbating?
Materbating is 100% normal and healthy. A statistical analysis of who masturbates is that around 90% of the total male population and 65% of the total female population masturbate from time to time.

When a boy ejaculates after it, is he still a virgin?
Yes, he is still a virgin even after ejaculation after masturbation.


Best wishes,
Chris

[ZengHu]

Thanks for all of your advice!

[Chris.]

No Problem! Feel free to message me if you have anymore questions!


Best wishes,
Chris