Female Advice Preferred: Dry sex advice

[treishote]

My girlfriend and I like to be intimate, she's given me bj's and handjobs, and we have agreed to avoid sex till later on but not now. So we have dry sex, she doesn't want me to use my hands to touch her down there because she says it feels weird and prefers me to just rub her with my shaft.

Is there a way to make her feel better? She's doing so much for me and I wish I could do more for her.

[Aletheia*]

Trust me: Dry sex for her will feel good just the way you're doing it. She's being honest with you. If she doesn't want you to touch her with your hand, then this is the only way it can be done. And, it obviously feels good, or she wouldn't have asked you to do it.

[treishote]

lately i havnt been able to make her orgasm, so i feel down about it haha.

[Aletheia*]

Don't. A lot of girls/woman, no matter what age they are, have trouble having orgasms through intercourse alone. Only certain woman can orgasm just by having sex. Some woman can't orgasm during sex, while others can reach orgasm during intercourse, but using other things to help them get to that point. It will happen, but it may take some time. It has nothing to do with you, so don't feel bad about it.

[treishote]

I used to be able to but now its a lot harder.

[Aletheia*]

Still. Some woman find it hard to orgasm, especially if you're only being intimate through dry sex. There's nothing wrong with you or her, so don't stress about it.

[treishote]

Ok thanks. So there's nothing else I can do?

[Aletheia*]

Not really. She'll get back to where she was before, but with a lot of things, it takes time. Just tell her to relax, and to let it come on it's own.

[Verità]

Hi there,

You could always ask her if there is anything else she might want to try for her to be able to get more pleasure, but if she likes what is happening now, and isn't comfortable with anything else yet, just continue with what you're doing now. Let her know to give you directions while you two are having dry sex, as sometimes certain angles and pressures work better than others. Have her tell you what feels best, and what doesn't.

As for her recent lack of orgasm, there could be many reasons as to why that is. Female orgasms are tricky, and can be "lost" relatively quickly. If stimulation of any kind goes on for too long, she might become too sensitive and become unable to orgasm. However, this doesn't mean things should be rushed, either. I know for me, personally, any sexual act isn't performed only for orgasm. I love the intimacy of the act, and it's fine if I don't orgasm every time. But, I know this can rub on the other person's confidence, so you could try looking up different techniques on the internet to make her feel pleasured without actually having sex.

Take care!
~Alice

[treishote]

Thanks girls ^_^ you have been a lot of help!