What's Too Quick?

[RosieJ]

Just as a slightly general question in relationships as well as when to have sex.

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 weeks and he says that he's going to wait for whenever I'm ready. And I think I'm ready now.

I was discussing this with my best friend and she said wait until I'm sure I'm in love with him. I realised this morning that I was in love with him and now I'm like, what am I waiting for?

But I don't want it to happen too soon. If that makes sense.

And what to you think is too quick physically in a relationship?

Thanks!
Molly.

[Aletheia*]

What does it mean to you? That's the real question here. For me, I lost my virginity to my ex after two months of dating, so around 8 weeks or so into the relationship. With my current boyfriend, I waited two weeks to have sex with him, and we have a good sexual relationship still after 3 years.

Whenever you're ready, go for it. You just need to make sure. You don't want to end up regretting anything, and in this case, I don't think you will. It's not about our opinions that you're going to get a straight answer. Everyone is going to have varying answers, and if you feel ready to jump into a sexual relationship with your boyfriend, then go for it. As long as you're ready.

[RosieJ]

I think of it as a way to move forward and a way to strengthen the bond between me and my boyfriend.

I'm pretty sure I'm ready and if I'm not, I trust my boyfriend enough to stop if I say I'm not.

Thank you for your advice and quick reply!!!
Molly.

[Aletheia*]

Sex doesn't always bond the relationship. Entering sex into a relationship could actually HURT your relationship, you need to be careful with that as well. Just make sure you both are open about it, and communicate any fears you may have. Communication is very important.

[Koharuchan]

Honestly, we can't tell you when you're ready. Only you know when you're ready. If you really love him and want to do this, that's your choice. It only took my boyfriend and I about 3 weeks, and we have a very strong relationship. However, as Shannon said, be careful because it can sometimes hurt the relationship. However, don't let that scare you away. It's all your choice.

[Chris.]

I agree - we cant answer that question for you. The only thing I can say is if you think you are ready then do what you think is best. This really is your call - and a very important one. Of course no one wants to talk about the consequences, but I believe that being aware of the consequences is a good thing - the consequences here is getting an decease or getting pregnant. So keep that in mind while you are deciding to have sex with him and also think about the things you can do to prevent the problems from occurring.

This all comes down to your own judgement.


Best wishes,
Chris