Female Advice Preferred: Orgasms

[Babybrittany]

Everyone says having an orgasm is the best feeling in the word. So today I tried masturbating and nothing happened. I tried it because I wanted to know what it felt like to have an orgasm and nothing happened. Is this wrong? What does it feel like when you orgasm?

[Chris.]

Sometimes it is very hard to get yourself to orgasm. I'm sure other females will tell you - its a trial and error process. What may make your orgasm may not make other girls orgasm. So as far as I'm concerned it is Kay that you haven't had an orgasm and since this is your first time I would have even predicted that.

So like I said - its a trail and error process, you will find what works for you eventually, but just keep trying if you want to know the feeling (because I'm sure it will hard for other users to explain to you).



Best wishes,
Chris

[Elizabeth]

Hi there,

Not everyone orgasm every time and it took me a while to figure out what 'worked' for myself. You'll know when you orgasm, the best way I can describe it as my mind goes blank and it at perfect peace. Give yourself time and relax. It can take a while sometimes (10-15 minutes) and you really can't force yourself to reach that point.

[SM13]

It helps me to try to clear my mind and just focus. I get really distracted easily and if you start thinking about other stuff it doesn't work which may or may not be what's happening to you. Good luck and don't worry if it takes time to figure it out

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Just don't think about it. I know it's easier said than done, but just go with whatever feels good.

[Aletheia*]

A lot of woman have a hard time reaching orgasm, whether it's by themselves or during intercourse. Only a certain amount of woman can orgasm through intercourse alone, while others need some extra pleasure to help get them to that point.

You may not reach orgasm every time, so don't be alarmed if it doesn't happen yet. There isn't anything wrong with you. It's just going to take some time. If you masturbate just to bring yourself pleasure, without thinking an orgasm will be the result, you'll find that you might reach the big O without even realizing it. Don't think, just do.

[Jennyjenn1]

Don't give up yet. Keep trying. Take some time relax and just explore your body. If something feels good stick with it. Odds are you will have your first orgasm through masturbation. Once your body learns to have the first you can normaly make it easier to have more in the future.

I wish you good luck in your attempt to feel a very pleasurable feeling.

[Babybrittany]

Thanks guys. I have a few more questions if you don't mind answering.

How long does an orgasm last?
What makes it so good, like what happens when you orgasm? Do you shake, scream, ect?
And how long does it take you to reach an orgasm?

I'm just curious

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by Babybrittany

Thanks guys. I have a few more questions if you don't mind answering.

How long does an orgasm last?
What makes it so good, like what happens when you orgasm? Do you shake, scream, ect?
And how long does it take you to reach an orgasm?

I'm just curious

1-Orgasms can last for any length of time. There is no set time for them to last.

2-You'll find varying answers to this question. For me, I feel it down to my toes, and of course, there are some noises made.

3-It really depends. Once, I reached orgasm in about 30 seconds, which was a record even for myself. Sometimes, it takes me longer and sometimes I don't reach orgasm at all. Sex still feels good without having reached the big O, so don't feel worried that you'll feel absolutely nothing from it when you decide to take the plunge.

[SM13]

1. When I first started having them they didn't last more than a few seconds but as you get more practice they get better and last longer.
2. For me it's like makes your whole body get really hot and tingly. It's like ur somewhere else like as if you are close to blacking out cuz you don't really have control of your body but you arent blacked out.
3. When I was younger it lasted a few seconds. Now idk how long mine last cuz I'm too blissed out to time it.
I hope this helps you. Good luck!

[Let's kill tonight.]

I think we've established it varies for everyone so you shouldn't feel just because it takes one 10 or so minutes, you have to reach it in that time. When I'm on my own, I orgasm quick, only through use of a toy. However, after having sex with my girlfriend, I've found it takes me much longer to reach it, but it is a LOT more pleasurable, and it lasts slightly longer. The make me feel really dizzy afterwards, so I understand what's been said about feeling like blacking out etc, but it really just depends on how your body reacts! Good luck with reaching it!