Life Lesson; and Question for All

[Shawn K.]

Hey all, first post and wanted to share something, and get some feedback.

I recently got my first BJ from a girl at my school. Nothing romantic or anything, she offered and I accepted. Well, I found out the other day I had caught an STD, Gonorrhea to be exact. Because I had so much trouble peeing (pain) I had to tell my Dad (who was not happy at all by the way) he took me to a doctor who gave me the biggest needle I've ever seen. Point? Guys YOU CAN get VD from oral sex.

The question? It turns out (I found out today) that this girl, a sophomore, is trying to get into some sorority/clique deal at my school; she and two other girls were competing to see who could make the most guys "bust one". They concentrated on freshmen because they knew we were all horny all of the time and would be easy. They also did this with a bunch of the jv and varsity football players. My Dad said he was not at all surprised. Have any of you guys or girls ever heard of girls doing something like this? Is this as f**ked up as I think it is?

Sorry for the length, would appreciate any input.

[yourworstmistake]

I've never heard of anything like that.

ANd to be honest I think it's pretty gross.

Hope your okay now though. :3

[Invert]

if your doctor gave you a needle, its a bit odd. The usual treatment is a course of oral (no pun intended) antibiotics. I suppose one could have an injection? But its not common practice. In future, consider using a different doctor for your sexual health needs.

Som people have a lot of sexual activity, and some make competitions of it (on a more common scale, have you ever seen guys bragging about how many people they've slept with? Its sort of the same thing). Its sad if they were doing this for getting into a clique though, and they should learn to use a condom if they are doing it to so many, as the giver of a bj is actually at higher risk usually.

You need to tell the girl to get checked. If she's the only one who has given you a blow job, she will have it at least in her throat too, and will continue to spread it if she is unaware.

[Aletheia*]

I've never heard of this, but that's mostly because at my high school, we didn't have sorority's or organizations that you made you pledge or did any kind of hazing. We had to wait until college to enter those sort of society's.

I guess now it's lesson learned. Don't accept anything sexual from someone you know, especially after this whole ordeal. You need to be able to trust the person you're being intimate with or at least know their sexual background to keep something like this happened.

I hope you're okay now!

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Invert

if your doctor gave you a needle, its a bit odd. The usual treatment is a course of oral (no pun intended) antibiotics. I suppose one could have an injection? But its not common practice. In future, consider using a different doctor for your sexual health needs.

Som people have a lot of sexual activity, and some make competitions of it (on a more common scale, have you ever seen guys bragging about how many people they've slept with? Its sort of the same thing). Its sad if they were doing this for getting into a clique though, and they should learn to use a condom if they are doing it to so many, as the giver of a bj is actually at higher risk usually.

You need to tell the girl to get checked. If she's the only one who has given you a blow job, she will have it at least in her throat too, and will continue to spread it if she is unaware.

My Dad expected me to get a needle. He kept telling me that on the way to the doctor cause he knows I hate needles. Sort of part of the punishment for disobeying him about sex. I also have pills to take for the rest of this week.

My Dad was gonna call the girls parents to inform them that she needed to get checked out, but I convinced him to let me tell her. You wouldn't believe what she tried to do before I was able to tell her at lunch today. When I did tell her, she was like "OH SHIT!" and walked away.

Thanks for the replies.

[Aletheia*]

Originally Posted by Shawn K.

My Dad expected me to get a needle. He kept telling me that on the way to the doctor cause he knows I hate needles. Sort of part of the punishment for disobeying him about sex. I also have pills to take for the rest of this week.

My Dad was gonna call the girls parents to inform them that she needed to get checked out, but I convinced him to let me tell her. You wouldn't believe what she tried to do before I was able to tell her at lunch today. When I did tell her, she was like "OH SHIT!" and walked away.

Thanks for the replies.

It's great that you told her though; she needed to know in case she was infected from before, or in case she contracted the disease from someone else she performed oral sex on during this little "escapade". I would also inform the school authorities about this too, so they could inform other students to get tested as well; or you could leave it up to this girl to let her other "partners" know what's going on. Don't want any kind of epidemic going on in the school

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

I've never heard of this, but that's mostly because at my high school, we didn't have sorority's or organizations that you made you pledge or did any kind of hazing. We had to wait until college to enter those sort of society's.

I guess now it's lesson learned. Don't accept anything sexual from someone you know, especially after this whole ordeal. You need to be able to trust the person you're being intimate with or at least know their sexual background to keep something like this happened.

I hope you're okay now!

My school is kinda weird all around. It's a private school that's pretty big, over 500 students. I don't know if the club/sorority or whatever was part of the school, or some social group. I only heard about the contest because my best friend heard it from another girl. It might be a rumor... but at my school, I think anything is possible.

And I'm okay, peeing is getting better and better. I'm on punishment for the rest of my life, but the doctor said I shouldn't have any lasting problems because I came to him pretty early.

For sure 14 yr. olds got no business sticking their business somewhere their not sure of. (my dad's exact quote)


Thanks so much for the reply.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

It's great that you told her though; she needed to know in case she was infected from before, or in case she contracted the disease from someone else she performed oral sex on during this little "escapade". I would also inform the school authorities about this too, so they could inform other students to get tested as well; or you could leave it up to this girl to let her other "partners" know what's going on. Don't want any kind of epidemic going on in the school

Wow, Shannon, you think just like my dad. I guess being an adult helps but my best friend predicted the same thing. When I was talking about the whole thing being over when I told her, he texted me that it could be just the beginning. He said if there are other dudes that start telling their parents they got problems down there, the parents are gonna storm the school demanding to know why the school let this happen. My dad was talking about how he was not paying that much tuition so I could get blow jobs at school. Now, I'm just hoping I'm the only one.

[Invert]

gonnorhea doesn't really cause lasting problems for boys, early or not, so finish the course of meds (even if the symptoms clear up earlier), and just get on with your life. gonnorhea is more dangerous in girls due to pelvic inflammatory disease, which develops when some STIs ar left untreated. Also, on the bright side for the girl, oral infections are very rarely harmful, and clear up on their own. The biggest problem is the potential outbreak.

if you do tell the school, maybe try an anonymous email. But don't name her, its unneeded. Just simply be like 'Ive discovered their is this infection present in the school'.

[Shawn K.]

Thanks a bunch.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Invert

gonnorhea doesn't really cause lasting problems for boys, early or not, so finish the course of meds (even if the symptoms clear up earlier), and just get on with your life. gonnorhea is more dangerous in girls due to pelvic inflammatory disease, which develops when some STIs ar left untreated. Also, on the bright side for the girl, oral infections are very rarely harmful, and clear up on their own. The biggest problem is the potential outbreak.

if you do tell the school, maybe try an anonymous email. But don't name her, its unneeded. Just simply be like 'Ive discovered their is this infection present in the school'.

I'm gonna show this to my Dad... Thanks.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I'm sorry to hear that your first experience with oral ended up so badly. I am glad that you were able to see your doctor & get some antibiotics. I've never heard of such "sorority" things happening at my old high school, but I know private schools are a bit different than public schools. I'm sure you've learned your lesson, so just be careful!

[Revolution]

To be completely honest, as horrible as this may sound, you may want to tell your school administration about this. For one, this shouldn't be happening at a high school, period. Two, this is a severe health issue. I'm SOO sorry what happened to you, as pleasurable as it may have been at the moment, it really does bite back. Take care of yourself, and remember next time to use a condom.

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Coffee❤

To be completely honest, as horrible as this may sound, you may want to tell your school administration about this. For one, this shouldn't be happening at a high school, period. Two, this is a severe health issue. I'm SOO sorry what happened to you, as pleasurable as it may have been at the moment, it really does bite back. Take care of yourself, and remember next time to use a condom.

I've been using my friends to try and find out if there are other guys who got caught up in this. I think we've confirmed at least one more but not sure yet.

This has turned into some kind of spy mission because nobody wants their name associated with this, on either end, if the sh*t blows up. At this school something like this could be in the paper and a straight up scandal.

My dad told me at dinner that he was inclined to call the school and report my problem so they'd know something might be going on. That was even after I showed him the post above that suggested an anonymous email. I'm still working on him because my school life would be destroyed if someone found out I was the one who dropped a dime on everybody.

This is turning into more of a mess by the minute. And don't worry, between this crap, hardly being able to piss for three days, and a big needle in my ass...not to mention being grounded for three months...I don't think I'll even be interested in having no kind of sex anytime soon.

[Loving Linux Penguin]

I could be wrong about this, but for the record, I was on the understanding that gonnohrea is normally treated by way of a shot because it's so fast and simple.

That said, I'm very needlephobic myself, so I hope it wasn't too awful for you

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Loving Linux Penguin

I could be wrong about this, but for the record, I was on the understanding that gonnohrea is normally treated by way of a shot because it's so fast and simple.

That said, I'm very needlephobic myself, so I hope it wasn't too awful for you

It was torture, dude. I was already in tears because the doctor had just revealed that I had a sexually transmitted disease, and I had lied to my dad when he asked me if I'd been having any kind of sex that might be the cause of my symptoms. Then the nurse brought in the needle and I almost hurled. I HATE needles. Needles and snakes.

[Loving Linux Penguin]

That sucks, Shawn.

I hate needles too. I'm actually fairly terrified of them. But it always helps to remember that it's over with in a split second. But you're doing better than me--last time I tried to get a shot I hyperventilated...I was freaking so bad that anyone near me with a needle would probably have been in some severe danger from my emotional mind :P

[Jaguar]

One of the things OR nurses look for in admissions is oral gonorrhea. Not that they're profiling, it's just another communicable disease they screen for. Oral gonorrhea isn't really dangerous for her, maybe a sore throat, but the people she passes it to can spread it around. Untreated, it turns into something called Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) which can put a girl in the hospital and make her sterile, so it's serious.

Yeah, the standard treatment for gonorrhea is a big shot of penicillin, although resistant strains of gonorrhea have been showing up. Unless your discharge was cultured it's not 100% certain that it was gonorrhea. It could have been Chlamydia or a similar infection, but the treatment's the same.

You should definitely tell the girl. She must know so she can get treated, and if she's responsible about she should tell the guys she had contact with. And you should ask around for any guys who got a bj from her and tell them. It's not necessary to tell a guy who didn't get one as it's none of his business and it only gets rumors started. One of those guys, a careless one, gave it to her and he was doubly irresponsible for letting her give him a bj knowing he had the clap.

Yeah, embarrassing for sure, but it happens. The chances of getting an STD from a random bj are remote but you're just the rare guy it happened to. Bad luck.

[BTW, welcome to the world of sexual activity.]

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by Jaguar

One of the things OR nurses look for in admissions is oral gonorrhea. Not that they're profiling, it's just another communicable disease they screen for. Oral gonorrhea isn't really dangerous for her, maybe a sore throat, but the people she passes it to can spread it around. Untreated, it turns into something called Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) which can put a girl in the hospital and make her sterile, so it's serious.

Yeah, the standard treatment for gonorrhea is a big shot of penicillin, although resistant strains of gonorrhea have been showing up. Unless your discharge was cultured it's not 100% certain that it was gonorrhea. It could have been Chlamydia or a similar infection, but the treatment's the same.

You should definitely tell the girl. She must know so she can get treated, and if she's responsible about she should tell the guys she had contact with. And you should ask around for any guys who got a bj from her and tell them. It's not necessary to tell a guy who didn't get one as it's none of his business and it only gets rumors started. One of those guys, a careless one, gave it to her and he was doubly irresponsible for letting her give him a bj knowing he had the clap.

Yeah, embarrassing for sure, but it happens. The chances of getting an STD from a random bj are remote but you're just the rare guy it happened to. Bad luck.

[BTW, welcome to the world of sexual activity.]

Doctor said definitely "the clap" as my dad has grown fond of calling it. LOUDLY AND OFTEN. Doc put the squeeze on me and swabbed up some nasty looking stuff ( kinda like come but more milky ). He didn't say the shot was penicillin though, it began with a C I think.

So I'm at school now. Me and my boys are like secret agents right now. The girl that played me is not here today, but a lot of other people aren't either. (We came back Tues. but this is kind of an optional week at my school). Hard to tell if people are just taking the long weekend before full session Mon. We were up late last nite talking and decided that this girl is not likely gonna tell the guys she gave blowjobs to. Cause if it got around my school that she blew one guy, that would probably be cool. If it got around that it was multiple guys, she'd probably have to leave the school, seriously. And if it got around that any guy got VD from her, she'd definitely have to leave. Her parents would pull her out. No motivation for her to tell.

We've been planting "a rumor" that some guy caught VD from some girl at school from a blow job, no names, and that the guy didn't know till he got tested. Most of the athletes would be here this week, so this should get to the football teams pretty quick. (Oh we also concluded that one other dude has got the clap. My second best friend lives across the road from me. He's an 8th grader at another school but his big brother is on the varsity team at my school. He told me that his brother and his dad had this huge argument yesterday, he couldn't hear what it was about, but he knows his dad is taking his brother to a doctor today.) Gotta confirm that later.

My best friend slipped a note under the nurses door that said people needed to get tested for STDs. We couldn't figure out how to send an anonymous email.

And finally, my dad says he's calling the school today to report that he had reason to believe kids needed to get tested. He said he'd try to spare me as much embarrassment as possible, and would insist that the school respect my privacy. He says it's too important to leave it to a bunch of horny kids to fix. He's still pissed.

Thanks so much for the advice, dude. This site is cool.

[Shawn K.]

From what my friends are telling me, the whole school knows about the STI. We apparently were also successful in getting the word out about the "contest". More people are claiming that they knew, or heard about it.

At least one more dude is getting treatment. My best friend, the one who lives across from me, confirmed that was why his brother was taken to the doctor yesterday.

My Dad told me he got an "emergency" email from the school last night. It said something like...The school has confirmed at least two cases of a sexually transmitted infection. Dad says it mentions possible risky behavior by students and recommends talking with students about symptoms and information. Also a formal letter is coming next week.

My dad also said the school has "an action plan" that kicks in for stuff like this. It's supposed to be used for like flu outbreaks and stuff. The school will provide testing and treatment anonymously off campus, but encourages parents to use their own doctor. And he said it is a BIG DEAL. The board of directors are having a meeting about it Monday.

He monitored my account on here last night and was impressed with stuff you guys, and girls wrote. THANKS!!

I still wanna know if any of you have ever heard of girls doing stuff like this for a contest.

[Chris.]

I have heard of people doing this - but not to keep track or to get a record going; but in most cases just to have fun (mainly at parties).

[Shawn K.]

Originally Posted by chrisjackson911

I have heard of people doing this - but not to keep track or to get a record going; but in most cases just to have fun (mainly at parties).

Thanks Chris, pops insists that this is not that unusual. I just think its really messed up.