Scratchy, bitey

[yourworstmistake]

Through various things that have happened I have figured out that I am a bit of a masochist (can't spell it sorry ) and well I fucking adore being scratched and bitten, kinda hard and it's just like yeah..... Even returning the favour feels good. I suppose if you don't like it you might not get it.

I have told my boyfriend, he just doesn't get it, and is like oh yeah your a masohchist. Well, it wasn't cheating but me and a friend ended up kissing when me and my boyfriend were on a break and we both yeah we were kissing and scratching and a lil bit of biting. Kinda saw my boyfriend recently and we were cuddling and it's not the first time I've thought this but it's like I really would rather feel errr... better if he did something like that.I actually miss the sensation, it's like me wanty. I want to say I like being gentle as well, it's just sometimes you know, I know it feels good and arrgh, it's hard to explain. Me and my friend, he gets it.

Except with my boyfriend I don't think he's at all comfortable and that as well as some other reasons makes me think we lack chemistry. It's like he's told me little things that feel good and like why no returny. Plus I don't think he'd like hurting me, but it's not.

Is there anyway I can kind of get what I want?

or tell him more effectively what I like?

or make him understand?

Nb me and my boyfriend don't have sex, because yeah I'm a virgin, not a saint but I want to wait until I'm 18.

Thanks

[Aletheia*]

What you like is a personal preference, it doesn't necessarily make you a masochist. We all have personal preferences, and those are just things that we like.

If you want your boyfriend to understand or participate in this, why don't you try it on him? Bite his neck or lip when you kiss, or scratch his back or arms (not hard at first, let him get used to the idea) while you're kissing. In order to have him understand why you like it, he'll have to experience it.

Also, communication is #1, so explain why you like it and ask him to give it a try; let him know you'll enjoy it and he'll enjoy doing it to you.

[yourworstmistake]

I know I am ever so slightly. But thanks anyways.

And I do bite him but not hard at all, and I may try that a bit more, am seeing him tomorrow. :3

Yes, I'll try to communicate it better, other than "it feels good" and just wondering do you think making almost a game of let's try a bad idea? 'Cause I think it'll make it more fun and if he doesn't like it less awkward for him.

And I think you're right. :3 Thanksies

[Aletheia*]

Making a game isn't a bad idea, at all. Just be sure that neither of you overstep any boundaries.

[yourworstmistake]

^^ Okay. I'll suggest it to him in my cutest way.

And I'll make sure like if you don't like it just say 'cause it's easy enough for him to say then. Thanks.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

As Shannon said, communication is key. Just tell him what you like or want more during fun time. Personally, I am kinda like you, to where I like similar things, but my boyfriend is the same way, so we've never had a problem with it.

Let me just say though, you can't force him to do something he is uncomfortable with. Just as he cannot force you to do something you don't want to do. So if the chemistry just isn't there & you're not getting what you want physically, this relationship may not be the one for you.

[yourworstmistake]

I've never had a problem with the person I'm with not liking it or not being paritial to it. Which is kind of like..... feelin' a little. But I have told him, not a lot, but it's a bit hard to convey.
And oh no, I'd never force him to do anything, that's kind of why I feel a bit apprehensive about it, I don't want him to feel uncomfortable at all. Plus I don't want him to feel he has to.

I have thought that but it seems a little petty to break up, because we get on so well and it'd wreck the relationship so much and be almost a bad reason to break up. :S