Dressing up

[Barbed Lungs]

I've been seeing my boyfriend for two weeks and he's already talking about me wearing sexy underwear or a nurse outfit.

I'm kind of offended by this because it feels like just normal old me isn't really good enough for him.

But I also know I do tend to read too much into things and have quite low self-confidence, so maybe that's why I'm getting a bit upset?

Am I right to think this or is it perfectly normal for him to want this without thinking i'm lacking if that makes sense?

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

I think it's normal for guys to want a little extra, even when there's nothing wrong sexually or intimately. It's just fun. I wouldn't take it offensively, however, if you are not comfortable with it, you have the right to let him know that.

[Aletheia*]

I agree with Barbara; adding outfits to a sex life makes thing exciting. It doesn't necessarily mean that he doesn't find you attractive anymore. It's just something that adds spice to a relationship, and this can be done whether or not something is wrong with the relationship. I wouldn't take it offensively, however, tell him if you're not comfortable. You shouldn't have to do anything you don't want to do.

[Acheron]

Originally Posted by Barbed Lungs

I'm kind of offended by this because it feels like just normal old me isn't really good enough for him.

But I also know I do tend to read too much into things and have quite low self-confidence, so maybe that's why I'm getting a bit upset?

Yeah, this is the low self-confidence at work. It isn't that he thinks that normal old you isn't good enough. He just thinks that normal old you would look sexy as hell in something tight and revealing.

[Lu82]

I think its normal for guys to have fantasies like that. Once a guy wanted to see me in a french waitress outfit and that didnt offend me. But if you dont feel comfortable doing anything like that maybe try to talk to him and tell him how you feel.Im sure he'll understand.

[Barbed Lungs]

Thanks for the advice I would be comfortable doing it I think, was just worried about not being good enough without, but my minds at rest now that I shouldnt read too much into it. thanks again

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey there,

Just make sure you only do things like this if and when you feel completely comfortable, some people aren't into this sort of thing and that's okay. There are plenty of other things you can do that you feel comfortable with that will keep both you and your boyfriend happy.

If you don't feel comfortable just be honest, no one should do anything they don't want to do in a relationship.

[Hallelujah]

My fella has a thing for sexy outfits and originally I was pretty freaked out and thought I wasn't good enough the way I was. However, now I've come to terms with the fact that he just likes it. And actually, it's pretty sexy getting to dress up :]

[MacGuffin]

Men are visual creatures, especially when it comes to sex. Images that stimulate the vision and engage their fantasies are something they love. It's nothing against you or how you look at all, it's just something he thinks would be really sexy to see you wear. After all, it's still you in the outfit, not some random girl.

If you are really uncomfortable with it you can let him know you don't feel 100% okay with the idea, and you can always talk to him and let him assuage your fears. But I imagine it's probably not an indicator that he doesn't think you are hot enough.