Can you ?

[x-gothic-princess-x]

Sorry if this is a little near the mark but just wondered

Why do people cheat on their other halfs ?
And is it possible to love the person your with but still cheat ?

There is no right or wrong and its a question I have been thinking about since my friend cheats on her boyfriend but stays with him

Charlie x

[Bella xx]

I can never understand why people cheat on their other halfs, all the hurt it causes is just not right in my opinion. But I think the most common reason people cheat is to boost their sex life.
I dont think it's possible to love someone but cheat on them at the same time.
You're right there is no right or wrong answer to those questions but again in my opinion your friend is doing something that, to me, is wrong morally.

[Invert]

I think if you are in a monogmous relationship, where sexual activity with other people is not allowed, and one partner continously does this, then they are taking the other person for a ride.

I understand how people can cheat. Maybe slipping up in a moment of poor judgement, or whatnot. But in my opinion, if you do slip up an cheat in an exclusive relationship, you need to think about if you really want to be in it. If that person decides they do, they need to stop the cheating, and probably fess up, or finish their relationship.

I cheated once, and I actually realised that I was cheating, because that one act was worth more to me than my relationship. I could of lied to my partner and kept dating, but nah, I had effectively decided the relationship was over. So I ended it with him, there was no point dragging it on, I clearly didn't want to be with him. If my relationship was really worth it, I was thinking enough to know what I was doing, and I wouldn't have done that.

Some people cannot be in exclusive relationships, but if you want one, can you handle them cheating behind your back? And if they are willing to repeatedly hurt you, how much can they love you?

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by x-gothic-princess-x

Why do people cheat on their other halfs ?

Usually its because people can't commit to their currently relationship and decide to step out of the boundaries. Another possibility is they find someone who can do something their current boyfriend/girlfriend cannot or will not.

Originally Posted by x-gothic-princess-x

And is it possible to love the person your with but still cheat ?

I believe so, but I do not think cheating is ever okay. If you love the person you are with, then you shouldn't go seeking out other people.

[x-gothic-princess-x]

Thanks for your views Some good but different answers

Personally I think you can love someone whilst cheating on them. But this doesn't mean its right to do and it causes a lot of problems within each other and relationship. And people cheat for loads of different reasons - Its just one of them things. But I do agree she should take a blooming good think about weather she wants to carry on cheating or be with her current boyfriend :/ x

[Aletheia*]

Nothing constitutes cheating, but I believe there are a variety of reasons, such as: They're unhappy in their relationship, and stray but they just don't want to hurt their partner (even though they're doing it anyway). This is just my guess.

I think it's possible, but probably not the case in most relationships.

[yourworstmistake]

Why do people cheat on their other halfs ?
Because they feel such a strong emotion to someone else, or someone else can satisfy part of you that isn't being done by the other, physcially emotionally, or anything really.

And is it possible to love the person your with but still cheat ?
Yes, because you care abotu them and love them but they may not be enough for you.

[Le bonheur*]

I don't get why people cheat. Never have, never will.

[SarSar91]

I'm not sure about this one, personally I do not think cheating is right, if I was with someone and they wasn't in love with me I would much rarther they just be honest instead of stringing me along.

[Koharuchan]

I don't think you can cheat on someone and love them. If you love someone you care about them and don't want to hurt them, and cheating hurts a lot.

As for why people cheat, I agree with the others. There are many reasons. Unhappy with relationship, boosting sex life, sometimes even just doing it to see what it would be like.

I personally think cheating is horrible, and I would never do it. I know how much it would hurt him, and hurting the man I love is the last thing I'd ever want to do.

[Peppermint Tea.♥]

I can understand why people cheat, but often I just think why can't they just leave their partner? Like, I don't understand why people can cheat on someone for a long period of time without telling them.

I don't think you can truly love someone if you cheat on them. I think you can still like them, but not love them.

[MacGuffin]

While I cannot condone cheating, I do understand why people do it. There can be many reasons for it, actually, and it all depends on the situation.

Cheating almost always indicates something is amiss in the relationship. I wouldn't go so far as to say they are overall unhappy with it, necessarily, but they aren't achieving satisfaction in some important way. It is also often a result of miscommunication or, more likely, a lack of ability to effectively communicate, even if it is just over one issue.

Someone might cheat on their partner because they are unhappy with the relationship, but don't know how to get out of it, or they don't want to hurt their partners feelings. Others may cheat because they know they are unhappy with some aspect of the relationship, but don't want to let go of that security in case things don't pan out with their new partner. Some may not be getting what they want in the bedroom, and so just want to have sex with someone that can satisfy their needs better. Some feel emotionally detached from their partner and so, even if they may not physically cheat on their partner, do emotionally cheat on them by investing all that they feel and think is important in someone other than their partner. Some just do it out of anger to spite their partner. Some want to prove their partner cannot control them. Some may be tired with the "committed" life and want to act a little loosely like they could in the good ol' single days, but don't want to lose all the other benefits of a relationship. Some people even just want to stage the breakup of the relationship so that they don't have to be responsible for ending the relationship themselves.

There are even more reasons people cheat, but these are a common few. And, often, it's due to poor communication and emotional indecisiveness.

I am on the fence about whether you can still love your partner and cheat on them. If you've been cheated on, of course it feels like your partner didn't love you and purposefully betrayed you. Often, this can be true. But sometimes, I believe people that cheat really do love their partners. They just don't know how to reconcile that love with the challenges they may be facing or feelings they may be having, and they pick a choice they feel will make things better but, in reality, won't. So yes, I think you can love your partner and still cheat on them. Just because you lose sight of what is important, even on something so big as cheating, does not have to mean you don't love them. It may just mean you made a mistake.

[Revolution]

Why do people cheat on their other halfs ?
Well, funny enough, I just learned about cheating in my Human Sexuality class I'm taking, and I learned some interesting statistics. 75% of men and 50% of women will cheat in their lifetime. That's a lot of people. Basically, monogamy isn't completely natural in our history. People choose to be monogamas out of love, but honestly, we're very sexual creatures, us humans, so we naturally have the urge to stray. However, I do not think this is an excuse. I've looked at another guy or girl before and thought "Oh, they're hot." and have even had devious thoughts, however, I would never cheat. I know my boyfriend probably has too. But he has never cheated on me either. It's a choice, it's not something you "can't control." You're more likey to if you're unhappy in the relationship, you found somebody else, or you've been cheated on by the person.

And is it possible to love the person your with but still cheat ?
I actually think so. For one, I know of relationships that have worked out great being "Open relationships" in the beginning, allowing sex outside of the relationship for a limited of time, and then they ended up being more serious later. Also, people do make mistakes. But I do not think this is an excuse, once again.

[bitesize]

I've cheated before, in a previous relationship. Not proud of it but have never regretted it. Personally, my reasons were

-1. To be blatantly honest, I liked having my cake and eating it. Don't like admitting it but it's true. I was in a relationship with a boy but was cheating with a girl and liked that too.

-2. It made me feel good about myself. My boyfriend put me down a lot (subtly enough for naive me not to realise what a problem it was) and used to make me feel a bit crap and like no one else would really want me. So the fact that someone else did was a huge boost for my self-esteem.

-3. A little bit like the above reason, but although I thought I was happy in the relationship, I obviously wasn't. I even wondered at the time why I was cheating if I was happy with my boyfriend, but looking back at how he treated me and made me feel crap, I think cheating was a way to make me feel like I still had some power in the relationship. (Obviously I should have just broken up with him, I know that now.)

They're my personal reasons. I would never cheat on my current boyfriend, ever, but having been a cheater I do understand some of the reasons that people do it ~ a lot of the times it's just related to ego, whether blowing up an already inflated one or giving your low-self esteem a boost. I don't think it's right, but I see how it happens.

About love, I'm not sure. I called it off with the girl I was cheating with when I realised I was in love with my boyfriend, so I couldn't have done it myself. I don't think you can love someone and consistently cheat on them, unless there are just a lot of problems in your relationship that need sorting.

[x-gothic-princess-x]

thanks for your views guys x

[DeadlySin]

Why do people cheat?

It can be because they are bored, angry, or trying to get a rise out of their significant other. It can also be because they got slightly intoxicated with a good friend and their emotions and hormones got in the way. Some because they want some way out of the relationship without actually doing the breaking up. Some because it's a thrill. There are many reasons. And there is never really a good answer either.

Can you cheat and still be in love?
Personally I believe so. To me sex and love can be kept separate. I've always had the ability to turn off my feelings during sex. I was in love with a guy long distance. But when I was having sex with another guy, I could turn off my love for that guy and not feel guilty about it. I see sex as simply sex. Yes when you are in a committed relationship it is frowned upon. But I do believe you can be in love and cheat. But you'd have to find the meaning behind why so-and-so cheated on so-and-so. And I know not many people would agree with me, and everyone has different views on this. But that's just mine.

[George^^]

I don't understand cheating, but sometimes it must be you like that person, but you can't help but want something more, which is stupid, you get what you get.

I've heard of pleanty of couples in my high school who both cheat on each other with other people, mostly from a friend, who is some guys cheat with... (If I could, I'd tell her not to, but I don't have to anymore.)

[AmazonQueen]

People hurt the people they love all the time. It happens and people make mistakes. Obviously not an excuse to cheat, but it doesn't mean the person doesn't love their significant other anymore.

I maybe means their weak and giving into their primal urges, everyone is only human.

Not to be mistaken though, I don't think it's right or okay to cheat on your partner.

[MadPoet]

I think there are a lot of reasons that people cheat on each other, and no one reason is more common than the other. Everyone has their own excuses for doing such. I don't think that cheating on someone means you don't love them, but I think in most cases it means that you are not content with the relationship or your feelings for them are fading. If you really loved them and where happy with them, you wouldn't feel the need to cheat.

[x-gothic-princess-x]

thanks for the more comments and views people have given x

[SamMarie]

While there are reasons people do cheat, sometimes the answer just simply is that they don't really care or they're just unhappy. I'm sure they do know it's not right, but it usually just comes back to not caring or unhappiness or both. They may be scared to admit to it because things aren't probably changing and they aren't thinking about what their partner wants, but themselves. I think it's more of a selfish thing. Usually people want what they can't have and they may use their partner as replacement until they find that "can't have" partner. It's true that there are many excuses, but I think they may have given up on their partner a long time ago. Bottom line is, these people just don't know what they want. That's my view on it.