Sex with non-virgin

[metal4ever1997]

Me and my girlfriend recently started dating, we're both 15, and I am fully aware that she is not a virgin. But, as a virgin, I worry that if the opportunity for sex ever comes up, I don't know if losing my virginity to a non-virgin is a good idea or not, and it's killing me!! Please help, I am so lost in this situation, and I could use all the help I can get.

[Acheron]

I think it's probably better to lose your virginity to a non-virgin than to a virgin. I wouldn't expect her to have a huge amount of experience, but she'll still have some idea of what you should both be doing. Also, it means you don't have to deal with blood and tears.

Props for the Opeth avatar, by the way.

[Colors Leave Me Blind]

I think since she does have some sexual experience, she will know how to do it and will help you. It may even be better because she does have some sexual experience, but don't push yourself to have sex with her until you are ready, because then, it may not be as good, and you will regret it for the rest of your life. Good luck! (:

[SamMarie]

I'm in the same situation to be honest. I'm not a virgin, but my current boyfriend is. He just recently told me this, but it's nothing to be ashamed of. At least, I don't think so. We haven't had sex yet, but he has also had questions because I do know what it feels like to have sex. I guess I wouldn't call myself experienced, but I am more experienced. I wish I didn't lose it to the guy I did lose it to, but you can't help the past. If you accept who she is, you'll accept that it's the past. I mean, you are still young so, if you're doubting to even have that opportunity, maybe you shouldn't have sex at all.

[Revolution]

This is probably a good thing. My boyfriend and I were both virgins, so we really were clueless the first few times, but we figured things out. She's not going to judge you, most people are fairly understanding!

[Jaguar]

There's absolutely nothing wrong to losing your virginity to a nonvirgin. Like the above posters, I think it's the better thing. I lost mine to a nonvirgin and I'm thankful that she was. I don't think it would have gone nearly as well if she had been a virgin, I'm certainly glad I had some experience when I had sex with my first virgin. Somebody should know what they're doing, in my opinion.

It's also going to make suggesting it to her easier. Since she's not a virgin, she's not going to feel like she should say the answer she thinks she's supposed to say and is more likely to say what she feels.

[MacGuffin]

It's perfectly okay to lose your virginity to someone who isn't a virgin. If your partner isn't a virgin she will have some experience to help guide you and keep you feeling at ease your first time, which can be a plus.

[dreamer1234]

The only thing that should really matter is if you love them or not. Trust me, i wish i would have waited til i was in love..

[Aletheia*]

Having sex with a non-virgin could potentially be better than having sex with a virgin. Why? They have more sexual experience than you, and can tell you what they do and don't like. Things might not be as awkward, however, since it would be your first sexual encounter and their first sexual encounter with a new partner, it might be inevitable for there to be some awkwardness, however, the whole thing isn't about whether you should have sex with a virgin or a non-virgin. Do what you feel is right, with someone that you want to have sex with. Once your virginity is gone, you can't get it back.

[dreamer1234]

Originally Posted by Zelophobia

Do what you feel is right, with someone that you want to have sex with. Once your virginity is gone, you can't get it back.

Soooo true...no matter what you do

[DeadlySin]

It's really up to you. I know a few of my friends didn't want to lose their virginity to a nonvirgin. It's just a personal preference. I felt that way for a while. Then I had a moment of, "I just wanna lose it". So I ended up losing it to a non virgin and I really don't regret it. I find it a matter of how comfortable you are with the person and if you trust them, etc. Not so much their sexual experience. =)

[Jeromak]

Originally Posted by metal4ever1997

[edit]Me and my girlfriend recently started dating, we're both 15, and I am fully aware that she is not a virgin. But, as a virgin, I worry that if the opportunity for sex ever comes up, I don't know if losing my virginity to a non-virgin is a good idea or not, and it's killing me!! Please help, I am so lost in this situation, and I could use all the help I can get.

A first sexual relation is not a competition especially if there are feelings between 2 people you know. I think you will probably go through something very pleasant. Take it easy it should all be wonderful.

[heys.wendy]

This is probably a good thing.