Being Fingered?

[BethGoesRawr]

Hey I know I might not sposed to be asking about this but I would just like to try.
Getting fingered for the first time, any do's and dont's while he is fingering you? Or just any tips.

[BethGoesRawr]

oh oh and will it hurt?

[Devoted]

me and my ex waited till she was 15 till we got to that point, we wasn't sure that it would be suitable any younger, i would wait untill your almost 14 atleast till you try. There was reasons why u didn't have sex till your 16 and it was because your body mite not be used to these things. hope this was OK help x

[BethGoesRawr]

Well Im 13 and this is gonna happen at weekend I think.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Well take it slow, let him know if anything hurts, & DEFINITELY make sure he clips his fingernails & washes his hands beforehand.

[Koharuchan]

Originally Posted by Sincerely Yours

Well take it slow, let him know if anything hurts, & DEFINITELY make sure he clips his fingernails & washes his hands beforehand.

Definitely. Especially trimming the nails...I had a guy do that to me once and his nails cut me.

I do think that you are a bit young to start doing these things, but it is your decision. Just relax and tell him if he's hurting you, if it feels good, etc.

[BethGoesRawr]

Could someone maybe PM me because there are a couple questions I would like answerd privatley.

[AmazonQueen]

Communication is key. It's cliche, but there is a reason it is said so much.
I'm not going to sugar coat it but I really believe that you are too young to be starting up with sexual activities. Fingering, oral sex...etc they can and all lead to intercourse eventually, and it's risky if it should happen that you get pregnant. Your body is not developed enough to carry a baby so I don't think sexy time should be an option...BUT it is YOUR decision so just make a smart one. Set boundaries if you haven't already. In the heat of the moment you might fine yourself asking for more...

[roller♥coaster]

I agree with AmazonQueen and others. Please be careful. You are young, and there are extra dangers that exist because of that.

It hurts for me, at least some of the time, but everyone is different.

[DeadlySin]

I agree with AmazonQueen too.
But as other's said it may hurt at first. Lube is always an option. Take it slow at first. Don't force anything. Tell him what feels good and what is hurting so he can avoid that.

[BethGoesRawr]

I don't think I've really got boundaries but we are both smart (enough) and have agreed that if we go further we will take extra care to use as much protection as possible and be there for each other.
Oh and thanks for all you guys who messaged me and left a post Each of you have helped so far

[Jaguar]

I originally made this a PM but on second though maybe it would be useful for someone else:

The boy who's going to finger you is likely not much older than you are and won't have much experience. I think the thing for a girl to remember is that a boy has no clue what it feels like so you have to show or tell him what to do and don't be shy about it. He wants it to be good for you at least as much as you do. Maybe more since being able to give your girl an orgasm is the mark of a good lover and man.
All girls are different and they like it a little different. He won't know how fast or hard to caress you even if he's done it with another girl. I think the best way is for you to put your hand on his and guide him. Tell him that you're teaching him the way it feels good for you and he'll understand. I think it'll go better that way. No, it shouldn't hurt but if it does stop and do it differently so it doesn't. You should be wet, but if you're not try using some lube. Butter works real well and it's easily available and of course it's non-toxic. Thing to do is relax and don't take it too seriously. It's just something that feels good and that's all it should be.
Good luck with it.

[Nicole!]

Make sure he doesn't enter too fast, otherwise it will hurt. Just tell him to take it slow and communicate.