What's your opinion on having a "friend with benefits"?

[Lost_Confused]

Just wondering. Also, would you do it with an ex? Just seeing people's opinions on the matter.

[Sincerely Yours ♥]

Personally, currently I would not have a friends with benefits relationship even if I were single. I would get too attached. So that is a "no" for ex's as well. It just depends on the person whether it's okay or not.

[Aletheia*]

If I could be in a relationship with someone "sans" feelings, I'd do it. I tried it once, and of course, feelings started, but it worked out in my benefit. I'm now currently dating that person and we're dating for 3 years now. But, it doesn't always have my happy ending. Feelings may not always develop, leading to hard feelings and a possible end to a friendship.

[Chris.]

Friends with benefits - I think it is a good thing; if used the right way. Often people think that is a sign of commitment, which it isn't. Also people 'expect' to do things because they have done them with that person before, which shouldn't be the case. It should be more, 'on the spot' thing than expected or committed. If you are friends with benefits with someone, make sure you do it right and don't lose a friendship.

Do it with an ex? If it was a bad break up - no. If it was a respected/ mature breakup, then sure.

[Brandon]

There's nothing wrong with friends with benefits as long as:

1) You both mutually benefit
2) You realize the potential risks, and know how to deal with them if they occur. Especially long term risks.

If it becomes a normal routine, I think that's huge potential for disaster. Also, there's no legal contract, and it's not a relationship...so that's important to understand as well.

As far as the ex is concerned, if you and your ex originally went out to fuck each other and call it quits, then that's fine. However, if you wanted an emotional attachment with him, and he wanted sex (or vice versa), then you've got a potential problem.

[Revolution]

It depends on the relationship. Currently, I wouldn't, seeing that I'm in a very happy relationship and have no reason to be out of that. But if that's your thing, there's nothing wrong with it. Just make sure that both parties know that it is all you want out of the relationship, and it seems like a great way for less serious, more action filled sex.

[rizz]

it's really up to the person but i wouldn't do it myself...same with ex's

[SamMarie]

I think it depends on who you are honestly. I couldn't do it, but if you don't mind then that's that that. I'm sure it would be beneficial in some way, but I don't think you'd really get that intimacy feeling doing them. So in a way, you know what to expect, but I think it's more special doing those things with a partner you desire. You seem to get the full special experience than you would with a friend. Personally, I don't think it's right for me.

[Dez]

There's nothing wrong with it as long as you can make it work and try to not let it ruin the friendship.

[Nicole!]

I had a friends with benefits a couple times, and it never really worked out. Someone would get attached, or someone would get bored.
I would never have sex with an ex either. They are an ex for a reason, and I wouldn't want to bring up more drama between us. I'd like to just leave my ex's in the past

[Koharuchan]

I personally would never do it...maybe I'm old fashioned in this one way, but I wouldn't want to have any kind of relationship like that unless I was really dating the person.

[Singer180]

FWB seems like an awful lot of risk involved for a few moments of instant gratification. I would have to say it's all a game of timing for the people involved. Would I personally do it? No, because I'm not the kind of person. I'm not saying that it's a bad thing at all, just risky; too risky for me.

[Hollifire]

I've done FWB before with friends & it was fine since it was kept extremely casual. I've also done it with exes and realized it was a horrible mistake. One case ended up him wanting to get back together & the other one I wanted him back, so it's not a risk I'd take again. As long as both parties are aware it's not a relationship & know it's not leading into one unless you discuss it later on, I don't see a problem with it.

[Le bonheur*]

I personally couldn't do it because I seem to have attachment issues. & it wouldn't end up very pretty.

[Ryan1]

In my eyes its alright to have friends with benefits however like Brandon mentioned it doesn't come without risks. Granted its safer then having multiple sex partners at that.

[Jaguar]

The only FWB I've had was an ex, and even then it was more like getting back together temporarily. I think it's important to remember the friends part and not let it get overshadowed by the benefits bart.

[TheCrowing]

I'm totally cool with it. I'm not romantically attracted to many people, so I can pretty much do it without any strings attached. BUT, I refuse to do anything with anyone who can't just let it go. I'm all for emotional attachments, but when I enter a friend with benefits zone or strictly physical relationship with someone, I make sure they know 100% that those are my intentions, and if they can't deal with it, then they shouldn't be with me or try it.

It's that simple.

Also, depending on which ex. Two of my exes, I would hook up with in a heart beat. They didn't end on good terms, but if it was just hooking up and nothing more, I would do it. Otherwise, No. I wouldn't. Hooking up with exes is just bad news. And I'm not being hypocritical about the two exes, because I know for a fact it's bad news.. but for them I would.

[Verità]

I think having a friend with benefits or willingness to do it with an ex really depends on the person. I'm too physically conservative to consider having a friends with benefits - I'd rather have the emotional, long-term factor than the physical stuff. I certainly enjoy physical things, they're just not my only reason for surviving. I'd rather have love. I think the same thing goes for an ex. I think the only circumstance where I could see that happening would be if I ended up getting back together with said ex, and had been dating them for awhile.

[MacGuffin]

It's awesome...if you can pull it off. The problem is many people can't because they end up getting attached, even if they swear they won't. Then it just gets messy.

[Cabron]

It's really not a good idea, in my opinion. Sex should be a bonus with a relationship, not the basis for one (whether it's a real relationship or a FWB type). I'm a little conservative in that respect, I suppose.

[dani99]

Absolutely not unless you know there is no way what so ever you could get emotionally attached. I did that and fell in love all of a sudden then got my heart broke when he broke things off with me and found another girl.

[Woo! Imagination xD]

Friends with benefits can be an advantage if both people are in the same place, however, that rarely seems to happen. After a while even if you start off in the same place, somebody may get attached so generally I don't think it's a good idea.

FWB with a ex is definitely a very difficult thing to want to do as usually the reason behind it are some unresolved feelings for one another. I did it in the past and it turned out to be a God-awful mess! I wouldn't suggest it.

[DeadlySin]

When I am single, I am all for friends with benefits. I don't see an issue with it. And a lot of the time those friends with benefits are my ex's because. we are still on good terms, and we've already been sexual. So it's a comfort zone. Instead of randomly going out and getting laid by strangers. Now when I am in a relationship, since that's cheating. No I don't believe you should be in a relationship AND have friends with benefits.

[makeupshadow]

I think it really depends it definitely wouldn't be sex but just cuddling a kiss, that kInd of stuff that probably doesn't count as benefits but that's the farthes I would ever go with anyone haha! Yeah I just if I was fiends with that person for years and it was a girl then I would just show my love to her just because I love her so much as a friend

[Colors Leave Me Blind]

I dont think there is anything wrong with friends with benefits. I had one once and we RARELY did anything because we still had feelings for each other and it was awkward, but it was an ex so it could be okay with one or it could be awkward.

[Jaguar]

Originally Posted by DeadlySin

And a lot of the time those friends with benefits are my ex's because. we are still on good terms, and we've already been sexual. So it's a comfort zone. Instead of randomly going out and getting laid by strangers.

That's about the best explanation I've ever seen.