Eheh.

[Eldora]

Well, this is as embarrassing as hell. But I have a rather big problem.


My guy friend and I. (We aren't dating. Neither one of us really likes to deal with everyone pestering us about our relationship problems, so we don't say we are, but we're really dating in all but name.) To get back on subject, we're both horny teenagers.

We've talked about doing things (more than we have been), but I've pretty much said: "No," but only because I'm afraid I'll get too carried away and get pregnant. He's respected that decision, but I hate every second of it.

In short, I want to be put on birth control again. I was on it over the summer for other reasons, but right now, I feel like it would be in my best interests to be on something, just in case.


My mother is very Christian when it comes to things like this, and thinks that people should be married before they do anything. I just think that people should be prepared for it. I doubt she'd let me start taking birth control again. I'm afraid that if I asked, she'd stop me from seeing him, and I wouldn't get the birth control, anyway.


This guy is the first guy I've ever considered doing anything like this with. I've known him for over a year, and we've been good friends/friends with benefits for about three quarters of that time. I accidentally told him I loved him one day (to which he didn't protest), and he's told me he loved me several times.

Trouble is, my mom refuses to believe that it's anything more than puppy love. And she still refuses to think that I'm old enough to have any interest in doing anything with the guy, even though she's conceded several times that I'm more mature than my twenty-four year old aunt.

Yeah. Well.

I basically just need some help figuring out a way to bring up the subject of birth control and sex, and some ideas on how to convince my mom that I'm trying to make a mature decision. I have absolutely no clue how to bring it up, and everyone in my family thinks that you can't have sex until you're married, except for my aunt, who lives two hours away.

Help?

[Aletheia*]

I'm thinking your mom is pretty much set in her ways. There isn't really a "good" way of bringing up sex, safe sex or otherwise, with a parent who is against it before marriage. Now, your views might be different, and there isn't really anything you can do to change your mom's mind about sex, and that you'd like to make the mature decision on your own.

There are ways of acquiring birth control without your parents knowledge however. You'll just have to keep the packages hidden from her, and not give any contact information where they might accidentally call your mom. You can get birth control at Planned Parenthood. You can find your closest PP here: www.plannedparenthood.org

If you aren't comfortable going against your mom, your best bet would be to use condoms, whether it be a male or female condom.

[Eldora]

Thank you very much. I really appreciate it.

[blumemusik♫]

Like Shannon said, there are ways of getting birth control that don't involve telling your parents. However, that could cause a LOT of upset when/if she finds out you've been hiding it from her.

Another suggestion would be to tell her you've been having issues with your period, and that an internet search has advised you that going on hormonal birth control may help. But then again, that's quite a big lie, it's up to you

[Eldora]

Well, I actually did lie to get on it once before, but the kind that I got made my stomach hurt really badly, and I went off of it after six months. However, it wouldn't that too far of a stretch to tell her that I'm tired of getting signed out of school due to issues with my period again... Because both myself and my mom are getting tired of that.

Hmm. That might actually work, lol. The only thing is, she's already slightly on guard because she knows that we're not particularly innocent... But I'm sure I can work past that.

[Singer180]

First of it should just be put out there that whenever you want to fool around or whatever that you should be ready to become a parent if need be. That being said, a lot of girls I know just say that they need birth control to regulate their periods. Unless your mom follows your cycle closely, it should make sense. Of course, your doctor would still have to approve this proposition, but it's worth a try I guess. You should also encourage him to get condoms, if only to meet you half way