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Do I need to feel this nervous - March 11th 2012, 06:51 PM

Okay so my girlfriend and I had sex for the first time last night. It was both of our first times and extremely unexpected so unfortunately we didn't have a condom. Now I was EXTREMELY careful. Any time I so much as felt like i was even close to cuming I stopped. I am certain I did not cum in her. However, I am still very nervous and I'm just not sure if something crazy could happen hah. So basically do I really need to worry this much or what?
   
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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 11th 2012, 07:08 PM

I wouldn't worry about it too much. If I were your girlfriend, I would trust you completely. But tell her to take the morning-after-pill anyways, and since condoms help with STDs I recommend you both get tested if you haven't already-just to be safe.
   
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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 12th 2012, 01:19 AM

If it was last night, use a Emergency Contraception. I wouldn't take any chances. Pre-cum in itself has no sperm in it, however, it could if there was a near ejaculation to sex. Even if you don't think you ejaculated at all in her, I would be safe, and I would tell you NEVER to do this again. Condoms are awesome.


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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 13th 2012, 02:40 AM

Unfortunately, the pulling out method doesn't work, neither does having sex standing up, unfortunate.

As said, emergency contraception is the viable choice here.
   
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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 13th 2012, 03:58 AM

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Unfortunately, the pulling out method doesn't work, neither does having sex standing up, unfortunate.

As said, emergency contraception is the viable choice here.
While I agree that the pull out method is dangerous and condoms should be used, it isn't true that it doesn't work. Yes, it's risky, but if the man has not ejaculated recently and has the control to pull out before ejaculation, the risk of pregnancy is extremely low.

That being said, I'm not saying you shouldn't use condoms, because you should. I'm just clearing up a fact here.


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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 13th 2012, 04:42 PM

Haru is right; using condoms is definitely the better idea, but if you have control over yourself, enough to pull out before ejaculation, the pull-out method can work but it's risky and may not work every time!

Since you did the right thing and stopped before ejaculation, I don't think you have anything to worry about.











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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 13th 2012, 06:17 PM

The problem with the withdrawal method is that it relies on control to pull out before the onset of ejaculation, which is biologically counter intuitive....the urge is to thrust deeper, not pull out. So, while withdrawal might work on occasion, as a regular form of birth control it''s extremely risky, because like most behaviors, the longer you do it, the more confident you become. The problem is, this isn't so much about competence or awareness, it's about controlling a reflex while also controlling desire, both competing against each other..in the heat of passion. Sooner or later, you're going to get caught, so it's best to not even go there.

Also, as an FYI, withdrawal does not protect you from STI's, no ejaculation is necessary for transmission.


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Re: Do I need to feel this nervous - March 13th 2012, 06:33 PM

I don't think you do have anything to worry about if you didn't come inside of her but in the future, I would definitely suggest being safe rather than risking it and having all this worry and nerves, plus it saves you from things such as STIs.
   
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