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Question Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 04:22 AM

Everyone knows when they have crossed a line, but everyone draws the line in a different place.(I am talking about losing virginity here.) I'm just wondering where do YOU draw the line. What situation is the wrong situation to lose it?
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Re: Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 05:05 AM

Well, I'm not a virgin but I would say that I would draw the line in any public place. That's just my opinion though. I think that you should only lose "it" when you're 100% ready and comfortable with where you are and who you're with. So, any other situation than that would be the wrong one, in my opinion.

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Re: Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 05:23 AM

Well, (1) if you are not ready, (2) if you are not consenting. This includes a lot of different situations as well. For example, if you are not emotionally ready but feel you have to because it's "weird" to be a guy, be over 18, and a virgin, that's not the right time. This also applies if you are underage, though in my own opinion the law matters less than your actual emotional state. Then obviously if you are not consenting, feel coerced, or in anyway violated, that is not the right time either.

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Re: Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 09:49 AM

When you're drunk and want to lost it just to say you did... that's where I draw the line.

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Re: Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 11:24 AM

I'm not a virgin, but I'd draw the line at not consenting either.

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Re: Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 03:26 PM

I'm not a virgin as well But I'd draw the line without consent too.

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Re: Where is the line? - March 15th 2012, 06:00 PM

The line is wherever you want to place it. The time comes when u are ready and it should just arise from the inside... When u do things, not just havinf sex, whatever, just because u feel forced, or because there is like a social preassure on you, that is when it is wrong
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Re: Where is the line? - March 17th 2012, 02:41 AM

The line depends on the person. I'm not a virgin, but I would personally draw the line at without consent or making it quick just to get it done with. If that makes sense? It should be with someone you care about & the reasons behind actually doing it should be right as well.
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Re: Where is the line? - March 17th 2012, 04:11 AM

I am a virgin
I think that I agree with the others. I would draw the line at not consenting. Plus in public places. I feel like sex can be a wonderful, that derves to be done with someone you care about. I think that we all have a certain time that we are meant to loose it. You will know when the time is right. <3
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Re: Where is the line? - March 18th 2012, 01:01 AM

While drunk/high
In order to make someone else happy
In order to save a failing relationship
With someone who is more into having sex than into you
Because your friends are all doing it
Because you want to get it over with
Because you want to get together with someone
Because you want to win someone over
As a favor
To fulfill a debt
To distract yourself from feeling (fill in emotion here)
Out of guilt

Those are just a few. Frankly, though, the line is an individual thing. This is just my opinion, but I believe that when a person loses their virginity, it should be because A) they want to B) with someone who cares about them/they care about and C) without some kind of strings attached. In my experience, these generally make for the best first-time experiences.

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Re: Where is the line? - March 18th 2012, 02:12 AM

Well, I am a virgin and my last boyfriend tried to force me into sex after less than a month. So I think I draw the line at too short of a relationship, I need the comfort and security to know that I'm ready to give it up...but that's just me

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Re: Where is the line? - March 19th 2012, 08:43 AM

If you didn't consent, then you still had sex and it's up to the person to decide whether they lose their virginity or not. In my view, the, "right time" doesn't matter, you lost it and that's all there is to it, however, if the person wants to still claim virginity, I would fine it perfectly acceptable given their trauma. I don't consider being not emotionally prepared as a reason for still being a virgin, assuming there was consent. The same goes for having sex out of need for money, revenge, guilt, etc..., none of that matters.

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