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I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 09:56 PM

I'm fourteen years old, I've never had a boyfriend before, but I masturbate
And today I went onto a site called omegle and I masturbated in front of a stranger, who was also masturbating
And after I just felt so dirty and disgusting and can't believe what I did
I'm not religious but that went against my own set of principles and I am so ashamed of myself
I started crying because of how dirty I felt. I've lost all respect for myself and feel so guilty I want to die.
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 10:29 PM

Hi there. First of all, welcome to TeenHelp.

Now, mistakes happen. You're not the first person who's done something they're not exactly proud of, but the point is you know that now. You know that's not your type of thing or something that makes you feel very good about yourself, so you can avoid it now. It may take a while before you feel better about yourself, but everyone makes mistakes. I've seen a few threads on here very similar to this one, so you're not alone. This doesn't change the awesome person you are or anything. You're still you.
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 10:40 PM

First of all, I use the chat feature of Omegle, as it is a rather fun place. However it blantantly states the video section is for 18+ stricly where as 13 and older are allowed within the chat area.

Secondly it's important to realize that what you've done is child pornopgraphy, and if it were to ever get out you would be charged as a sex offender.

With that being said you made a bad choice at a bad time. The important thing is you learn from that mistake in the future. Simply remember how you felt in the future before doing these things again.

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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 10:42 PM

Hey! Don't beat yourself up about this. We all mistakes. While your mistake might have been a big one, instead of letting this tear you down, let this be a lesson to you. Masturbating with complete strangers isn't the best thing to do, but let this teach you that we all mistakes, and we need to learn from them.











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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 10:59 PM

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Secondly it's important to realize that what you've done is child pornopgraphy, and if it were to ever get out you would be charged as a sex offender.
Maybe somebody who is more savvy with American law can confirm this, but I don't quite think that's the way it works

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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 11:09 PM

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Maybe somebody who is more savvy with American law can confirm this, but I don't quite think that's the way it works

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I'm not sure if this law varies by state, but where I live, that's the law as well.

However, I would just like to emphasize that mistakes happen & the OP has realized this isn't something she is into.
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 23rd 2012, 11:17 PM

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Maybe somebody who is more savvy with American law can confirm this, but I don't quite think that's the way it works

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In my state, this is also the law. Not only would she be charged..but the people in contact with the photo will also be charged as well. What for? Possession to child pornography.











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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 24th 2012, 12:13 AM

Yogi: Yup, doesn't matter if it's you or some random kid. The best part is the person who veiwed it still wouldn't be in trouble as they were not informed of her age.

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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 24th 2012, 09:37 AM

I didn't even know it was against the law
I live in England, by the way.
I'm gonna learn from this. I made a terrible mistake but it's never going to happen again. I'll steer away from that website and try to build up respect for myself. I'm just hoping everyone does something stupid when they are young and hormonal. I know that is no excuse for what I did, but it does make me feel better.
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 24th 2012, 01:11 PM

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I'm gonna learn from this. I made a terrible mistake but it's never going to happen again. I'll steer away from that website and try to build up respect for myself.
And that's the only thing you can do now. What's done is done and worrying about it won't change anything. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes- as long as we learn from them.



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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 25th 2012, 02:15 AM

You can learn from this, you always can,
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 25th 2012, 03:23 AM

Please don't beat yourself up over this. We all make mistakes. The important thing is that you learn from this. You did it, but it's in the past. Just move on from this and choose not to do it again. That's really all you can do.


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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - March 25th 2012, 05:03 AM

What matters most is what we do from now on not what we did in the past. So learn from it, pick your chin up, stand up, and get walking. Look forward don't look back. We all do mistakes and feeling bad is a normal feeling. Just don't dwell on it. Recognize you did a mistake, shake it off and move on. You are no less valuable in any way. Hope you feel better!


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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - April 4th 2012, 09:29 PM

Hi. please please please don't feel too bad about this. I've never done anything on a video chat before with someone, but trust me... I'm done worse things, or maybe just as bad as you, but numerous times. and I was younger than you. All has to do with masturbating, but I did the cyber sex thing for a long time. and phone sex actually also! with my boyfriend though. Haha. It made me closer to Jesus though. It made me who I am today. I felt horrible for so long. and guilty. I had an addiction to masturbating for years actually. this April 10th till be 2 years since the last time!! But yeah.. what everyone else said about we all make mistakes, but the important part is that we LEARN from them..., that's all true. also, feeling bad means you're not that kind of person and that you're smart. for only being 13, good job. you've got a good head on your shoulders, just don't do anything to mess it up later on! PM if you wanna talk some more. don't feel guilty. I believe that the only way to not feel as bad is to confess it to a priest, but since you're not Catholic you can't. You can always talk to God, though. And just know, Jesus loves you.

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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - April 4th 2012, 10:02 PM

There's a couple things that you should understand.

Between the ages of 10-14, those were my sexual exploration years. Back then, I don't think Omegle was out (or popular at least), or Chat Roulette. I had AIM chats. As a result, I cyber sexed with a bunch of people.

Masturbating with random strangers on camera isn't the best thing to do considering it could get you in trouble with the law, but it's certainly an experience that you shouldn't regret. It wasn't your best choice, but at the time it felt right and it was interesting. Now you realize that it's really not your thing, which is perfectly fine either way. Do what makes you feel happy, but be aware that there are potential consequences.

Secondly, don't lose respect for yourself. If you were a 14 year old prostitute, you'd make a shit ton of money for a 14 year old...but that's more of a debatable topic as to whether you lost respect for yourself. One occasion isn't enough to not feel comfortable with yourself. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we make mistakes. At the end of the day, we'll always be ourselves...so we can't hate ourselves or disrespect ourselves because that wouldn't be beneficial. You know what you did was wrong, you didn't enjoy it as much as you thought, and it's as simple as that. It's part of growing up. I'm 22 years old and I still make mistakes, but it's important that we learn from them.

Thirdly, masturbation is perfectly natural. I've been masturbating since I was around 9 years old...and I'm 22 now. I've been masturbating almost longer than you've been alive. I have no regrets because it's nothing to be ashamed of. Granted I don't tell the whole world, but it's nothing to feel bad about. Masturbation is nothing but beneficial to you.
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - April 9th 2012, 11:49 AM

If you feel ashamed of yourself,Then you should not try to do it again.
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - April 9th 2012, 08:47 PM

We all make mistakes, its how we learn
   
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Re: I'm just so ashamed of myself - April 9th 2012, 10:50 PM

Hey, we all make mistakes, you live and you learn. Omegle isn't the best place, but I've been on it recently too (Only chat... Makes it easier to say that I'm male if they can't see that I'm not binding at that particular moment.)

-I didn't know Omegle video chat was +18, oops...


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