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Question Oral Sex? - April 5th 2012, 01:04 AM

I'm 16 and a virgin (may I add) and my boyfriend almost 18.
I've been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now (we're kind of 'taking it slow), and in a few days, our year anniversary's coming up. My boyfriend always gets me something for our month anniversary; something sweet and thoughtful, you know, and I usually get him something stupid...
Would it be stupid if I were to give my boyfriend a blow job for our anniversary? Like... I know I'm ready and everything, but would it just be plain retarded to do that. Do you think he'd like it, or would I freak him out. Ahhh, I really don't know ;_;
   
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Re: Oral Sex? - April 5th 2012, 02:50 AM

You've been together for 11 months, it won't freak him out unless he's not into it. It's best to talk about these things before jumping into them. COMMUNICATION is key!











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Re: Oral Sex? - April 5th 2012, 04:10 AM

Wait.

It's sweet you want to get him something for your anniversary, and it's even sweeter that you'd like to make it special, something he'll remember. But oral sex?

There's a natural progression with these things, and it's unclear here what that has been. So, if it's something that's sorta on it's way anyway...you know this, btw, by what you guys have been doing sexually and how that's worked out..then that's one thing.

But if you've been 'Taking it slow' (as you say) and you decide to jump ahead to oral sex, the risk of it not working out as well as say, the other sweet things you've been doing is much greater...even with 'Communication'. That's b/c communication also means understanding where things are in the relationship without the need to talk..what both of your understanding is about these things and how that translates to what you've decided to do. It's a mistake to think that every guy will delight at the opportunity to experience oral sex..they really do have to want it, and out of more than mere curiosity. They have to be emotionally ready. Unless they see these things as largely entertainment.

So, before you make a move here that could backfire, think about where you guys are and most importantly, how you arrived there, before deciding on your own that he might want to move forward with this.


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Re: Oral Sex? - April 5th 2012, 04:28 AM

I would just communicate. First, get him something other than the oral sex, like a cologne or something, whatever your boyfriend likes. Maybe a home-made gift as well! Then, have a nice dinner out together, have a nice day, and if you guys can get some alone time do what you normally do (make out or whatever you may do) and bring up the idea. This can be communicating through language, for example, "Would you be interested in such-and-such" or it can be more like context clues, hinting at it. I would recommend a little bit of both.

If you think you are ready, and you feel fine about it, I don't think this is weird at all. Just communicate, make sure it's what he wants, and that you don't hurt him, and prepare for some awkwardness, but awkwardness in the good way. Good luck!


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Re: Oral Sex? - April 8th 2012, 04:26 AM

He would love a BJ. every guy does. Its a very special gift. Things to remember about a BJ. NO TEETH. NEVER LET YOUR TEETH TOUCH HIS PENIS.
   
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Re: Oral Sex? - April 8th 2012, 06:44 AM

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He would love a BJ. every guy does.
Just wanted to say that not every guy likes BJ's. Just like not every girl likes oral sex either. Its all a matter of preference, so as others have said above you should talk to him about it first to see if he wants it as well.
And by the way, stupid gifts are sometimes the best gifts I personally love getting stupid/funny gifts.


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Re: Oral Sex? - April 8th 2012, 10:53 AM

Offer it to him, but don't just whip it out and try it. If he doesn't want it, that's fine. If he does, then you have your present.
   
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Re: Oral Sex? - April 8th 2012, 07:24 PM

I think you should, it will be very rememberbale for you both
   
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Re: Oral Sex? - April 9th 2012, 12:02 AM

I think he'd love it, but best to talk to him about it first. x
   
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Re: Oral Sex? - April 9th 2012, 04:52 AM

I think its a nice offer but you should talk to him about it first. Once you start these things you can't take it back. It becomes a part of your lives.

Also what about you? are you ready or is he willing to return the favor. Any kind of sex should be shared. So I think you both have things to discuss.
   
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Re: Oral Sex? - April 11th 2012, 08:37 AM

MOST guys like BJ's, that's not really a doubt... I know some people here are saying how a BJ isn't exactly a good anniversary gift, but honestly (coming from a guy), I'd be ecstatic if I were him...

If you're comfortable with it, then I can almost assure you your boyfriend will definitely like it... It's what most guys dream of haha... To me, this isn't a bad present but it all depends on you!


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