Wanting a child at 15

[thruel00kinglass]

i am 15 years old and i really want to have a baby. i have been having dreams of having a child and almost made a bracelet today for my future child. its not horniness or anything like that...i just want a child. i dont know what to do. i dont want to make a mistake and regret it but having a child younger means that they in your life longer...please help

[Double X]

No, I promise promise promise it is just your hormones. Don't worry, your not weird, but you are most likely not completely mature enough for a child yet. Just take your mind off it and do other things

[morethanuseless]

ive seen this before in others so you are not alone.
I think you should really wait to have a child after you get your own life set up as best you can. You want a child to come in the world with the best situation you can possibly give them. So i think you should wait on that. And plus you are still young, be free and stay young as long a you can because it wont last. You have plenty of time to be grown up and have kids.

[thruel00kinglass]

thanks you guys, yeah i want to succeed in college and stuff and find the right guy...maybe its the stupid tv shows like the secret life and keeping up with the kardashians....everyones having babies and stuff....i dont know, i will listen to your advice because its smart. =] thanks you guys

[xx little miss clumsy xx]

A lot of people feel like this, and as Kyle said, it will be your hormones.
I'm sure you've got so much more to give, and so much more of your life to live before having a child. Make the best life you can for yourself, before bringing a child into it, it will be so much better for both of yous if you can.
Your only young once, so do enjoy it!

[aaron_1]

Heya!

It's probably just a 'now' thing ya know? alot of my female friends who are 16/17/18 talk bout wanting babies too and i guess that's normal.
But being pregnant at this age aint fun and you won't be able to enjoy life like a normal teen should.
My girl's 16 and she's pregnant and i can tell you it's no fun. (For her and me)
She gets so tired during the day, and grumpy, and when the babies come out (twins), we've gotta support them and all.

And that would mean full time work and school. So enjoy life while you can!

Aaron

[DeadlySin]

I was like that. Well actually...I still am.
I'd love to have a baby! I always have been like.
You know, seven years old with a baby doll wishing it was real.
But the truth is, not many are ready for a baby at your age or mine.
Wanting one is healthy and normal.
But if you ever do decide to take the step and get pregnant.
THINK!!! A lot...About it.
You know you'd have to dedicate all of your time to it, put off schooling and friends.
It woud be a lot of work.

[Lizzie]

Here are three similar threads made just this month alone about teenagers having the urge to have a child:

http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f7-pr...eed-your-help/
http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f7-pr...-i-want-child/
http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f7-pr...wanting-child/

It is very common to feel this way. Read through some of the replies, and I am sure you will see this is a common feeling amoung young women.

[Imagine]

Yeah, it is common to want a child i have wanted one.
But you really have to focus on your future.
When the time is right, and you with the right person it will happen.
My mom got pregnant with me at 16, my brother at 18, and my sister at 21. It is def not easy. In no shape or form. She struggled. I was having to sleep with them in the car a lot when i was younger.

Focus on school first and get your life together, wanting a child is normal. But it will come with a HUGE responsibility. I don't think any fifteen year old is ready for that. Have fun and enjoy being young!

Take care and PM me if you would ever like to talk about anything.

[thruel00kinglass]

aww thanks soo much!!!

[LucyLouWho]

What you see on those TV shows doesn't even compare to what having a child to take care of is really like. No matter how much you think about it or what amount of time you spend planning it, you'll never really know what having a baby will be like until you actually do. Sure, you hear about the sleepless nights, not being able to go out when you want, and all that other stuff, but you don't really think that it's going to be a big deal to you until it happens.

My advice is to stay in school, get an awesome job, find a good man that you know loves you and will be the right person to have a family with and THEN think about having kids. Trust me, it seems like a long time from now, but it's really not. Once you actually have a baby and stay at home all the time with him/her, although you love your little one, you would really like the opportunity to be able to go out, even to go class, and do things. But it's not that easy when a little life is depending on you for everything.

Being a mother is amazing, but it's not a "now or never" kind of thing. There is still time for you to get a degree, a good job, and then start to plan your family. No rush.

[.Brittany.]

Too be honest, I felt that way when I was younger as well. I was so jealous of all my friends having babies at young ages. Now I'm 20 and when I look at it, I'm a lot happier then they are, and they all wish that they waited. Maybe you could babysit overnight, and see what its like. You need to consider school, and money.

PM me if you need anything
Brittany

[LucyLouWho]

Originally Posted by .Brittany.

Too be honest, I felt that way when I was younger as well. I was so jealous of all my friends having babies at young ages. Now I'm 20 and when I look at it, I'm a lot happier then they are, and they all wish that they waited. Maybe you could babysit overnight, and see what its like. You need to consider school, and money.

PM me if you need anything
Brittany

You're a lot happier than they are? How so?
I'm 18 and have a almost 5 month old... And I'm the happiest I've ever been. Sure, there are some restrictions on my life now and it's harder than it would be if I didn't have a child, but my son makes up for it. I don't consider him to be a burden. I would think that any caring mother would feel the same, but I could be wrong.

With that being said, I still suggest waiting to have a baby. Take the time to, like I said earlier, finish school and get a good job. You have a lot of time still to consider having children. There is no rush.

[Imagine]

I don't think that a child would not be a burden. Like i said: My mom was 16 when she had me, and 18 when she had my brother. It was hard for her of course. She loved us though and was happy. In a way i think we got her through the times she was struggling.

[Rainbow Dash]

I sometimes feel the same, but then I remember that children annoy me (I like babies, just not children) Like everyone else has said just wait until you get your life in order first before you bring another life into this world.

[thruel00kinglass]

yes i understand what you guys are saying. im going to wait...well b/c i dont have a partner (1) and (2) i want to get into the university of california, berkeley...and its sort of hard to get into...so if i have a baby i will just be at the local community college when i know i can do better. thank you all for helping me...you really helped make me see the opposing view.

[Imagine]

Originally Posted by thruel00kinglass

yes i understand what you guys are saying. im going to wait...well b/c i dont have a partner (1) and (2) i want to get into the university of california, berkeley...and its sort of hard to get into...so if i have a baby i will just be at the local community college when i know i can do better. thank you all for helping me...you really helped make me see the opposing view.

That is a fantastic school. I live 20 mins away, and was just there a few days ago. You can do anything you set your mind to! A baby can most certainly wait.

[thruel00kinglass]

aww thanks i appreciate it =] thanks so much for helping me out

[Imagine]

Yep! That's what were here for,
PM me anytime.