shes preg???!?!?!?

[Mason]

...my girl just told me she thinks she is pregnant.

we had sex once when we were broken up without a condom. i knew i should have woren one and i said that but she didn't want me to cuz the guys that raped her didn't wear one and she said she wanted to get them off her basically idk..sounds stupid now but i just wanted to make things better for her. i didn't even cum tho because she freaked out durning it but idk maybe pre? idk. i'm just like wow...

she is freaking out said she don't want it cuz if there was any chance it was one of the guys that raped her that she can't handle that. she took a test after she was raped at the hospital and it came up neg but she said something about a false neg...idk nething bout this stuff..so she is freaking saying what if its really theirs. she was freaking right out crying and she asked me to punch her in the stomach. she even braced herself like i really would. i just held her and tried to calm her down. i kept telling her it was mine and not to think like that. she just kept saying "what if its theirs" i told her then that we could go to the doctors and they can see how long she is and then we will know but she said no because we were together when she was actually raped so we still would never know for sure until it was born but she wouldn't take the chance of carrying the "demon" if it was theirs. i dont know what to do now. so basically she wants an abortion because it might be they guys that raped her but it could be mine!!! what should i do?! i'm not ready to be a dad, not at all. i can't even do whats right by me let alone a baby...but that could be my baby...our baby...i just don't know how to take all this right now..i just don't know man..

[AnaMZ]

Hi Mason,

Okay, firstly, why does your girlfriend think that she is pregnant? Has she taken another test that has confirmed it? If not, make sure that she takes one within the next few weeks. It's understandable that she's scared about being pregnant from her rape, but the chances of a "false negative" are very slim.

If it is confirmed that she is actually pregnant, you will both need to make a decision as to whether to keep the baby or not. It sounds like she doesn't want this baby, whether it is yours or otherwise, but please discourage her from rushing headlong into an abortion without weighing up the consequences first. (By the sounds of it, your girlfriend is quite possibly unstable at the moment, so be extra careful that she doesn't try to employ her own abortion methods - this can be fatal.) You may both be unable to raise a child, but also bear in mind that an abortion can be highly traumatic for a woman, and for somebody who has already been through rape, you need to be sure that she will be able to handle the emotions that she'll experience as a result of aborting.

Thirdly, I would advise you to not listen to your girlfriend in future when she makes requests such as not wearing a condom during sex. Not only could you have gotten her pregnant, but think about it - if she was raped, her rapist could have a very high chance of carrying an STD. By "getting them off her", she may have just given the disease/s to you! I am sorry to hear about this horrible rape, but at the end of the day, if she's not willing to let you take care of your own sexual health, then you should not be having sex.

[Ryan1]

First of all, You’ve got your head on straight.. You’re a man at the age of 15 and I proud to say that. Your whole post was focused on making her life better. She’s lucky to have you around.

With that been said you’ve got to take into consideration a few things. Abortion is something that people feel strongly against you both have to make that decision because that’s one the lives with a person.

On the flip side you could encourage her to have the baby and put it up for adoption and give the world to a couple that can’t have a baby. There are options, and honestly if you want my opinion a false negative on a pregnancy test doesn’t come up to often. I get 9/10 odds that it’s yours.

Look this horrible hand to get dealt - You’ve just got to make best of it.

[Mason]

ive been talking to her all night trying to calm her down. she hasn't got her period thats why...i guess the doc said she might not get if cuz of the stress/truama of the rape but she took a test and it came up positive. idk...i just feel like its mine. she took a test after the rape and it was neg...and she got her period the next month..then all the sudden she didn't get it..and that was after we had sex without a condom..which i know was stupid but she got tested for stds after the rape and everything came up clean so i fig i was safe and i just wanted to make her feel better and if that got "them off her" then thats what i had to do. stupid know i now but seriously when it comes to this girl i would give my life to make her okay. i love her so much and this baby shit scares the crap outta me but just knowing its ours...i want it. i believe its mine. idk. i have a feeling and im scared but that would be my baby. i don't think i could just let her abort it. idk. its just so much to take in right now. i got her to calm down alittle. i told her chances of a false neg are slim and that she got her period to begin w after the rape so most likly it would be mine over theirs. idk. i still can't believe it. i wanna do right by her...and the baby. i could never picture havin a baby right now...never in the game plan but shit happens and i fee like its my responsibility to take care of us now. its not the babies fault we fucked up and it shouldn't have to pay for our mistakes...idk...whats the chances of a false postivie then? should we make a docs apt? idk what to do. i made her promise me not to hurt herself or the baby. that we would fig this out and that no matter what i would make things okay. shes been thru so much as it is i feel like an ass for doing this to her. if it is my baby i never meant for this to happen i just wanted to make things better just do what she wanted to make it okay and now i made it worst for her i shoulda just wore a condom. i feel like such an ass now. she has been thru so much already....

[mommieof2]

It's not just your fault. She told you to have sex with her without a condom. she played just as much into this as you did. If she got her period after she was raped then it's not that guys baby. she will have to go to a doctor either way if she is pregnant to get it confirmed. If neither of you are ready for a baby, like others have said, adoption is always an option. And to me, a much better option than abortion. Either way it's not going to be easy on either of you wether you decide to keep the baby or choose adoption or abortion. I got pregnant when i was 16 and the daddy was 17. It was very hard. But if you work at it you can give that baby a wonderful life. It's really up to you and her what you choose to do. Just make sure you both agree on your decision. Goodluck!

[Jacksonian]

Ok, now Mason, the key here is to see when she was raped and when she didn't get her period. And already you know that she got her period after she was raped, so there is a very very high possibility that it is not "their's". And the only other thing is that it is yours.

So you know that already, the next thing is to be calm and see what to do next. Your life is going to have to undergo a very large re-arrangement in order to accomodate this baby.

As for you girlfriend, you will need to ensure her that you are there for her and help her calm down. Make sure you do the best you can on your part to be there for her. Let her get other tests. Because this may be a false positive. But get the other tests and know for sure for sure that she is pregnant. and then from there, the next step can be decided.

[Megan1]

If she got her period after she was raped, it's almost certainly (I'm not a doctor, so I can't say for sure) your baby. If you haven't already, definitely tell her that. And have her go to a doctor, like anyone who is pregnant should.

It is a very hard decision for people so young. And just the fact that you want to be there for her is really going to help a lot. If this is your baby, do you want to keep it? No matter what happens- whether the baby is yours or not (like I said, I think it almost has to be yours), I think adoption is always the best choice if you aren't going to keep your baby. There are so many people who would be willing to take care of the baby and give it a good home, and thousands of people who are trying to get a baby and would love yours like their own. So, take that into consideration if you two do decide not to keep the baby. I can PROMISE you that there will be someone who will want your baby if you two decide that you are not ready to be parents. Good luck!