thinking to much about my future children

[Pour the Teapot]

ok, so i'm thirteen, and i don't plan on having kids for a long time. but myself thinking a LOT about my future kids. it's like i know them, i know their names, how they're gonna act and dress, how i'm gonna raise them, etc. i think about them, like, every day. is this unnatural? should i stop thinking about my future kids since i won't have them until a long time from now? is this unhealthy? ???

[Jocelyn.]

I don't think its unhealthy... Its great that you are actually putting thought into how you want to raise your children, instead of just diving in like a lot of people do. I was the same way Its good to know what you want out of life.

Just don't let thinking about babies constantly make you think its time to start having them! If you want to raise your babies the way you plan, the first thing to realize is you have to make it about them and not you. Wait to have them until you can properly care for them.

[Nicola]

I think it's perfectly normal. A lot of girls would experience the same thing, and I too have my future kids names picked out. I actually think most girls have. It's not unnatural, I'd say it's actually very natural.

Like the poster above me said, don't make it make you think it's time to have kids.

[Sioned]

Just make sure you don't end up one of those control freak parents, it's not healthy for your child. Never put weight on your children's shoulders when it comes to what they should become, sure you can TRY shoving them into that direction but they're going to become what they're going to become.

Just like any common-sense relationship with any human, give them freedom based on your status. Parents tend to have SLIGHTLY more control, than, per-say, friendships.

[Nicolette]

Its hormones, thinking about your future is always exciting even if it isn't written in stone. I thought I had my future kids names picked out when I was 13 but now they're all TOTALLY different