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Unhappy daydreaming and wishes - June 27th 2010, 01:38 AM

going on two years now ive desperately wanted to have a baby. okay i know im young but its always my dream. i have dream after dream aboit expierences where im pregnant. sometimes i pretend to stick my tummy out and say im pregnant in the mirror its just somethinf i reall want and it mAkes me unhappy i cant. what should i do? thx
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Re: daydreaming and wishes - June 27th 2010, 09:16 AM

Hi there! There's nothing wrong with pretending to be or envisioning yourself pregnant, as long as you realize that you are not in the position to have a baby at the moment. You are only 14. You are a minor, and most likely living with your parents at the present time. Wait until you are a bit older, are financially independent, and are in a steady relationship. It wouldn't really be fair to your baby otherwise.

At 14, you may not realize all the hard work motherhood entails. It takes a toll on you both physically and emotionally, not mention it is expensive. Take your time. Finish up school, and see where life leads you. There is no rush on these things. You are young. You have plenty of time.

It's perfectly okay, and even natural, to dream about having a child one day. However, for now, it would probably be best not to act on those desires. Sometime in the future, you will be able to offer your baby a more enriching, fulfilling life than you can right now. It will be best for all parties involved.

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Re: daydreaming and wishes - June 27th 2010, 09:36 AM

When you say you can't, do you mean that you can't, or that you're too young.

If its because you're too young, well. There is plenty of time to have a child. Just enjoy your childhood first. Its natural to have a lot of hormones running round you at the moment just begging for you to have a kid. Very natural. Just don't rush into it. Time flies anyway. Enjoy your childhood.

If its because you physically can't, there is always adoption or even bottle babies etc.



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Re: daydreaming and wishes - June 28th 2010, 02:37 AM

It's perfectly normal to have those feelings, it's all a part of the teenage hormones.
Girl's are the nurturers and want to have kids a lot earlier than guys do.
But wait, you need time to be a kid before you have a kid of your own.
Imagine being in high school or college and not being able to go to the movies, or bowling, or shopping, or hang out with your friends because you don't want to take the baby and have no one that can watch them late at night.
It's better to wait, I know it's hard, but it'll be worth it.


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Re: daydreaming and wishes - June 28th 2010, 10:14 PM

You're only 14... babies are ALOT of work... ALOT, I know, my husband and I just had one and I never dreamt that it would be so much work between feeding, changing, washing, you have a life that depends on you 24/7... Wait until you're in a stable relationship and financially secure.

Go babysit, you'll get your love for babies out that way and hopefully that'll help you get your fill... I know they're amazing little things but they're little life suckers and you're too young to give up everything for a child.





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