hoping i am..even though im young

[toomuch]

in the past i have been pregnant before and even during it i got my period once during it but very very light.
and now i am suffering from most of the same symptoms last time they came on right away after a week or so of the pregnancy...an the same thing is happening now, also i am getting my period but the blood is not alot at all its not even red...so idk if its blood or not.

i am very tierd all the time, yet i sleep about 12 hours every night.
i NEVER wake up or feel energized.
i am peeing allott even if its nothing i feel the urge to always have to pee.
i am getting very bad head aches.
im having some mood swings mostly from happy to very depressed or to very angry.
my stomach has gotten a little bigger also.
and my boobs have like DOUBLED there size. they went from oh hello ladies to hhheeeelllooo0oo0o laddiessss. lik they r pretty big.. lol.

but i havent been able to obtain a pregnancy test yet, hopfully i will soon!

but also, im am strongly hoping i am pregnant, i dont know why but i really want to have a child even though i am about to be 16.


does any one think that my symptoms might just be from this crazy heat? or could i be pregnant again?

[AmberS9109]

I don't think your boobs would be getting bigger yet. They get bigger because they fill with milk, which usually doesn't happen until at least a month into the pregnancy.

[toomuch]

okay then maybe its just heat or something?

[Maloo]

You're only 15 and you've been pregnant before?
And you want a child? Having a child means saying goodbye to your life for a while..

[toomuch]

yes i know and i realized that actually i havent gotten my period yet...and i think i conceived around memorial day =/ but it was ina pool so did the chemicals maybe stop it? or is that just a myth

[AmberS9109]

Originally Posted by toomuch

yes i know and i realized that actually i havent gotten my period yet...and i think i conceived around memorial day =/ but it was ina pool so did the chemicals maybe stop it? or is that just a myth

Complete & total myth.

[toomuch]

ugh i thought so...

but thank you

[brokenn]

well have u atleasst considered to tell your mom/dad?

[brokenn]

I believe that you should tell your guardian.. sooner.
not later b/c/ either way you will have to tell them. I mean im sure you are very afraid to tell then but and you feel that he/she/ will kill you but it will hurt most if u wait.




and you said you had been pregnant before..? did u tell them then ? where they upset.

you also need to ask your self if your emotionally,finacially,physically, and mentally ready to become a teen parent.

[no.ordinary.dreamer]

at the very least tell your parent/guardian that your period is messed up and you really want to be checked out
and trust me they wont want to come into the room with you at the doctor and if they do you can be like "this is kinda awkward and personal so could you wait outside"
and you can tell the doctor your concern and they can check it out.

[toomuch]

last time i told my mom (i dont have a dad) the day after the tests came out positive..and she was calmer then i though shed be but imediatly said i HAD to get an abortion...but this time id wait a few months so she cant force me to do this again, because if i am i want to keep the child. and then when she notices symptoms (shes a nurse wont take long!) i will tell her...i aslo heard that she cant hit me if im pregnant she could get in big trouble for that,

but one other problem i will get kicked out most likely if i am....and have to go live with my cheating ex =/

[-A-]

The symptoms you've mention fit many other possible diagnosis, such as growing.
More then anything you could be going thru a growth spurt.

But just to be safe, go and get tested.
And buy condoms.

[J&M's Mommy]

Ok, so let me get this right ...

You are 15. You want a baby ... BUT you are concerned your mother would try to hit you, you are almost certain you will get kicked out and then your last option is to go live with your cheating ex?

I am sorry hon, but I hope you are not pregnant. Because that is definitely no life to be bringing a baby in to. I know you want to be a parent, but I promise you that it all changes once there is an actual baby to take care of. And you definitely need a more stable life than what you have mentioned above.

[bee]

I was the same as you when I thought I was pregnant, but it turns out I was just late for my period. Wait a few weeks and take a test if you still havent got your period. I hope for your sake that you're NOT pregnant, having and raising a child is far harder than you could ever imagine.

[toomuch]

thankyou and you are right..its not something to raise a child in but...idk if my mom would actually kick me out...it was probably a threat so that i wouldnt actually get pregnant u know?
and im done growing pretty much it toke me 7 months to grow a 1/2 inch and i havent grown since so idk if thats it but its a possiblity.

and i do buy condoms but he just ddnt wanna use one cuz he could pull out in time..idk =/

[Nicolette]

pulling out is NOT a form of birthcontrol, precum can still get you pregnant. Are you on the pill?

I honestly hope you're not pregnant, I just had a child myself and even though my husband and I planned him he's a little handful! Babies are life suckers, suddenly your job is to take care of them 24/7, they depend on you for everything and you have time for barely anything.

I know you want a baby but don't you want your child to have an amazing life? Parents who are together and love eachother, a stable homelife, financial security? There's alot that goes into having a child other than just getting pregnant.

[toomuch]

yes i want the best for the baby, even though i want to be a parent badly, im not gonna run out and get pregnant if im not now...but if i am i just cant go through another abortion and loose another.

and yes i am on birth control but every month i always miss one or two pills =/ and i had missed one the day before i had sex.

[no.ordinary.dreamer]

Originally Posted by toomuch

and yes i am on birth control but every month i always miss one or two pills =/ and i had missed one the day before i had sex.

pulling out does not work
tell him he either wears a condom or he doesnt have sex with you.
dont have sex without a condom if you are forgetting to take the pill. try setting an alarm on your phone to remind you to take it.

[Maloo]

You're 15. You're not done growing, at all.

You really need to find out if you're pregnant or not, and if you are, and decide to go through with having the child, I really hope you consider adoption. It's not fair to not only ruin your life, the life of the baby's father, but the child's life as well.

[toomuch]

well today i did call the person who would be the father if i am and we are now on good terms, and he said he will be there if we did have a baby...financialy we are set but age wise n stuff no.

and i really cant do another abortion if i have to id do adoption. because yes you have to think about the child too.

and my friend has been caling me every day cuz he set his alarm on his phone and he always reminds me to take it on time every day (hes in love with me and hell also be there for me if i have a kid along with ALOT of my other friends)

[TheWhiteTornado]

You can't think of this as "if I'm made to get rid of him/her, I'd go with adoption" because that's still being selfish beyond belief in only giving up the baby to a better life if you have to. Also I really doubt you are or will be financially set as you'll probably have to forfeit your education and that'd kinda ruin any chance of getting a good salary that you'd need to support the child.

If it comes to it and you do have the child, please think of him/her first and willingly give him/her up for adoption.

[no.ordinary.dreamer]

the cost of diapers alone is ridiculous
then add in:
wipes
doctor visits (expensive and frequent because babies have to get certain shots and check ups and toddlers especially when they start going to school get sick a lot and then you have to pay for medicine too)
clothes
crib
car seat
toys
bibs
pacifiers
baby shampoo and lotion
infant bath tub
baby nail clippers
changing mat
diaper bag
baby monitor
if you dont breast feed you need formula which is expensive and bottles and bottle brushes
when they get older you will need bowls, spoons, forks, special food, high chair, new clothes, sippy cups
you will need maternity clothes and nursing bras and breast pads

and i still probably left out more
and oh yeah eventually you need to send your kid to school
and you still need your education

adoption is always an option

[MisplacedDreamer]

Curious how you guys could be financially set if you may be kicked out of your house. Not a lot of places will hire full-time, especially a minor. If he is over 18, he may be breaking some laws depending on your local laws as you are not 17.

I am sure that there are group homes that would take a minor in with her child till you graduate high school in New York. I know there are some in my home town. However, it wouldn't be a picnic living there and there usually is a waiting list with abuse cases coming first.

You shouldn't have gained weight in the first trimester. The symptoms are vague so getting a test asap is important. Is there a Planned Parenthood near you? They can go through legal options and community support with you.

[EightEleven91]

Originally Posted by toomuch

last time i told my mom (i dont have a dad) the day after the tests came out positive..and she was calmer then i though shed be but imediatly said i HAD to get an abortion...but this time id wait a few months so she cant force me to do this again, because if i am i want to keep the child. and then when she notices symptoms (shes a nurse wont take long!) i will tell her...i aslo heard that she cant hit me if im pregnant she could get in big trouble for that,

but one other problem i will get kicked out most likely if i am....and have to go live with my cheating ex =/

Surely you're better off getting an abortion than getting kicked out of your house then. For you and the baby, its the best option.
May seem harsh, but its a no brainer really.

[toomuch]

iv been to planned parenthood b4...and im thinking about goin back if i can get a ride...
the father is not 18 he is 16
and he is very wealthy and has a job
plus alot of people are already ready to support me in any decision that i choose to go with, and im getting a test tomorrow.

and i think the getting kicked out thing was only a threat..my mom does thoise things so i wont end up doing what she doesnt want.
and if it is better for the baby, it will be very hard but i will give him/her up for adoption...but most likely an open one where i can go and see them.

[MadPoet]

First, you need to find out if you're pregnant or not. I honestly hope you aren't. If you are, you're going to realize that having a baby isn't all fun and games. I think you yourself have proved that you're not quite yet mature enough to handle the responsibility of a baby: You've been pregnant and had an abortion before, and you'd think that after this happened you would realize the importance of contraception. You weren't/aren't even with the guy that you had sex that would have caused this baby, and to me that just says you shouldn't have been having sex with him to begin with. Obviously the relationship didn't really go anywhere. You NEVER have sex with someone without using a condom or birth control unless you are certain that you want to spend the rest of your life with them and that you can handle the responsibility of a child and a relationship with each other. At sixteen no one is mature enough for a child. At sixteen, you're still a child yourself. And you shouldn't be having sex if you don't realize this.

I'm not trying to be harsh, but if you aren't pregnant and there's no baby for you in the future, you really need to start being more responsible. This is serious business, and a baby deserves a better life than a sixteen year old mom barely getting by financially. YOU deserve a better life than watching your friends be teenagers while you're stuck at home with a baby. Before it's too late, you need to start acting a bit more like an adult.

[toomuch]

thankyou, i know having a baby isnt all fun and games...after having people tell me all the stuff u need and gettin great advice from you all i know that its serious.

and im going to be more responsible and yes i am still a baby myself i shouldnt be having one already =/ you completely right in everything you've said and it wasnt harsh it was the honest truth! thankyou (:

[Maloo]

You say that a lot of people would be willing to help support you financially. How is that fair? It's not their child, they shouldn't have to help pay for a baby that isn't theirs.

[MisplacedDreamer]

Open adoptions aren't a picnic and it won't necessarily make it easier for you. I strongly encourage you to research your options.

[Allons-y!]

Originally Posted by no.ordinary.dreamer

the cost of diapers alone is ridiculous
then add in:
wipes
doctor visits (expensive and frequent because babies have to get certain shots and check ups and toddlers especially when they start going to school get sick a lot and then you have to pay for medicine too)
clothes
crib
car seat
toys
bibs
pacifiers
baby shampoo and lotion
infant bath tub
baby nail clippers
changing mat
diaper bag
baby monitor
if you dont breast feed you need formula which is expensive and bottles and bottle brushes
when they get older you will need bowls, spoons, forks, special food, high chair, new clothes, sippy cups
you will need maternity clothes and nursing bras and breast pads

and i still probably left out more
and oh yeah eventually you need to send your kid to school
and you still need your education

adoption is always an option

Plus all the other little things that you think you'll be able to get by without...until you can't. And in addition to all the stuff for the baby, there's also food for you, clothing, bills, childcare... To be honest, very, very few people are really financially ready for a child. It's an enormous amount of money.

And that's just on the financial side of things. You can have all the right equipment and be 100% materially prepared for a baby and still not be ready. A child is not just a "commitment" or an "effort", or time that you have to put in. It's not something you can plan out. You can't just do x-action to get y-result.

[MisplacedDreamer]

On a side note, have you considered that his parents may not take well to him knocking up a girl and may refuse to support the three of you?

[Lost_InTheStars]

You can get implants that last five years or so, and some that last just a year, or that you can have taken out at any time you want. They will prevent you from getting pregnant. And you don't have to worry about taking pills every day. I know you want to have this child, and I'm not going to tell you what to do about that. It's your decision. But if it turns out that you're not pregnat i think getting one would be a good idea. You have youre whole life to have a kid, don't rush. Wait untill you're in a good situation to have and raise a child. Are there any free or teen clinics around you? You could might be able to get an implant there.

[Elfs Mummy]

Originally Posted by Carina

You can get implants that last five years or so,.

Implants last three years, and are not 100 % effective !
I became pregnant on the implant. I would suggest in future using two forms of birth control eg the pill and a condom.
I hope everything works out for you
Take care.

[TheWhiteTornado]

You kinda have to consider the fact that it's not fair on your friends and family to have to provide tremendous financial and emotional support for an easily avoidable accident. You seem to realize that they may be able to help and get you along to an extent, but imagine what it'd be like if your friend got pregnant and relied on you to piggyback them through because they weren't ready. Even then, there's quite a big difference between a friend saying they'll be there for you and actually going to the length that you'd need.