He wants me to get a abortion...

[OnlyDreaming]

I'm 15 I went to a party, got drunk and slept with a guy who hates me(he hates me because he thinks i cause to much drama in his life) He also went out with my friends on the internet(never met in person just on the internet)

Now I'm 6 weeks. And the father keeps yelling at me telling me to get a abortion. He tells me that I'm a whore and slut, and that's it my fault that I'm pregnant...

And even my friend(the one he went out with) tells me that i should get one, because she wants to be with him.

I have a 5 month old who is lives with his father. and my mom says its up to me to choose what to do...

please help!

[iHEAVENn]

Well it is up to you, do you want to have the baby? Can you afford to raise a baby? Or do you want to do an adoption? or abortion?
You shouldn't get an abortion just because the father says to. It has to be something you decide to do and something you can live with.

[OnlyDreaming]

I don't think i could live with it hanging over my head that i got a abortion...

Originally Posted by iHEAVENn

Well it is up to you, do you want to have the baby? Can you afford to raise a baby? Or do you want to do an adoption? or abortion?
You shouldn't get an abortion just because the father says to. It has to be something you decide to do and something you can live with.

[dejaentendu0]

If you don't think or feel comfortable having an abortion, then DON'T do it.
In the end, it's YOUR body and YOUR decision. He doesn't have to be involved and he can't force you to do something you don't want to do.
You aren't a whore or a slut for getting pregnant. And it's not YOUR fault. As my mother told me when I was in my situation: "It takes two to make a baby."

I would really look into finding a Planned Parenthood/Pregnancy center or seeing your OBGYN to get information on parenting or adoption if you think abortion isn't the choice for you - or to get more/some information on it. You're only six weeks, so you have time to think about all options. There's no rush.

He doesn't seem too supportive of you in this situation though. Ignore him and his harsh words to you. It's YOUR decision to make; you have to live with it. I'd ignore your friend, as well. That's a terrible excuse for wanting you to have an abortion.

[rebeccajane]

Hey there hun,
That sounds like a really tough situation your in. I think that you should do what you think is right for you and the baby. Try to think about the long term as well Hope i helped in some way.
Rebecca x

[MisplacedDreamer]

Well, there are some factors, however, you have to make your own decision. It is a significant choice and you really need to sit down and decide what would work for you and your current five month old.

He does not have to be part of the child's life if he does not want to be, however, in the USA, he would be obligated to pay child support.

Do you currently make ends meet? How will you support both of the children if the father goes missing or attempts not to pay child support? Are you currently in any training programs for jobs?

[Kimberley]

The ONLY person that can make this decision is you. Somethings to consider, though: 1.) Do you want to have this baby? 2.) Have you thought of how drastically your life would change if you kept this baby? 3.) Are you financially able to have a baby? 4.) What would happen to your plans for school with having this baby?

[mommieof2]

It's your body, your choice.

If you do choose to have the baby that doesn't mean your friend can't be with him. It's not just your fault you got pregnant. obviously he had a part in it..and he didn't think you were a slut or whore while he was having unprotected sex with you. I wouldn't let his negative words affect your decision. He's trying to hurt your feelings so you feel you have no other option but to have an abortion.

Honestly, i think you should stop talking to him all together. He doesn't seem to care that you're pregnant and doesn't want the responsibility if you do choose to keep it. I believe your friend needs to be cautious if she does date this guy..If he will do this to you, he will do it to others as well. She needs to make sure she doesn't get put in such a hard situation.

I'm here if you need to talk. Goodluck and i hope things go well.

[Imagine]

Again, like the ladies above me have said... don't do it if YOU don't want to. Honestly, if your forced to do it, and you don't want to.. you will regret it.

Do whats best for you, and i wish you the best of luck.
PM me anytime, okay? x

[iHEAVENn]

If you feel that you couldn't live with an abortion, than don't get one.
But keep an open mind to adoptions if you can't raise and support this baby.

[Elfs Mummy]

If you don't want one don't get one. My babys Father tried to get me to have one and im now 16 weeks pregnant and couldn't be happier.
You have three options
1. keeping the baby
2. Adoption
3. abortion

and the choice is 100 % up to you, i wan in this situation and if you need to talk pm me xx

[Jar Of Lemons]

Hey,

Do what YOU feel most comfortable with. No one can force you. Afterall you're the one holding the baby. Do what you feel most comfortable with, if you would like the baby, have it, if you do not feel comfortable having it then that is okay.

PM me or VM me if you need to,

Lex-Fauzia.