so broody atm!

[tamz]

Hiya,
I've been seeing my partner for a few weeks now and we officially said we were boyfriend and girlfriend last weekend. He's got a gorgeous lil boy, 18months old, who so far I get on quite well with. Lil un's still a bit wary of me but hopefully he'll get used to me being around soon. I'm currently studying for a resit exam in uni but from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed my brother constantly wants my attention. I have no idea why considering I'm his sister not his mother but there we go. Somehow I'm doing fine with occupying him most of the day, seeing my partner and his son and revising for exams.
So in that respect, I know I could cope with a child of my own. Everyone says I'm a complete natural with children whenever I'm around there's. My friend's son (2nhlf) sticks to me like glue whenever I'm around
Problem is, I'm not ready for a child in terms of we've only been together a short while, we don't have a proper roof over our head, only one that he shares with his parents and in september I share with 4 other girls (none of which would be happy with a baby in the house) and at present we don't have the money really. I'm so broody though, it's all I seem to think about these days when I'm on my own. I'd love the lil un to have a brother / sister even if he/she would only be his half sibling. Does anyone else get incredibly broody? And how do you put these feelings away for a few years until we get ourselves back on track financially and everything? It's driving me absolutely insane! Oh and I know I'm stupid for even thinking about having a baby in my situation, hence why I need help getting rid of the feelings for a while.

[Le bonheur*]

Hey,
It's normal to want to have a baby especially being around kids all the time. I'm around my nieces, nephews, and baby cousins A LOT and it makes me want to have a little one of my own. It's tough but enjoy being there for them and focus on your schooling and career before you settle down to have your own children. If you just keep saying: "It's what's best for the potential child to wait.." Then you will realize it is indeed what is best. If you really want to keep thinking about a baby. Set up a bank account to save for TTC. That's what I did and I put aside money so I can get afford to raise a baby. Good luck.

[tamz]

Hi,
Thanks for your reply. It's just so hard knowing that I've still got 2 years left of uni. I just keep thinking what if I were to become pregnant in a few months time so that I'd give birth in the summer holidays. I know, I'm being stupid, just raging hormones atm! Not helped by the fact my bf wants another child as soon as he's back on his feet with work and that!
I'm currently training for my second half marathon in October and I know I don't want to be pregnant for that as knowing me I'll have awful morning sickness and have to stop every 2 seconds to pee! So yeah I've got at least another 3 months before we can do anything about it, thankfully! Hopefully get my mind back on track when I'm back in uni then and take my mind off things. Apart from when I see the lil un all the time!

[Le bonheur*]

Yeah I understand. I have yet to start school so I have 4 years before I can settle down and have a child. It's so hard. As for being pregnant during a marathon that's not suggested because of the peeing/morning sickness. Haha. & other things. But like I said, keep yourself distracted and time will fly by!

[blumemusik♫]

I agree with the above poster. It would be impractical for you to have a baby now, so you need to bear in mind that if you did become pregnant, not only would you have to sacrifice your half-marathon, and also a lot of your schooling, and the baby would probably not get the time and attention it deserves.

Until you can settle down and have a child, just try treating your boyfriend's child as your own, or even start mothering your brother if you don't find that too weird! :')

But just remember, it's for the best not to have the baby now, but if you start saving money now, it'll make settling down much easier, as you won't have the stress of so much more work!

Stay safe <3

[metalheadjessus]

You'd probably find being a mother a lot more enjoyable when you've left Uni and are settled, as there'd be less to worry about in regards to finding a job, having a roof over your head and being able to provide for a baby sufficiently, and as blumemusik said, waiting would give you a chance to save up some money to help with child related costs

[tamz]

Hiya,
Yeah we definitely wouldn't try to conceive until after the half marathon. It was hard enough the first time without a lil un in my belly playing havoc with my hormones :P
We are thinking of trying soon and if I don't get pregnant by say December then waiting another year. This way the baby will be born in the summer holidays and then by october when I go back to university for my final year the baby will be a few months old. In uni I'm only in a maximum of 20 hours a week so it would the equivalent of having a part time job. Last year I managed to live comfortably with a £700 holiday and buying a £500 phone so realistically that's £1200 I can save before the baby is born, more than I've ever been able to save in a year with a full time job! Plus there's a creche on site so if my partner did have work that day, the baby could go there and she or he would only be 5mins away from me
We'll see how things go over the next few weeks first though.

[tamz]

Just thought I'd update to say we've decided to leave trying to conceive for now until we've defo got a place sorted. For now I'm just enjoying bringing up lil man He's finally used to me and learnt to say my name and asking for me and things, it's amazing! He's amazing and I miss him so much when I'm not around. Wouldn't want to wreck things by having a lil one so soon. Thanks for your advice xx

[Angel]

I'm very glad that things are going well for you and that you've managed to come to a decision. Hopefully you'll have things sorted out soon.

I'm going to go ahead and close this now. Take care. ♥

-Sylvie