Falling For My Straight Friend

[MaroonLove]

She is a flirt. She uses pet names; "love, dear, sweetie," with me, but also with another girl friend of ours. We recently took a trip to the beach, that included her pushing me into the sand and trying to wrestle her car keys out of my hands.

I'd always hoped that this would never be the case, but I've found myself hopelessly attracted to one her

She and I have been in school together for years, but just this year she has really caught my eye. She is currently away, so I want to sort all these feelings out before she returns.


I meet her at her locker, almost everyday after classes and the other day was particularly odd. She and I were facing each other, both leaning on her locker. Her sister was standing by. We were looking into each others eyes and somewhat ignoring her sister, and conversing among ourselves. Our knees were touching because of how close we were.

She was involved with a drama production at our school. She performed "Take Me or Leave Me." From RENT. And I couldn't keep my eyes off of her.

Our mutual friend said that she's noticed how this girl acts towards me.
"She thinks she can be all sexy around you because you think she is pretty."

I do think she is pretty, and due to her lack of belief, I am constantly telling her that I think she is gorgeous, beautiful etc.

Our mutual friend knows of my feelings and thinks it sweet and says she also thinks there may be a chance that this girl may not be straight.

I want to explore my curiosity into why I'm so attracted to her, but things are complicated.

Has anyone ever experienced something like this?
Does it seem like she is into me, in a romantic way?

[TheCrowing]

It could go either way.
Seeing that you don't want to be involved, you should be careful about how you go about it.

I have this one straight friend who is extremely flirty and touchy. When she gets drunk enough, she does make out with girls and gets even more touchy, but she really is straight. She is beautiful, gorgeous, hot.. everything. I constantly tell her how beautiful I think she is, or how she deserves to be with someone who treats her right. But I know it won't be me. Even when she kisses my cheek in a 'more-than-friend' way, or holds me.. or even invites me to her room to cuddle and go to sleep with her.. I know that at the end of it all, she's straight. She just likes the attention.

On the other hand, there's this other straight girl that I've been hanging around with. She's adorable, and her smile can make anyone happy. And she's also very flirty, but she has actually told me how if she wasn't with her boyfriend, she would want to try to be with a girl, and even hinted that the girl she wanted to be with is me. And she was talking to a friend of mine saying how she's never been attracted to a girl before, but something about 'this one girl' (me) really has her questioning.

Lol, so it really can go both ways.
Sorry I'm not much help, but it's really one of those things that's just up in the air.
I can't tell you if she likes you or not, because that's all on her. I would love to say that the first girl I mentioned likes me, but I can't, because I'm not her. Only she knows how she feels.

[MaroonLove]

I can say that what I'm feeling, beside attraction, is complete confusion.
How can I know if she is just a flirt?

[TheCrowing]

How does she act around other people, both men and women?

I know you can't say if she looks at you the same way, because when she looks at you a certain way, it seems different.. but is it? Pay attention to the way she talks to you, touches you, looks at you.

The easiest way to tell is if she does tend to act that way around a lot of other people. Honestly, she's the only one that knows how she's feeling.. so I don't necessarily have the answer.

[MaroonLove]

She knows that I think she is beautiful. I'm attributing her behavior to that fact. She's intense, sits and stands close to me and keeps in close contact when we aren't physically near.

I've always taken her to be a very shy person, and so the way she acts towards me seems very abnormal

[TheCrowing]

Then take that into consideration.
Like I said, only she knows how she feels.

[Stuckinhell]

This is always a tricky area. You need to really assess your feelings towards her. Is it just a fleeting fancy, a bit of a crush? Or do you want something more than a friendship with her.

If you do, the only thing i can really suggest is talking to her. Find out how she does feel.

But this can cause a backlash to a friendship so be careful x

[xxPoppyPixiexx]

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL! But the thing is if shes just straight then let her go. Unless you can get her to experiment with I don't think much will happen.

[Soul_kid]

Honestly, you need to talk to her. Sit her down, and tell her how you honestly feel, and ask her if she's honestly attracted to you as well, or if she's just being "real friendly." I've been in the same position before, and it's tough, but you really just need to talk to her about it and be open with each other.