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May 21st 2012, 02:08 PM
(I’m so sorry if this offends anyone that’s not what I cant to do!)
I used to be a very judgmental person then I sounds out a close friend of mine liked women, at first I was uneasy about it… I felt totally guilty afterwards. She was being bullied when we were at school and I decided to stand up for her and ever since then I don’t care who people are attracted too. I also think its important to be who you are and not be juudged by it. So my question really is does it upset you or annoy you when someone judges your personality and hurt your feelings because your proud of who you are? Jo 
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Re: Does it upset you when your judged? -
May 21st 2012, 02:44 PM
Of course it offends me when people judge me for my sexuality. It's not like I judge them for being straight. It especially pisses me off when these judgements are based on assumptions of who I am, or of my personality when really they know nothing about me!
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May 21st 2012, 05:33 PM
It does offend me when people judge me due to my sexuality (or gender identity), those are two things about me, they're clearly not everything about me.
It's great that your standing up for her now, and are over it, because it's a bit hurtful when people find out you like the same sex and they're really weirded out by it, because then your kind of stuck with knowing they're really weirded out (through it only hurts for a while, then it's really fun to bother them about it...), but it's a whole lot better than the "do you like me?" question, because I've gotten that before, and I just felt like hitting them, just because they're in the range of what I can like, doesn't mean I like them. I've said it once, I've said it twice, I've said it a thousand fucking times That I'm OK, that I'm fine, that it's all just in my mind But this has got the best of me, and I can't seem to sleep It's not 'cause you're not with me, it's cause you never leave |
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May 21st 2012, 06:25 PM
Yes- people often spread rumors saying I'm gay because I like to hold hands with my BFF. I'm bisexual and have actually dated more guys than girls, but people still call me a lez.
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May 23rd 2012, 01:04 AM
It almost never happens to me (thankfully), but yes...it is offensive and hurtful when people are judgemental. That said, I try to just let it roll right off my back when it does happen...if they're gonna judge me in such a manner, then they're not worth my time.
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May 23rd 2012, 01:11 AM
That is a flat out yes. What really makes me mad is when other LGBT members judge me. I've had at least 5 LGBT people judge me this school year. Yes I am proud of who I am, but when other people judge you it is clearly a different story.
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Re: Does it upset you when your judged? -
May 23rd 2012, 03:12 AM
You said because you're proud of who you are...
You don't have to be proud to get judged. You don't have to be proud to feel offended. I think if I took one look at a person, and automatically judged them because of this person's ethnicity, it'll hurt. If I don't what someone's wearing, and judge them based off of their poor fashion sense, it'll hurt. I think that people will always judge others, it's human nature. But I don't think that a person should be judged for anything. Am I saying that I've never judged someone without really thinking about the situation? No. We all do it. But it's not right. It really upsets me when others judge me without getting to know me, and it upsets me when I accidentally jump to conclusions about someone without getting to know them. "Although only breath, words which I command are immortal." Sappho
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May 23rd 2012, 04:05 AM
yes very much it annoyes me
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May 25th 2012, 06:26 PM
It does get to me sometimes. Being the most open homosexual in the year group means that my sexuality has become my identity which I'm not that happy about, and it means that I do get judeged and put into a box.
Nowadays it doesn't really hurt me anymore, I'm so used to it. Instead I usually just feel sorry for them, people who judge any minority at all are either in that minority themselves and are not ready to admit it, covering it up with the judgemental comments. Or they don't understand it, or they have grown up around people that are against it. I don't let it hurt me anymore, and I if it does get to me I never show it public. "Casting all your anxiety upon Him, because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7
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Re: Does it upset you when your judged? -
May 31st 2012, 07:30 PM
I'm a very sensitive person, so yes, that always hurts my feelings, especially since I'm NOT proud of who I am. I'll admit that I have attractions for the same sex, but I don't like it. I hate it. And people who put me down for it obviously would not help. I think some people think they can knock the "gay" out of someone by intimidating them and humiliating them. Actually, it just makes things way worse. And while they may possibly alter their behavior, you're not making them straight. You're making them hurt, and hurt badly.
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June 1st 2012, 07:38 AM
Absolutely, yes! I'm self conscious enough as it is without somebody saying, "She doesn't like the right gender". If anything it makes me less proud. I feel okay with it and then one day I come across somebody who isn't okay with it and I question everything again. It's upsetting but in the end I know I'm stronger than that. It's just hard when you hear those constant judgements everyday. It's like asking somebody if they get annoyed when somebody makes a judgement about them based off their hair color. People are appalled by others who are judge-mental of those with disorders or things they were born with... why is this any different?
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Re: Does it upset you when your judged? -
June 3rd 2012, 11:49 PM
Of course it does. I am extremely self-concious and stupid comments from the other students at my school do crush my self-esteem. But it's been going on for so long that I've learned that the best response is to just keep my head high and smile, that pisses them off
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June 7th 2012, 06:49 AM
I can be offended and hurt by people judging me, especially if they are verbal about it. But mostly it doesn't get to me. Sure, I will certainly stand up for myself in whatever way is appropriate. But someone's judgement of me is based on their own ideas and beliefs, not on the truth. If someone wants to judge me poorly, fine. I'm focused on the people who don't judge me and accept me for who I am.
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