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Question I think I might be gay how do I find out if I am or not - July 30th 2016, 07:07 AM

I think I might be gay how do I find out of I am or not ?
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Re: I think I might be gay how do I find out if I am or not - July 30th 2016, 01:25 PM

Hey there, I think that the most important thing is not to put pressure on yourself to identify with a certain label. If you're still not sure whether or not you're gay, just give it time, you'll experience things which will either confirm it or not. I know that it's frustrating to not feel "straight" but not know what kind of queer you are, because I'm in the same position. I don't know if I'm bisexual or pansexual or biromantic or panromantic or just curious, and all I can really do is wait.
I think that in the time being it could be good to practise explaining your sexuality as clearly as possible, either in your head or writing it out in a journal or whatever, going over the experiences which make you think that you're not straight, and trying to figure out possible reasons why you're uncertain of your homosexuality. This is what I'm currently doing.
The most important thing is to remember that you don't need to be straight or gay or bi or pan or whatever, you don't need to fit into these labels. Sexual and romantic orientation is so much more complex than we often are made out to believe, so it's absolutely fine to just take your time to figure yourself out.
I know that one concern I have as someone questioning her sexual and romantic orientation is that if I use a certain label -- say, bisexual -- that people will dismiss me and tell me that I'm not a "proper" bisexual for this and this and this reason.I think that the best thing to do then is that if ever the conversation of sexuality comes up and you're uncertain about what label you fit into, explain your orientation in your own words and let others decide what they want to call you. They think you're straight? Okay. They think you're bi? Okay. They think you're gay? Okay.

Anyways, take care!

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Re: I think I might be gay how do I find out if I am or not - July 31st 2016, 05:10 AM

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I think I might be gay how do I find out of I am or not ?
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