Female Advice Preferred: I lover her so much :(

[purpleangel18]

I have a Girlfriend and we've been going out for a month now. I love her very much and i tell her that as much as i can. I do romantic things for her, but sometimes i feel like she doesn't appreciate it or me. Like i'm the first one to say "i love you" and when she says it i feel like she's only saying it because i said it. So i just stopped saying it. I'm going to wait till she really can mean it i guess. She is going through something but she didn't tell me what it is, she told my friend instead. It just hurts knowing that my own girlfriend can't come to me for help or whatever. If she can't come to me when she has a problem then why are we even together. Thats what i think sometimes, but were together because i really love her. I just feel so confused and sometimes not even loved. I don't know what to do. My friends say to talk to her but i'm a shy type of person and it's hard for me to bring up the conversation. Can someone help me with this problem?

[xxxAJxxx]

maybe try asking her friend?

she might be going thru depression or something of that sort. it can stop your love drive cold. trust me, been there. if thats the case, its not anyones fault.

or, she might be drifting away from being homosexual. this happens to some people.

i think your friends are right. you need to talk to her and find out. you may be shy, but you need to work around that. its the only way youll find out.

if you need anymore help, or just someone to talk to, PM me. i can help.

-AJ

[WillO'Wisp]

Don't be shy, just get it out and tell her about this, ask her if this relationship is really making her happy and just to tell you the truth, if she wants this to work out or not. You can't get an answer any other way unless you just talk to her about this.

[Maiden]

You've only been going out for a month, maybe she's finding it's going a bit too fast for her and she's trying to pull away? I know that when my girlfriend gets really clingy, I tend to get uncomfortable and I, whether I intend to or not, start pulling myself away from her and just try to find as much time as I can doing stuff without her. If she didn't want to be me with me so much all the time and didn't go on about how much she loves me and how we're going to be together forever so much, I'd be a lot more receptive. I tend to start keeping things from her simply because I'm trying to keep some part of my life as my own and not hers, when it feels like everything in my life involves her. We've been going out for a year and a half and I STILL feel like that quite often! Maybe just back off a little bit and give her some time and space. Maybe she doesn't love you yet, that's fine, you've only been together 30 days or so Just give her time. I know you love her very much, but maybe instead of trying so hard to be in her life all the time, just let her come to you in her own time. She will tell you what's going on when she's ready. So maybe just take a step back, calm it down a little and just enjoy getting to know her for now, giving her the space and time that she needs, and soon, I'm sure she will love you just as much as you love her.

[jen89]

It seems that perhaps you are moving to fast with her, although I can't say that with 100% certainty as I don't know her personally or her situation. It's been a month yet you are telling her you love her so much and doing all these romantic things, which is very very sweet and shows the kind of person you are, but i know many people, including myself, who would feel closed in and clung onto in that situation. so it may explain why she is pulling away. you could try giving her some space and allowing her and yourself to do things without one another, but like the other posters said, the only way to know for sure is to ask her yourself what's going on. it might also have to do with what she's going through though you dont know what it is...so if you need time to work up the courage and ask her, wait a bit and then talk to her...good luck!