Asexual?

[morethanuseless]

can someone who is asexual or knows about it please explain this to me more thoroughly. Sorry if this sounds ignorant, but is it that you dont crave sex at all? or dont want emotional attachment to people? sorry im really not too sure. (btw im straight)

[The Morrigan]

I think it ultimately depends on the person. But generally asexual people don't feel sexual attraction but they can still feel emotional attraction for someone. In other words they can still feel love for a person but they don't get lust.

Although that's just a generalised explanation.

[Stephanie]

From TH's Queer Dictionary

Asexual – An individual who does not experience sexual attraction. An asexual individual may or may not desire a romantic relationship, and may or may not enter a relationship with a sexual person. Asexual as a sexuality is a very broad term. It includes people repulsed by sex, people indifferent to it, people who will not have sex and people who will.

As Cara has said, asexuality depends very much upon the person. Some people who identify as Asexual do not want emotional attatchment or sex. Some asexuals do experience emotional attatchment but simply do not desire to have sex with that person.

[Tericon]

As an asexual myself, I do like emotional attachment but seem to have no sexual desire whatsoever, i have a compulsion to please my partner, but thats about it.

[morethanuseless]

thanks for the explanation

[That Sullen Piñata]

I'm asexual... I have no romantic feelings or sexual desires whatsoever, but I do get attached to people and have strong bonds with my friends. I've never really desired a one-on-one relationship (or a one-on-many, of that kind)... kind of hard to describe really, just a complete lack of sex drive xD

Hope this helped? x

[WillO'Wisp]

The exact definition of being asexual is not having or involving sex. That doesn't mean you do or don't crave it at all, I'm not sure. But I don't have sex and don't want sex, don't crave it or have any interest at all, so I suppose that makes me asexual.

[Invert]

the basic definition is someone who 'does not feel sexual attraction to others'... as said its a broad term. Some people still emotionally/romantically like people so still want to date, others aren't interested in this. Some have sex, some may even enjoy sex, but they aren't sexually attracted to their partner (sex can be intimate, and have many things good about it beyond lust, not to mention, some asexuals have perfectly reactive bodies, either sensually or even sexually... for sexual people who mightnt understand this, have you ever had sex with someone you sexually werent into?), other asexuals arent even ok with say hand holding.

[karilar]

Hm, I'm having a bit of a dilemma myself.

I've been getting pressure from my parents to be with someone, and I have a friend who's in love with me, but I don't want to be with anyone. It's not that I don't think men or women are cute/handsome/pretty or whatever. I'm capable of having crushes, and fantasies. But I don't actually want to be with anyone. Does that count for asexual?

[morethanuseless]

Well Im not sure, but it sounds to me like your just not a a point in your life where you are comfortable with handling a relationship?
Because for me right now, I like a guy, but I just dont think its a good time for me to be in a relationship as Im leaving for college soon.
Could this be it?

[SupremeCommander]

I have a friend who is asexual
and she says that she doesn't feel any attraction towards either sex whatsoever and is perfectly happy that way