advice :L

[Jess26]

Im gay: I have came out to my parents, and friends where i used to live, but i have a hard time coming out to everyone at my new school (especially to my close friends). Im one of the more "popular kids" and "star soccer goalie/ defender", I'm actually the head captain and afraid that everyone will look down on my for it. I want to come out but dont know how to.

Any advice?

[anzboy]

i suggest to slowly c how others in your new school c gay people
or w8 n hope u hav the right moment to tell someone
im pretty sure im gay n i lik to joke around so i turn it into a joke to c how they react to it lik when i told my best friend he pretty much hated the idea so i quickly turned it around to mak it seem lik a bad joke but im not sure if that will work 4 u

[greekchick]

I know im a chick but i play soccer and had the same problem, you get super close on a team and i understand what you mean and all your fears. The best way i found to do it was to just tell one person at a time. The ones you know the very best who you know will support you. Then slowly tell the other ppl and I think yuo'll find that even ppl who don't feel comfortable with it will see your close friends being okay with it and follow suit. That worked for me, idk, good luck.

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

Hey,

I am actually trying to figure out the best way to come out as well. I am at the point where I want to tell everyone but I am afraid of their reaction.

In the beginning, when I first accepted that I liked woman I didn't know who to confide in. Then I met my BFF Gil and I slowly started telling him (he is gay too). Firstly, I let myself test him out and see if he would be a trustworthy person. I would tell him tidbits about my life and go from there. Then one day I just blurted that I didn't know who I liked more; men or women. He was coll about it and it was one of the things that built up are friendships.

Slowly, after confiding in Gil, I was able to scope out other people and confide in them. So far, 5 people know. It is a great feeling too.

So, the best thing to do is scope people out and see how trustworthy they are and see how open they are to Gay people. It might take time to really figure it out but you will and it will be worth it.

Also, do not jump into telling too many people all at once. Take it slowly and go from there. Maybe you could tell some of your really close friends and then get their opinions on how you should tell your teammates and what not.

The thing to remember is that, while coming out is important, you will always have the oppurtunity to do so so do not rush into it. Instead take your time and get to know the people you want to tell and get to a point in life where if someone is not going to like who you are it will not affect you badly and cause you to doubt yourself etc.

Please hang in there and if you need anything feel free to pm me.

Jenna

[chemical.fate]

It's really scary to come out to people especially when ur on a sports team, i play hockey and was really nervous but just take ur time and be proud of who u r. As for telling ur close friends just bring it up when u guys are hanging out and if they have a problem with u being gay than they arent very good friends.

good luck tho!