She likes me, She likes me not....

[greekchick]

Okay so i met this girl, we are on the same soccer team, I think she is kinda cute she's funny and dorky and Im not going crazy about her or anything but Im interested and I have NO CLUE if shes interested or even like that or not.....Help?

SO she doesn't know I'm bi, but these are my clues:

1.She is kinda flirty at practice/ more importantly she lets me flirt with her and flirts back .

2.When we V.S eachother on the field she always gives up and lets me have the ball, and she does this only for me as far as I can tell. (this may seem dumb to ppl who don't play soccer, but if you play, you'll know what i mean.)

3.If I send out a text to the whole group about something to do with the team she ALWAYS replies and not just like "okay", she starts a convo with me and it goes on for like hours via text.

4. She has ALOT of guy friends.

5.She doesn't dress up, like ever, she's always in sports clothes at school at home (I know this is sometimes typical of sporty girls, but i mean come on).


Its still kinda early i have only known her for two weeks or so but ahhhh she is just the cutest thing. I just don't know if she's an extremely nice person who doesn't notice that i'm flirting with her, or if she's interested. She also is very into church which usually means NO, but idk i can't help still hoping. Any thoughts?

[xxxAJxxx]

it seems you are very much in love, if you believe in love at first sight...

i think you should wait a little while though before telling her. two weeks is sort of a short time. she might get scared off if you told her now.

i do think your stereotyping a little much though. just because she has a lot of guy friends and doesnt dress up much, doesnt mean shes lesbian.

i think you should develop more of a knowing of her first. her likes dislikes, stuff like that. get to know what shes like. then, maybe after that ask her. but not just yet.

if you need any more help, or just someone to talk to, im here

-AJ

[xxpaigiexx]

Hey,
It does sound like there could be a possibility that she's gay or bi. You could subtly move the conversation on to something about boyfriends and see how she reacts to this.
She could just be a really friendly person but until you get to know her a little better you won't really be able to tell.
Some religious people don't see sexuality as an issue or believe slightly different to what you might expect them to so you never know. I know lots of religious gay or bisexual people.
Try meeting up with her outside of soccer practice and getting to know her on a more personal level and then you might be able to read into this a little bit more.
Good luck
Love Paige xox

[greekchick]

THANKS yea I was thinking of hanging out with her outside of practice, the only thing is that my team doesn't know im like that except for a couple friends and usually I wouldn't mind as much about people suspecting me, except for that in addition to playing on the team, I also coach it and i need respect to make it succesful ya know? Regardless of my personal beliefs I could lose respect and consecuently, my team.

Odd situation I know..

[delete]

i definately agree with the steryotyping thing. i know people who dont dress super feminine, but thats cuz they're insecure about how they look, not gay or bi. and some girls just prefer hanging with guys b/c girls can be stupid and catty and they like hanging with guys or if they have crushes on them. or just get along with them better, doesnt mean they are gay. some people are naturally flirtatious, so maybe you are reading into things too much. she may just be looking for a friend, esp if you have only known eachother for a couple weeks. but there is a possibility she is gay or bi, like paige said, just subtly bring things up, im just saying dont steryotype, cuz she might be straight as a rod, or gay as could be. just looking at things and steryotyping people doesnt mean they are one thing or the other. everyone is different. and i think you may be reading into things to much like her friendliness maybe, but casually talk about certain things to see which way she swings. then good luck with everything. my only points were not every little thing signals someones sexuality like how they dress or talk, and if they are friendly with people. she may like you as more than a friend, but then she may not.

[greekchick]

Maybe Im wrong, but you seem REALLY worried about gay people infringing upon striaght peoples lives, in reference to this reply and the one you made on the "How do I get this les away from me" post. Just to ease your mind a little, I have been stereotyped my whole life just because I play sports, and I assure you I am sensative to the subject. I wouldn't post this if I didn't have any other clues about her sexuality besides her looks.

Also, I cant speak for all LGBT people, but I in no way want to "recruit" straight people, I hope for their respect about my decision to be bisexual just as I respect their decision to be straight.

Thanks for the well wishes.

[delete]

i dont really have any problem with it. im prolly bisexual myself. i dont like it when straight people go and bash gay people or when it goes vice versa. i was just saying, dont steryotype, i just hate steryotypes. and it sucks when you think you get mixed messages from people you like, then get crushed when they arent intrested. i dont want that to happen to anyone, as its happened to me and it sucks. i've kinda become a total cynic on all that stuff, not just same sex relationships. not saying anyone was bashing, i just dont like steryotypes or anything of the sort, its not that im worried about gays and straight people mingling.

[greekchick]

Okay . Well I didn't mean to upset anyone, it's just in my experience, not dressing up+flirty+sports+guy friends+talking to me all the time= relationship with me lol.

But I totally get where youre coming from, I know what you mean and I promise I'm not normally a steretypical person I'm just trying to figure her out. We're talking right now actually .

[delete]

good luck with everything, and it sounds like she at least likes you as a friend. so you prolly will end up with a friend at least on the plus side

[greekchick]

Yea, and that'll be okay with me, she's pretty darn cool

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by flyawayninjacow123

it seems you are very much in love, if you believe in love at first sight...

i think you should wait a little while though before telling her. two weeks is sort of a short time. she might get scared off if you told her now.

i do think your stereotyping a little much though. just because she has a lot of guy friends and doesnt dress up much, doesnt mean shes lesbian.

i think you should develop more of a knowing of her first. her likes dislikes, stuff like that. get to know what shes like. then, maybe after that ask her. but not just yet.

if you need any more help, or just someone to talk to, im here

-AJ

Lol. I'm sorry, but this post was kind of funny. This "love at first sight" business.

I think you should just keep doing what you're doing. Maybe tell her you're bi and see how she takes it.

[greekchick]

Lol yea, and thanks I plan on it.