How do i get this les away from me??

[ILoveMayonnaise]

K so there's this girl.......she goes to my school ( i got held back in school but i grad soon tho yay!!!!!!) anyways i dont know her well but we're in a couple classes but I guess one of my friends knows her. Anyways she's this total butch lesbian. so when my friends and i hang out or go out clubbing or whatever she has suddenly started coming with us even tho none of us like her except my one friend who invites her along. She keeps hugging me and standing next to me and sending me texts and adding me to facebook, msn etc and has started phoning me and asking me to go places with her. Seriously its getting annoying!!!!!!!! I mean i tell her to fuck off but she seems to take it as a come on........HELP what can I do??? i have a bf and Im straight!!! my bf is in england now so he cant tell this lesbo to get away from me (PLUS hes gonna marry me when he gets back so even if i was bi and interested i couldnt!!!).......its getting so annoying!! HELP!!!!!!!!

[Singing to the starlight]

Firstly, maybe you could try and be a bit more...respectful when you talk about lesbians.
Secondly. She's a human being, What would you do if it was a guy?
Firstly, you dont even know if she's coming onto you. Don't flatter yourself too much. If you do think she is though, then respectfully tell her that you're not interested in her like that, and you're not comfortable with all the contact etc. Don't be disrespectful or rude.

[ILoveMayonnaise]

Originally Posted by Sitting on the speaker

Firstly, maybe you could try and be a bit more...respectful when you talk about lesbians.
Secondly. She's a human being, What would you do if it was a guy?
Firstly, you dont even know if she's coming onto you. Don't flatter yourself too much. If you do think she is though, then respectfully tell her that you're not interested in her like that, and you're not comfortable with all the contact etc. Don't be disrespectful or rude.

I dont really see whats disrespectfull about my post....??

if it was a guy i would go out with him if i didnt have a bf.

Well i am hot and attractive so i really do think shes coming onto me.

lol why did u say firstly twice IRONY lol haha irony makes me think of ivory dishsoap???

[Singing to the starlight]

...Right.

So yes, just tell her, nicely, that you're not interested.

[ILoveMayonnaise]

k thnx for ur help

[greekchick]

Someones got a big head lol.

Just tell her straight up you're not interested and she's making you uncomfortable, that seems like it would be the obvious solution. We aren't infections that you need some kind of medical treatment to get rid of.

[Edited]

[ILoveMayonnaise]

k i am not bi.........I HAVE A BF!!!!! I ALSO LOOOVE EDWARD EDWARD NOT BELLA!! I will marry edward if my bf dosnt marry me but he will i know it <3

[Invert]

Two things.

To the OP, I thnk maybe you are reading into her behaviour too much, or has she done anything explicitly to suggest she's into you,like trying to actually kiss you? Last time I checked, standing next to someone or wanting to be friends isn't usually much of a come on. Most lesbians don't want to chase girls who are straight, knowing you probably aren't interested, so talk to her, nicely. Point out you feel she's coming on to you, and if she is, you dont like women like that. But people are right, you also are kinda rude about this... like 'lesbo' is usually an offensive word. And even if your bf was where you are, this sort of situation is best handled by simply politely talking to her, not sending your bf to try and scare her away when she may not even be into you. Even if you are hot, it doesn't mean she likes you. I know I find straightness a turn off

And then to everyone else, yes she's being kinda rude, and I can understand why it may annoy you, at the same time, insulting her or telling her off in a demeaning way is not going to help her, the lesbian in that situation, or yourselves.

Then as just a completely irrelevant point... Edward Cullen? You do know he is fictional, right?

[The Morrigan]

Originally Posted by ILoveMayonnaise

k i am not bi.........I HAVE A BF!!!!! I ALSO LOOOVE EDWARD EDWARD NOT BELLA!! I will marry edward if my bf dosnt marry me but he will i know it <3

You know that Edward's a fictional character right? So you couldn't really marry him.

Anyway, just tell her that you're not interested and if she still doesn't get it then ignore her until she gets the message.

Also, please try and be more respectful with your posts. Lesbians have feelings too.

[ILoveMayonnaise]

no she hasnt kissed me or anything............

ok ill tell her.....thanks for all your advice!!!

Edward? OMG NO....edward isnt fictional.........the actor Edward is a real person!! <3333

[Invert]

and this is going off topic... Take it to chit chat people

[delete]

"But somehow the fact that you even mention "even if i was being bi and interested", or that you took the time to log onto this thing, come to the LGBT area and make a post, tells me that you're prob a les deep down and don't want to admit that his girl interests you."


Not everyone who comes on here and is homophobic is gay. she could have joined the site for other reasons. even if she is questioning, do you know how much it can mess with someone when someone tells them they are gay deep down and just denying it? not everyone is like that, i mean, she might be totally straight, and questioning can really mess with a persons head. im sorry, but someone who is gay or anything telling people they are when they dont know them and display some weird behavior almost seems like you are trying to recruit people. i think thats a really lame thing for people to do. even if she is gay deep down, whatever, its no big deal. i just can't stand it when people want to tell you what to do or anything like that. not everyone is gay or straight either. there are bi people! anyways, I think you (ilovemayonaise)should have been more respectful, i mean, even if you dont like it and are straight, doesnt mean you have to speak like that about people. i might not agree with all that, but im not going to almost bash people with a pretty small issue like maybe possibly getting hit on. tell her you arent intrested but not so you are totally bashing her. civil? im not even going to get in on the edward topic (eye roll) good luck

[greekchick]

You don't get it, but it's okay lol.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by Sitting on the speaker

...Right.

So yes, just tell her, nicely, that you're not interested.

... Same here.

Originally Posted by ILoveMayonnaise

k i am not bi.........I HAVE A BF!!!!! I ALSO LOOOVE EDWARD EDWARD NOT BELLA!! I will marry edward if my bf dosnt marry me but he will i know it <3

... He isn't real. And he doesn't have a clue you're even alive hon. If you want to talk about this obsession, all of us are here. Because I don't think that's healthy behavior at all.

Really? I think you're being rude, inconsiderate, and this girl probably just likes you. You should be a human being and talk to her straight up. Just be nice. If you know what that is.

[Maiden]

I was a bit offended by your post as well, to be honest. Please don't use homophobic language or tones... it's not very nice. As other people have said, lesbians have feelings too.

I think what the others have said is pretty much what I'd say. You should tell her (NICELY) that you're not interested. Maybe try being a bit nicer to her. Maybe she's just looking for friends and maybe if you were a bit kinder to her, she'd back off. She sounds a lot like a friend I have, who used to act that way because she was really desperate for friends but because she acted that way, people thought she was strange. When I got past that, I found out she was a really nice person. I don't think you should be telling her to 'Fuck off'. What if you were really interested in a guy but he was gay and you didn't know it? Would you be happy if he just kept telling you to 'fuck off' and started going on about heterosexuals in derogatory language?

Just think about it.

[MadPoet]

Why is it that you are so disgusted by this girl? I can understand that it might be weird for you if she had feelings for you, but she's still a human being, and she doesn't deserve to be insulted. She obviously feels that you are a good person to be around, so you shouldn't be so rude when you talk about her, or talk to her. Telling her to "fuck off" is completely immature, and will do nothing to resolve whatever problem you have with her.

You need to talk to her and let her know how you feel, but not in the rude ways you have done so in the past. Tell her that the way she acts around you makes you uncomfortable, and that she is not someone that you are interested in being with whatsoever.

Plus, I just have to throw in this comment, not everyone who spends time with you is in love with you, and it's completely rude and arrogant to think so.

There are many homosexuals here on TH, so think twice before you use derogatory language against anyone. [Edited by Asylum] All I am saying is that you need to be more careful as to what you say, because rude posts are not accepted around here.

[Algernon]

Oh, and I have a question... Are you really 19?

[ILoveMayonnaise]

YES im 19 i got held back 2 yrs in school SO my spelling isnt that good because i was never good at it.

i dont hate lesbians or anything i just hate this one girl because shes annoying and really dumb and has a creepy laugh.


k i sent her a text btw telling her im not interested and she said ok and asked if we could be friends and i said no cuz i dont like her and she didnt reply.

[Maiden]

Yeah, I don't think I'd reply to that either.

[Algernon]

Originally Posted by Maiden

Yeah, I don't think I'd reply to that either.

Yep. Pretty much.

[PhoenixAlive]

@OP: Why do you find it necessary to be so hostile to this girl? Just because you don't like her, you shouldn't be mean to her. Did it ever cross your mind to just say something like "I'm sorry, but I'm not interested in a relationship. I'm straight and I have a boyfriend... Yeah, we can still be friends, but I'm really busy with school and everything, so I can't be texting or on msn all the time." and then if you really don't want to talk to her, just block her.

[Kokoro]

Ugh.. right, I've read all the posts in this thread and although you seem to be a 'tad' homophobic everyone has been dead nice, but I feel like snapping!
All you've done is be downright disrepsectful to this girl, and sorry but there is not way I believe your 19, my 11 year old sister is like 10x more mature than you.

Atleast if you're going to ask for advice, take it. Because taking everyone's advice is a lot smarter than what you basically did.
Telling her you don't like her probably made her feel hurt, you could've atleast tried to make friends with her.

[/Annoyed Kokoro]

[LucyLouWho]

Lesbo is not a nice word. Try to be more respectful.

Just tell the girl that you're not interested and leave it as that.

[jellyfish]

Originally Posted by greekchick

Someones got a big head lol.

We aren't infections that you need some kind of medical treatment to get rid of.

Originally Posted by greekchick

[Edited]

Spot on.

I'm quite flabbergasted at how disrespectful you have been on this thread.
Whats so wrong with how shes acting towards you? In my opinion thats how friends are!
I think its disgusting how you are feeling/acting towards this girl, give her a break.

[Skeleton]

For starters, the words you have used and the way you have wrote it are rather harsh and could be seen as homophobic. I would consider choosing your words more carefully and reading over what you've put before you submit your threads/posts to make sure you aren't going to offend anyone because I wouldn't be surprised if you have.

As for your situation, I think you're a little harsh and big headed about the whole thing. Just because you think that you're attractive, doesn't mean that everyone else will and just because this girl is a lesbian, doesn't mean she's automatically going to hit on you. She was probably only hoping to be friends with you like she is friends with one of your friends and there was no reason to be so harsh about the way you told her you don't like her as you've probably hurt her feelings hint why she didn't reply to your text. As I've said, you could think before you speak and make sure you aren't hurting peoples feelings or offending anyone.

[Gaia]

Seeing as the OP has solved the problem I'm going to close this thread.
Lola, if you'd like it reopened feel free to message me.