i'm confused

[IneedyourHelpPLZ]

alright so some days i fantasy about guys, then the next i go back to being straight, but then i like guys and i like girls. then it goes to me liking girls again, but then i like guys. like i've been having this since i was around 7. But i fantasys more about the guy stuff more, then it goes to girls. to put it on a scale to 100 Guy Fantasys 65/35 girls fantasy.

[Nekokira52]

Hey, I think I understand what your getting at. Are you confused as to what you like, Boys or girls?

Maybe you like both? In which case that would be bisexual.

If you ever want to talk, you can send me a message!

[IneedyourHelpPLZ]

Hey, i'm shy at this subject. but since i was little i exprimented alot and found out i like doing things that two guys would do. but here's the problem i like girls also alot and but i'm not attractive to everysingle guy or men in general unless they're a certaint one. picky i guess, but i don't know i havn't met any guy that i've been attractive to. so i don't know if i'm bi, but i like the things two guys would do. maybe i should just find a tranny =) lol

[carrie4]

hey ive got the same problem kind of, im 16 and i think im bi, except im scared to tell anyone, but i want to get it out ! IM SCARED I WILL BE HATED AND MY FRIENDS WONT BE AS CLOSE TO ME ! what should i do? ive been bi for about a year , and it just annnoys me inside ,because no one knows but me! what do i do? should i tell anyone or not?

[Nekokira52]

Well, your both still young, and there's no hurry to figure out exactly who you are right now.

I have a girl friend right now, and I do plan on being with her for a very long time, but I still don't know if I'm lesbian or just bi.

Carrie, maybe if you have even just one close friend you can come out to, that might help? That's what i did, and actually how I got my girlfriend xD

pm/vm me anytimee

[Jaguar]

I don't have a lot of experience being bisexual, because I'm not one, but my gf is. Someone on here helped me immensely in understanding her by telling me that bis are not bi all the time, that they can be straight one day and gay/lesbian the next. That's the way my gf is and realizing that took a lot of stress out of our relationship.

[Nina Twin]

I don't think that's anything to be ashamed about at all. Most people have some sort of attraction to the same sex at one point or another in their lifetime. It doesn't necessarily make them bisexual or gay, though.

I would say give yourself some time. You don't need a label, anyway. Just like who you like and be confident about it. You don't have to prove anything to anyone or sign a contract that says you're strictly straight or strictly gay. Do what makes you happy. =]

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

Hey there,

I know how difficult it can be to struggle with things like this. It brings a lot of different feelings, feelings that can make things even more difficult but the best advice I can give you is to just give yourself time.

I know that probably sucks to hear but I believe that figuring out your sexuality can be one of the hardest things a person has to deal with. And, when the person adds the extra stress of actually trying to label themselves it makes things even more complicated.

I know that you probably want to know what you are because you think it will make things easier but don't rush it because that makes it harder, you know? Let what happens happen. Thing is, one way or another you will figure it out, I promise.

You might be confused for a while but the confusion, in my opinion, seems to be less intense when you don't actually pressure yourself to label it. If you think about it, why are labels so important? Love is love isn't it? And, if you like girls or you like guys all that matters is that one day you will find someone you love. Labeling it is not the important thing, right?

Now, I am pretty much going through the same thing as you and I have resolved to just let myself figure it out and try not to stress about it. However, I am not going at it blindly either. I have let some of my friends and family in on my struggle and they have all been really great.

My best friend G said that he is going to try and help me find some places where I can meet Lesbians. I am nervous about this but I think it will be a good thing.

Also, I found a support group in my area that helps with things like this. And, I am hoping that with time I will befriend some of the people there and have some more support.

I am going to give you a link to a place that might help you find a support group in your area. Here it is:

GLBT Near Me

I hope this helped and remember to take it slow. Let what happens happen and find some people who can support you through all of this. And, most importantly do not forget to have fun and never EVER be ashamed of the feelings you are having.

If you ever need to chat feel free to pm me.

Jenna