Non-PG13: What To Do

[madmanliam1]

Hi everyone, i am back for the frist time in about 3 years and i need some help, during this weekend just gone i was invited to go up to taunton to stay at one of my ex's.

His mum was on holiday and he had the house to his-self, we decided to go out clubbing and had a fuck brilliant night and when we got home in a drunken moment i kissed him. Now he is admitted that he is not gay but after a 2 year relationship with me that ended 7 month ago i beg to differ.

Well next morning i didn’t remember what i did and he told me and said that he was discussed and for me not to do it again.

At this point i still had 2/3 days left at his (as my train was Monday and i went up on Friday), then on Sunday we were watching "later days" (a gay film) on TV and i cuddled up to him, then i kissed him and he did not say anything, about 20 mins later i kissed him again.

This led to rampant rolling around on the floor kissing (still clothed), then we went up to his room (as i was staying in the spare room) and we had sex, best 1 hour in my life.

After fell asleep and that was that. Next day when i woke up (i was still but naked in his bed) he was not there.

I went down stairs and he was asleep on the sofa, i went over and kissed him on his forehead and he woke up.

Then he started to have a go at me for what happened last night, saying that he was drunk and that it should not have happened.

This is now Monday and my train was in 1 hour ish and guess what happened, he jump on me and it happens again, full blow sex on the kitchen floor but naked.

After he gets up and goes up stairs. I got dressed and pack and went to call a taxi and he started shouting at me.

He came with me to the train station as his work is in the shop next to the entrance. (That how we met, but that is another story) after i got passed the ticket barrier he shouted "i Love you” at the top of his voice, but at this time the whistle had blown for final calls, i had to run or i would be late for my hospital appointment in Plymouth.


Now if anyone can’t work out what i asking, it is:

What the fuck should i do? I love him so much, and i think he still has felling for me but i just don’t know what to do. Someone help plz.

[TheLittleNinja]

Hey There. Welcome Back!!!

Well, I would basically say that you need to talk to him. Talk to him in calm situation where he doesn't shout and the conversation doesn't result in any sexual behaviour. You guys need to have a good old natter about how you both feel. Considering he has been giving you mixed signals - he may need to take some time and think about how he feels about things.

If he claims he isn't gay - then why did he have sex with you? (I'm gussing your a guy?!) Well in my opinion it could one of a few things...

- In worst case scenario he could simply have fallen back into a situation where he was comfortable. You were the last person he loved, and you coming to see him made him fall back into old routines, and old habbits.

- In a more hopeful scenario, he may not want to be gay, but is. Afterall we cant always help who we are. Therefore he may 'Love You' - but not be ready to admit it again - or may not know himself if this truly is the case.

- He may be re-considering his sexuality. Maybe he is bisexual?

These are things that need to be talked about. If he really doesn't want a relationship with you - then you need to find out from him sooner rather than later so that you don't get hurt too much.
If he does love you again, then I advise you take things slowly and rebuild a strong, relationship.

I hope this helps you make things clearer for yourself.
Take Care.
Claire