Complicated friendship

[LifeLoveLost.]

Hi!
So, I've completely fallen for my friend.
The problem is, she's completely straight, and has a boyfriend!

I met her on my first day at college and we've been friends ever since
After a few weeks of knowing her i started to look at her in a different way, noticing how beautiful she is more each day, seeing what a lovely person she is. . . sorry, i could go on foreever with the mushy stuff

Back to the point, I really really like her, I've never felt like this for anyone before ):
It's getting hard to disguise now, she jokes around about the little things like we always have done, like saying "oo, you know you want me "
Just little jokes, but i feel extremely awkward when she says those things now :')
I gave her a bit-more-than-friendly hug the other day and she laughed but I think she felt awkward :S

I don't know what to do

Should I confront her or keep it my secret?
I don't want to lose her as a friend but its getting difficult

Anyone have any advice?
Thanks

[Bloody_Obsession]

Man, that is really deep and sounds really complicated. I wish I had some off the wall, totally amazing advice to lend, but I'm afraid I don't. In all honesty, the best I can do is give you a lame line... follow your heart. If it is your heart that has led you to her and what you feel is real, then I think you should let her know. Now, I'm not saying blurt it out at the top of your lungs. Sit her down and tell her how you feel but let her know right then and there that you do not want it to effect your friendship at all because from the way it sounds, you'd rather have her in your life as a friend then not at all. I'm so sorry that I couldn't be more helpful but if you want somebody to just talk to about it all, feel free to PM me. I'm always here to listen. I wish you the best.

-Sammie Jo

[LifeLoveLost.]

Thanks
Your support helps

[AmyIsLegit]

If she is your friend she will respect how you feel about her. I'd tell her. You never know, she COULD feel the same way. You just don't know; even if she has a boyfriend.

[randomperson]

I am a bisexual and have male and female friends. My Advice to you is that you should let her know how you feel. If you really are close friends she will either reject you very nicely saying she just doest feel the same way as you or she will feel the same way. either way if you are good friends you wouldn't entirely loose your friendship. But I know this is a hard thing and i don't want to make you upset I've been in that boat before and sometimes you just need to get over it if you don't want to make your friendship awkward. Im really sorry if that seems harsh but sometimes thats just how it is. It is a tough situation and I know that is hard. If you want to talk about what to say or want to talk about how it went afterwards feel free to send me a message.

[ChelseaSmile]

I would tell her.
Its hard to hide feelings like that, and they eventually come out anyways.
So why not rip it off like a band-aid eh?(:

You'll never know until you try!
And you don't want to spend the rest of your life thinking what could have happened if you told her.
I like to think,
Its better to live life with the regret of taking a chance
Than to live life wondering what could have been.

I hope it helps(:
Message me if you need anything(:
-Bryri

[MichWolverineFreak]

I think that you should tell her, but say your sorry if she feels uncomfortable since she has a boyfriend. Its risky though, she might not be ready for that though. If your really lucky, though, she might start looking at you back

[come by rescue me]

i think the first thing you need to do is speak to her about your own sexuality first to see how she reacts and how she feels towards it. i dont think you shiould jump straight in and tell her how you feel as it may catch her off guard and make it very awkward in your relationship.
if you know she is happy with her boyfiend do you want to come inbetween them?, it may hurt her as well as yourself and it isnt a nice position to be put in.
i think that you need to think carefully about how you would tell her how you felt if u decided that was something that would like to do, but before you do take into account everything like your friendship, her realtionship with her boyfriend and what would happen afterwards.
i hope this helped you.