big ole question mark

[annalibelle]

I think Im questioning, but Im afraid to tell people? how can I do it in a way to suggest that I am in fact questioning, and not have people assume I am "actually" saying I am lesbian or bisexual? some people in my life will jump to the conclusion that if you have to question, you must be an alternative sexuality. (nothing wrong with that but i honestly dont know yet) also my parrents think of homosexuality as a thing " made up by white people" they might tollerate it in others, but they think it is evolutionarily impossible ("bc homosexual couples cant have children naturally, so this is a
bad evolutionary trait"supposedly)I have a somewhat boyfriend too, and he is a bit ignorant. he is the kind of guy who sees nothing wrong with using the word gay as an negative adjective. everytime I go to a gay straight alliqnce meeting he tells me to "stay hetero for him" how do i make him understand even if I realize im bisexual/ alternitive it wont make a difference in our relationship?

[Strife]

Hello.
Personally, I don't know if I would tell anyone until I was completely sure. But it is your decision of course. You could start out by telling only a few people, either the ones that are closest to you or the ones that would be the most understanding. Carefully explain it to them that you are not sure yet, but you are questioning your sexuality. Be completely honest and hopefully they will support you. I can't think of any other way, sorry!
Test the waters with your somewhat boyfriend by asking him how he feels about bisexuality. Maybe he's more accepting of that than of homosexuality?

[Loving Linux Penguin]

I'm the same age as you and I don't know what I am, it will come with time for both of us I'm sure. Yeah honestly the only way I can think of is to tell them that you're questioning your sexuality. There's absolutely nothing wrong with any sexuality though, so no matter what others think, be proud of who you are

[annalibelle]

Thanks to the both of you ^^
I might make it clearer to say that I'm thinking I'm bisexual, but I'm not completely sure yet. Approching the bf first is easier, but he might just think I'm a) not attracted to him any more, or b) dumping him for a girl.

[we3monks]

I'd say definitely be sure about yourself first before anything else. As for telling people, close friends or people that you truly trust would be best. Another idea to possibly present to someone who would say that your feelings are made-up, which I have also said to people on occasion is this. "You say that what I'm feeling is made up or even fake. If I really didn't believe that my feelings are genuine, why would I be putting up with the abuse, scrutiny and hatred to prove otherwise?"