should i tell her???

[faded_tears]

when i think about it now i have always had crushes on men and women....throughout the years i think i have just pushed it away and tried to igorne it completly. Although earlier this year i began to acknowledge and begin to accept it yay lol. it was around the time i met Shiv, a very beautiful bisexual friend......although i thought she was amazing from day one....i didn't make a move. then 3 months or so ago she got a new boyfriend, it was differcult cause as much as i was happy for her, i loved her and wanted her mine. anyway we are a lot closer friends now then what we were before, and we hang out quite often. i am really asking you guys wheather to tell her i love her or not? i think she might now but i am not sure..... i wouldnt want things to be akward or her boyfriend to suddenily hate me or anything. i dunno what to do :-(

[Soliloquy]

Hi there!

I'm glad to hear that you're becoming more comfortable with your sexuality! I understand how confusing it can be when you first realize that you are not exactly 'straight.' I know that knowledge had to sit with me for quite some time before I finally came to terms with it. So good for you!

However, if your friend is in a relationship at the moment, I would advise against telling her how you feel. Like you said, her boyfriend may not take kindly to the news. It could not only cause you hassle in the future but also possible relationship complications for your friend. Plus, it might be confusing for her. If you are going to tell her, I would wait until she is out of the relationship first. I understand that it can be incredibly painful to see someone you truly care about with another person, but remember, sometimes when we love someone, we have to let them go and do what makes them happy. If your friend seems to be content with her boyfriend, I would leave the situation be for now.

Take care!

[teen spirit]

I totally agree! You would not want to compromise your friendship with her entirely so it is my opinion as well to just wait until that relationship dissolves and therefore the time will be better suited. Right now, just appreciate her being in your life as your amazing friend...if it is meant to be (between the two of you), it will naturally happen on its own without any awkwardness. I know how difficult it may be to love from a distance but you have to ask yourself one important question...What will this do to our friendship? and are you willing to take the chance of not having her in your life at all? Love has a way of finding its way, all on its own-it is the strongest force of all our emotions (yes, it even outweighs anger! lol...) You said that you think that she already knows how you feel? If that is the case, then it just may be that she (for now) needs time to find herself in her relationship with her boyfriend to discover if "he" is really who she wants....just my opinion again....
I too think it is fantastic that you are more comfortable with your sexuality! That needs to be recognized for sure!

[faded_tears]

thanks guys for you posts........they were really helpful!

peace out xx