update.

[haveXhope]

So I posted a thread on here a couple of days ago, talking about the guy who left me because he wants to experiment with other guys. We're still friends, as I said in the other post.
I also stated that I am in the same boat, with questioning my own sexuality. I'm not sure if it's because I'm scared of men, (because I was raped, many many times) or because it's my true feelings. I've felt a strong connection to this one girl. Let's call her, L. L has became my best friend and she is always there for me. She's always flirting with me, but I've always taken it as a joke. She is too bi-sexual, or I think. I've kept this "liking girls" thing a secret. I just told her what was going on, like literally five minutes ago.
She told me I should try being with a girl.
Now she is trying to think of who I should be with or whatever. How can I tell her that I really think I may want her?
Despite my feelings for her, I still feel as though I'm in love with my ex-boyfriend, J. Is this normal?
I feel like I'm torn between two. It's just not fair. I've always denied my feelings, and hid them, how can I come to accept who I really am or who I'm really not?
Please help. X.X

[JustSomeone]

I'm not really an expert at this type of thing but you know, if she's suggesting you be with a girl, maybe she's trying to drop hints your way

[Jaguar]

I think you should just come out and tell her she's the one you want to try being with. Her flirting with you probably means she's open to it.

Yes, it's possible to love two people at the same time. A lot of people do. The problem comes with jealousy, and people usually have more trouble with being jealous of someone's love than jealous about sex. Talk it over with both of your friends and get their feel about it. Since your bf is talking about experimenting with another guy, I don't think he'll have a problem with it. That leaves her, and she knows you have a bf.

[Astrael]

I actually know someone who did the same kind of thing. She would be dating a guy and IF he was okay with it, she would date a girl too. If he wasn't, she wouldn't. Since your bf is going through the same thing, maybe bring this up with him. As long as you're both comfortable with both you and your other half dating someone else at the same time, it should work out fine.