am i bi?

[amateur_shaman]

ok in 4th grade my first crush was a dude (and im a dude), ok i didnt act on it though (how could i anyways? i was in 4th grade), well fast forward to summer 2005: these boys came over to my house to play in the pool , we were swimming, and then when it was time to get changed in our regular clothes, i was hoping we would get to change in the same room, we didnt however. i was 12 then and was just starting puberty. since then it has been only girls i have liked, in fact the concept of a hairy legged man really disgusted me. however right now i am 17 and have had lack of success with women, so i decided to maybe try to explore and see if i am bi and should also maybe seek a gay relationship. so today i fantasized about guys butts, i was not doing anything sexual with them, but it was guys butts, the guys in my mind were asian or smaller or feminine men, because im still not attracted in any slight bit to a big muscular man. i was able to "finish" the fantasy because i liked it so much. however it was a lot harder to enjoy this fantasy than it is for me to enjoy thinking about a female. id say im significantly more attracted to females, but when i see or imagine a nude male (as long as the male is not highly masculine) , i may get slightly amused, and if i think about it i can get more amused.

[taylalatbh.]

No one can really say whether your bi or not. It something for you to discover in your lifetime. You might be interested in guys, and might some time in the future explore that and be with another man. You're still young and you don't need to label yourself straight, gay or bi. Just because you're not having luck with women, doesn't mean that you need to see about being with men. You might just need to improve your skills when communicating with women.

If you have an interest in men, be it big or small. Look for the person, and not think about what's down their trousers. Once you find the right person who you are attracted to, regardless of their gender, you can explore your sexuality and see what feels right for you.

Like I said before, you're still young and you don't need to label yourself now, or if at all. Just experiment and explore and do things you feel comfortable with. You'll soon figure out how you want to live your life.

Good luck and take care

[wonderbread]

It is not for anyone here to tell you that you are bi. That comes with discovering who you are as a person yourself.
If you want to really know for sure if you are then explore those options out there in the world by dating men and seeing how it goes for you. And for this I wish you the best of luck if you do this. Not only is it taking big risks but it means your being brave.

On the other hand, you can fantasize about the same sex and not be bisexual. It is normal. A lot of girls are completely straight but love to think about girl on girl and watch girl on girl. It is the same for guys. You may fall into this.

But if you want to know for sure then I would suggest getting out there and dating in the gay community.

I wish you all the best of luck on finding who you are.