Still in love...

[LittleFish]

So. My best friend and I started getting a lot closer last year. Before that, we didn't know each other that well, but being together all the time really gave us a chance to connect. I developed a huge crush on her right from the beginning, and even now, a year later, it's so much stronger though a bit calmer than before. I think

I want to tell her, but I'm not sure if I should. We both love each other so much. I've told her she's the best friend I've ever had, and she's told me the same. I'm just not sure if I should tell her that I like her as more than a friend. I don't even know what her sexual orientation is, and I'm not sure how to ask. She knows that I'm interested in women. I figure if she were interested in me, she would have said something by now. Regardless of whether she's interested, though, I really do want to tell her. I'm just not sure if I should. Advice?

[we3monks]

Well I can understand the feelings your having, I've been in that same situation before, an actually still am. Over the years I found that my likings of people would come and go but there was always one that would stay, and that happened to be one of my best friends. When I had first met him I had no feelings for him but as time went on and we became better friends, I noticed that I started to think about him all the time. Eventually I realized that I had fallen for him. For awhile I hesitated to say anything for fear of what might happen. Eventually the constant thinking and wondering was on the point of seemingly driving me to madness. I finally got up the courage to say how I felt, and while he didn't feel the same way he was ok with my having feelings for him.

For you I truly believe that if she is a true friend to you, your feelings, whether she returns them or not she will still be your friend. If she does, the great if not, then you must come to terms with your feelings so that they will not continue to bother you. Which if it happens is probably the hardest thing to do in this entire situation. Personally I've never really been able to let go. It's been 3 years since I had told him how I felt and while the feelings aren't always there, they have never truly left me. I don't wish to make it as if things will turn out badly, I'm just saying that if you are willing to take the "risk" so to say, you have to be ready for whatever outcome is possible.

I pray that whatever you do that you follow your heart, and that it works out for you. If you want to know anything more, or have anything to ask, I'll check back periodically or you can just pm me or whatnot. -b